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Met this chick and I practically screwed myself.

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by polo votarient, Feb 1, 2011.

  1. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Senior member

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    +1. Also, who the hell is Cody Linley?

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  2. willpower

    willpower Senior member

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    ok boys, i think we have laid into him enough...like i said in my last post, just learn the lesson and move on. The iRomeos know everything and will one day lose their virginities...but ya, just file it away as a 'don't act too needy' lesson and it'll pay for itself in the long run.


    iRomeos - lol
     
  3. fathergll

    fathergll Well-Known Member

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    Honestly. The impression I'm getting from this thread is that guys seem to think there is only ONE way to talk to girls.
    I think the impression you should get is there most certainly are ways NOT to talk to high value girls, and there are certain ways that you can go about it and have success. OP demonstrated one of the ways not to talk to hot girls. willpoweron page one demonstrated a way that one would have conveyed humor to her most likely, and she would have most likely responded positively to it instead of some pathetic "Awwwwww" comment.
    Not everyone is naturally confident. If they were we wouldn't have threads like "OMG i think i screwed up with this chick via text"
    Theres nothing bullshit about it. At its core its a guide on the traits that men who have a lot of success with women have. if you can successfully implement these traits into your life you will become more successful with women. We are not just talking about lines, its a lifestyle change. When guys in here are giving advice on what to say to her, its just giving the OP some statements that a guy who gets a lot of woman could very likely say. A guy who gets a lot of girls would never send an initial text like "So how long will I have to chase you before I can take you to dinner?" Thats not congruent with a guy who has a lot of women in his life. Right off the bat you're sending off red flags to her subconscious that you're not a catch. To hot girls that have 2500 facebook friends, you better at least come off as a catch initially. This girl has a busy life and has guys hitting on her everyday(Remember Chris Rock skit "You want some dick?" so she needs to weed out a lot of guys. So they look for social proof indicators like are other girls interested in him?--> is he saying things that indicate he doesn't have much going on in his life like "ill wait 3 months to take you to dinner". Why on earth would any guy with a fun field busy life wait 3 months to take a girl out for dinner when he doesn't even know her. What does that say about the guy ->Desperate -- and we already established that desperation is a universally unattractive quality in humans
    I agree you shouldn't put on an act. I'm not too into lame jokes myself but there sure isn't anything wrong with text messaging.
    Thats the point. A lot of guys don't know how to present themselves in an attractive manner. Therefore they need to understand the theory behind all of this and then try to change their lifestyle.
     
  4. willpower

    willpower Senior member

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    +1 /\\ The OP is obviously inexperienced and needs some guidelines on how to interact with women.
     
  5. Stazy

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    +1 /\\

    The OP is obviously inexperienced and needs some guidelines on how to interact with women.


    My point is that there is lots of room in between:

    Desperate

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    Both are equally pathetic in my opinion.
     
  6. Geoff Gander

    Geoff Gander Senior member

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    What the heck, I talk to chicks older than me and dont have a problem, talk to chick younger than me and dont have a problem, and now this girl my age I completly screw up?!?!
    First off, +1000 to all the posters who said to forget this girl. If I received texts from a girl like the ones you say you sent to her, I'd ignore her messages, too. I know your interest is real, but you need to accept that you put your foot in it. Walk away having learned the lesson. Second, you mentioned at least twice in this thread that you've talked with slightly older women with no issues. If they are interested, what's the big deal? You're 20, she's 24 (25, 26...). You're both still very young, and if she's attractive and you have a good time with her, enjoy it for God's sake! Don't focus on the age. Focus on the person and what they can offer you in a relationship.
     
  7. tagutcow

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    Tagut - you're funny as hell on this site, and probably are in person too. Just pick up the phone. Seriously. My stuttering-didn't-kiss-a-girl-till-I-was-nineteen-ass can do it, you can too. I know rejection sucks, but with rejection, oddly enough, comes confidence. Just my two cents. Granted, I look like Cody Linley, but still.....
    Well thanks. I'm thinking of starting a dedicated thread about this. IRL I have a pretty dry sense of humor that rears its head at fairly unexpected times. It's not something I turn on or off, and certainly nobody would describe me as a wild and crazy guy. As my emotional state has worsened over the years, it is possible I may have grown even more reserved, though I'm not 100% sure of that. I will say, however, that my problem has nothing to do with nervousness or insecurity. While I have many things weighing down on my shoulders, an inferiority complex isn't one of them. From what I read on the internet, having to gin up the confidence to talk to a woman is a huge thing for many guys, even guys who are considerably experienced than I am. What to actually say once you start talking is assumed to be a trivial thing. That's the problem with advice over the internet; everybody reduces your problems to the problems that are familiar to them, and everyone assumes that the particulars of your situation are the particulars of their situation ("When you go clubbing with your bros this weekend, try doing this…") That's why all the bro-y platitudes are of no use to me. "Girls like guys who are confident." Guys who are confident in what exactly? Confidence isn't a complete idea unto itself, it requires some outcome in which to be confident. Is confidence the confidence that when I ask a girl for her name, she'll tell me? Yes, of that I am fairly confident. Am I confident that I will be able to draw the conversation out much beyond introductions? No, not really. Am I confident in the fact that even when the conversation fails after 45 seconds, she will continue to stand by my side just to bask in my radiant tagutosity? Again, not realistically. "Act like you're not interested." Well geez, if she were an ugly dude I wouldn't even be making the effort. Seeing the stuff willpower wrote, and reading the transcripts people write of their conversations with women (all from SF, nobody ever talks to me about this stuff IRL), is just bewildering to me. There's no way I'd be able to BS my way through a conversation like that. I'll probably need SFers to compose some boilerplate, one-size-fits-all script I can use in every situation, that would keep anything requiring me to think on my feet to an absolute minimum. Even on OKCupid, I end up banging my head against the computer screen for half an hour trying to think of something- anything- to say. And yet so much of the advice is insulting at the same time. I overheard a guy telling abother guy , "Don't feel you have to agree with everything the woman says." Really? Guys have to be told not to necessarily with everything a woman says!?! And yet this is a guy who is still much, much better at initiating conversations than I am. I guess my problems are far more fundamental. Much of the the received wisdom on this subject seems both to be beneath me, and yet pitched over my head at the same time.
     
  8. Stazy

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    Lots going on in your post tagut...In terms of being confident I think that really means just playing up to your strengths. You have a dry sense of humor. Great. Use it. That's all it comes down to. If you don't have an outlet for your strengths than find one. If you're not comfortable going to clubs than take some arts classes, a public speaking course, join a bible study. Anything.

    I swear I'm the most awkward guy in a crowd but I know it's all in my head so I put myself in situations that are purposely challenging. Once you just do it you realize it's not that bad. Force yourself to introduce yourself. Not just to the cuties but to the old hags as well. Just work on getting comfortable being around people.
     
  9. willpower

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    My point is that there is lots of room in between:

    Desperate

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    Both are equally pathetic in my opinion.


    Completely agree. Mystery is a Halloween costume.
     
  10. tagutcow

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    Lots going on in your post tagut...In terms of being confident I think that really means just playing up to your strengths. You have a dry sense of humor. Great. Use it. That's all it comes down to. If you don't have an outlet for your strengths than find one. If you're not comfortable going to clubs than take some arts classes, a public speaking course, join a bible study. Anything.

    Yeah, sometimes I take salsa lessons on Saturdays, just not enough to be any good. I need to figure out more things to do. I tried going to some art things around here and it was just brutally lonely for me.

    I never got the hang of the whole clubbing thing. I am a disgrace to my Italian heritage.

    You wouldn't believe how many days a week I don't meet anyone at all. I get an average of maybe one phone call a week these days.

    Like I said, being uncomfortable isn't really my problem. In clubs where there's no pool table and nothing to do but mill around and socialize, I end up bored, then lonely, then angry.
     
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    My point is that there is lots of room in between:

    Desperate

    &



    Both are equally pathetic in my opinion.




    Clearly this entire thread is over your head if you think anyone has suggested this kid mimic Mystery.
     
  12. Stazy

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    Clearly this entire thread is over your head if you think anyone has suggested this kid mimic Mystery.
    Please differentiate between the advice in this thread and this video:
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  13. West24

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    yeah im with tagut. some of the advice is so ridiculous. you dont have to do anything! just say what you feel like (to an extent). change things around on her? like wtf. ive sent some of the most ridiculous texts and it just matters on the girl. some girls love stupid humour like mine, and some dont. the ones that dont its fine because during the date it would just be akward as hell. just be you and thats it. obviously some guys are akward as hell etc. but remember theres no rules with girls. ive picked up girls and they pretty much blew me off after, then three weeks later i get a text saying shes in bed lonely and i should come over etc. ive also had girls i picked up so on to me and then bam a week after you never hear from them again. thats life!
     
  14. fathergll

    fathergll Well-Known Member

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    Please differentiate between the advice in this thread and this video:



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    How does this suggest that anyone in this thread told the OP to mimic Mystery? I understand you were trying to be a smartass about all the "crap" advice that was given and you posted a picture of the most over the top/famous PUA guy out there as if that had to be your identity if the OP actually learned something about this subject.

    Funny you haven't disputed one thing I quoted you on in the previous page. Try working on that instead of trying to search for obscure Mystery videos on youtube.
     
  15. Matt

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    I'll probably need SFers to compose some boilerplate, one-size-fits-all script I can use in every situation, that would keep anything requiring me to think on my feet to an absolute minimum.

    I'm your man.

    That sounds like advice I would give. It's good advice. Lots of dudes just think 'if I disagree with her then she'll never like me'. It's true. They do. It's sad.
     
  16. Frostedbutts

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    Just a protip for anyone with no game like OP:

    A creepy sentence is still a creepy sentence whether you add a smiley face or not.
     
  17. kwilkinson

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    I'm your man.
    Take his advice!!!! Matt's advice is what got Hot Waitress to fuck me. Many times.
     
  18. Rambo

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    That sounds like advice I would give. It's good advice. Lots of dudes just think 'if I disagree with her then she'll never like me'. It's true. They do. It's sad.
    Wait. So you're advocating agreeing or disagreeing?
    Take his advice!!!! Matt's advice is what got Hot Waitress to fuck me. Many times.
    What was the advice?
     
  19. kwilkinson

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    What was the advice?
    TBH, I don't remember many specifics now, since it was way back in July. Mostly it was a couple of things to say or how to say it. What kind of shit to put up with but what kind of stuff to tell her is stupid, etc. To challenge her on bullshit instead of listening to it. Just basic stuff like that. All his advice worked so well that he said he'd created a monster and changed his avatar to Cookie Monster for a while.
     
  20. Rambo

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    I need this advice Matt. Post up the specifics, wise Jedi Master, or shoot me a PM. I'm way too rusty.
     

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