Opinions on Synthetic Diamonds for an engagement ring

[random-adam]

Originally Posted by Gibonius

The emotional issue is still there, of course, but you'd have to know your woman to decide if that's an issue. Most will not like it, and it's probably best not to test those waters on an e-ring.

/thread.

My girl got a .75ct ruby in a platinum setting that the jeweler designed and cast for me. Beat the hell out of forking over for a diamond that she didn't want anyway; she told me in advance that she'd prefer a colored gemstone.

Upshot: I got to invest in a custom semi-bezel setting from which armageddon itself will not dislodge the stone. We know of too many ladies with dainty pronged settings that don't get worn because they're too delicate.

 

[cptjeff]

Another option would be a vintage ring. My friend's (former) girlfriend has mentioned on many occasions that she would prefer it, since the simpler cuts of older diamonds don't make them as amazingly shiny, something that she wasn't a fan of. You do get the emotional issue about somebody having to sell off grandma's old ring or one from a failed marrage if you go that route though.

 

[MasterOfReality]

If the price is comparable, i'd rather get the natural diamond.

At least you know some effort has gone into mining and cutting it.

 

[Matt]

small real > large fake.

 

[rennavate]

What I don't get is the ridiculous amounts of money people spend on rings... three months salary? **** that. My friend just got engaged a few weeks ago and spent $8000 on the engagement ring... that's money they could've saved and put toward the house him and his fiance will need... or ****, even the wedding itself! What's wrong with like a $2000 ring?

 

[MasterOfReality]

^^^ either way, marriage is just a big industry. You will get screwed somewhere along the line with the price of things.

Go in for the cake. Oh for a wedding huh, 80% price jump.

Ditto for reception places.

Same with photography - I remember State Government places in Sydney demanded a registration fee to be paid before wedding photos could be taken on their grounds.

Price of the ring is all relative - I spent close to that amount but I have my financial affairs in order. No way I would spend 3 months salary on the bloody thing though, I draw the line somewhere.

I had the old 3 month thing told to me by a mate who got married a few years ago. He actually believed that garbage and went out and bought a $20k ring. Madness.

 

[rennavate]

Yeah, I realize that the entire marriage industry is just out to get your money.

But just a question — even if you have your finances in order, isn't spending $8000 just to wear on someone's finger kind of a waste? And why does she get that and guys get a few-hundred dollar wedding band. Doesn't seem fair to me.

 

[MasterOfReality]

True, at least my fiance returned the favour by purchasing a Tag Grand Carrera Calibre 8 as a gift. So at least thats something in return

She reckons she had it all planned as soon as I proposed to her. I had no idea about it until she handed me the wrapped box.

My mate got sweet **** all from his missus - she is as wide as a house and goddamn useless as well.

 

[rennavate]

Well that's a beautiful watch, and a nice gesture from the missus. Is it common for the woman to get the guy something too? I think I'd want that, personally.

 

[MasterOfReality]

Cheers, it did take me by surprise. I was actually looking at the watch at one stage and she must have noticed.

I don't think its all that common - I certainly didn't expect it and its not done in our family.

She reckons she got the idea from her cousin who bought her now husband a watch in return for a ring.

 

[rennavate]

No doubt. I know it's not customary, and probably happens infrequently, but it makes me think. Why should the woman get an expensive thing and the guy nothing? Doesn't seem fair, you know? Just something to ponder, I guess.

 

[apropos]

Originally Posted by gfreeman

No doubt. I know it's not customary, and probably happens infrequently, but it makes me think. Why should the woman get an expensive thing and the guy nothing? Doesn't seem fair, you know? Just something to ponder, I guess.
It isn't, and it's a vestige from a time where the ring would provide some form of security for a marriage that would likely involve her submission to you financially, sexually, & emotionally.

Which is why it's a litmus test for the so called 'modern' woman - a good one to sort the I-want-it-alls from the keepers.

 

[ter1413]

Synthetic=Fugazy!! Damm......rent Donnie Brasco!! Don't be like Lefty!

 

[MetroStyles]

Originally Posted by Matt

small real > large fake.

Goes for **** too.

 

[Dedalus]

Love is synthetic, a real diamond would be a lie.