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The State of Black Tie: Your Observations

shootsfilmwithbullet

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New question.

I've heard some say that you should not wear the WDJ to a black tie wedding. At least if you are only a regular uest. Because only the bride should wear white.

Thoughts?
The black tie/optional weddings I’ve been to have had no-one except the groom/father of the groom in a White DJ. But that’s just me and my farmer friends. It’s certainly not wrong, but you’re likely to attract more attention than most other men, and potentially more attention than the groom. Whether you want to do that or not is your call.
 

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Shoots -- that's kinda what I was thinking.

I'd only go WDJ unless I could make sure I'd have some company among the other regular wedding guests.
 

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The black tie/optional weddings I’ve been to have had no-one except the groom/father of the groom in a White DJ. But that’s just me and my farmer friends. It’s certainly not wrong, but you’re likely to attract more attention than most other men, and potentially more attention than the groom. Whether you want to do that or not is your call.
Could be ‘cultural’ as well. For me, if prerequisites are met for a white dinner jacket (warm weather, black tie on the invite, event after 6pm), I wouldn’t even assume to be the only regular guest there wearing a white dinner jacket. Although, to be fair most people over here would probably wear a rental, and might (have to) opt for all black.
I’m sure @Andy57 and @Butler will have thoughts on this.
 

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Could be ‘cultural’ as well. For me, if prerequisites are met for a white dinner jacket (warm weather, black tie on the invite, event after 6pm), I wouldn’t even assume to be the only regular guest there wearing a white dinner jacket. Although, to be fair most people over here would probably wear a rental, and might (have to) opt for all black.
I’m sure @Andy57 and @Butler will have thoughts on this.
Exactly!
 

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The black tie/optional weddings I’ve been to have had no-one except the groom/father of the groom in a White DJ. But that’s just me and my farmer friends. It’s certainly not wrong, but you’re likely to attract more attention than most other men, and potentially more attention than the groom. Whether you want to do that or not is your call.

I think this is a good answer.

Its not wrong to wear a white DJ. It fits the dress code. But you will likely stand out.
 

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Could be ‘cultural’ as well. For me, if prerequisites are met for a white dinner jacket (warm weather, black tie on the invite, event after 6pm), I wouldn’t even assume to be the only regular guest there wearing a white dinner jacket. Although, to be fair most people over here would probably wear a rental, and might (have to) opt for all black.
I’m sure @Andy57 and @Butler will have thoughts on this.
Thoughts on a white (actually ivory) dinner jacket? I pretty much wear mine whenever I feel like it, but, to be fair, most of the time the weather wear I live is on the warmer side. I'm about to head off to Southern Africa for a couple of weeks and my ivory dinner jacket is the only one I'm bringing along. I figure I'll be just inside the tropics most of the time, so an ivory jacket should be just fine.

I think a wedding is a somewhat different matter. If the invitation specifies black tie, then that means a black (or perhaps midnight blue) jacket. If you want to wear an ivory jacket (or beige or anything else), I believe you should check with the groom first. I've never been to such a wedding, so I have no actual experience of this, however.
 

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