Matt
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I was with my ex for just under two years. She is great, and we have a cordial post-breakup relationship to this day. Her family have, on the whole, been great to me. That includes The Sister - who, as much as I used to whine about her, is actually a pretty ok-kinna-girl.
The Sister likes it the old man. She is 30. Her last bf was 49 (and broke and useless, but kind of a young 49 if that is at all possible). He was replaced by a 54 year old with kids almost as old as his new gf. He is definitely not young-seeming in anyway. He creeps me out to be completely honest.
Anyhow, he arrived on the scene shortly before I departed, so none of my business basically.
So on Tuesday I have a business meeting, and I learn that he is the boss of one of my potential clients - essentially he would be the guy paying the bills, despite the fact that I would have nothing to do with him. In the course of conversation I learn my ex's sister far from his only girlfriend floating around this long narrow land of money-chasin-hotties, and, not only that, he is, ostensibly, still married.
His wife lives in Thailand with their kids. He tells it as a virtual divorce with paperwork remaining...but the delays in paperwork apparently are because...there is no paperwork. They're in a distance thing, and when he heads to Thailand, it is, apparently, all happy families again.
My ex is, apparently, pretty fond of the guy. "He treats me like a sister" seems to be her position on the matter.
So.....if you were me...would you tell the ex about her sister's boyfriends proclivities? It pretty much has business consequences for me (hard to imagine I would win the client after revealing that), but at the same time, both her and her sister are Good Peoples, and her sister really doesn't deserve the treatment she is unknowingly getting.
The Sister likes it the old man. She is 30. Her last bf was 49 (and broke and useless, but kind of a young 49 if that is at all possible). He was replaced by a 54 year old with kids almost as old as his new gf. He is definitely not young-seeming in anyway. He creeps me out to be completely honest.
Anyhow, he arrived on the scene shortly before I departed, so none of my business basically.
So on Tuesday I have a business meeting, and I learn that he is the boss of one of my potential clients - essentially he would be the guy paying the bills, despite the fact that I would have nothing to do with him. In the course of conversation I learn my ex's sister far from his only girlfriend floating around this long narrow land of money-chasin-hotties, and, not only that, he is, ostensibly, still married.
His wife lives in Thailand with their kids. He tells it as a virtual divorce with paperwork remaining...but the delays in paperwork apparently are because...there is no paperwork. They're in a distance thing, and when he heads to Thailand, it is, apparently, all happy families again.
My ex is, apparently, pretty fond of the guy. "He treats me like a sister" seems to be her position on the matter.
So.....if you were me...would you tell the ex about her sister's boyfriends proclivities? It pretty much has business consequences for me (hard to imagine I would win the client after revealing that), but at the same time, both her and her sister are Good Peoples, and her sister really doesn't deserve the treatment she is unknowingly getting.