You know what? I'm REALLY lonely.

[why]

Originally Posted by tagutcow

2old4thisshit/plzkthx/gspot

Let's hit up Scorpio's and get dem bitches!

Scorpio's didn't have many real 'bitches' last time I was there.

 

[crazyquik]

Originally Posted by VKK3450

WTF??

If you dont have friends GET OFF of SF and go meet people. Dont let this be your little online crutch full of virtual friendships.

K

I +1 this comment.

Go take a class at community college. It will get you off SF one to three times per weeknight, you'll meet a few people (maybe) and you'll learn an interesting skill like cake decorating, photography, artistic welding, etc.

I am g-d serious about that. You meet people, learn photography, and then you can leverage your photography into meeting new people by being the next Satorialist.

 

[longskate88]

Originally Posted by Brogue

Having a belief in God certainly changes your outlook. You should attend a church just to hang around people that believe there is more than this. I know, I know, "religion is the cause of horror" etc. etc. Ignore all of that. You can remain an atheist if you wish, but you need to be around non-atheists for a bit.

Wear nice clothes. Clothes make the man. You can get a good Merino white button-down at Target for 25 bucks. 3mm buttons, extra collar stays, and a good cut. Light khaki slacks. An attractive watch. Wear blingnacious shoes. Shoes will attract women. Not boring shoes. Maybe some spectators in tan and cream. And a good belt. Spend at least $50 on a good belt. Comb your hair. If you have hippie hair, cut it.

Find good places to hang out. Coffee shops, libraries, the gym, bookstores, dog parks, and just be happy being there. Do not pressure yourself to meet someone, have an adventure, etc. Instead, just be there, keep your chin up, walk with confidence, smile at people, compliment their shoes, hat, etc., and not expect anything in return. Getting unlonely is a gradual process, not something that happens in a week.

Join an outdoors club, or a bike team, or a canoe/kayak group. If you are awkward or a late bloomer, the people in these clubs will not care, because you share a common interest. You are in their cohort.

Stay away from politics. Politics is meaningless. The cycle of things, the pattern, is fire, the mass spilling blood, and mayhem every three hundred years or so. How we get there is an asterisk.

Keep us posted.

I can walk into a Barnes&Noble and spot those guys all the time. They're too well-dressed, well-groomed, that you know they planned to come and look attractive. They're always looking around, not really reading whatever is in front of them. But ya know what, they're out there, and the OP sounds like he could use to do something

 

[longskate88]

Originally Posted by Brogue

Having a belief in God certainly changes your outlook. You should attend a church just to hang around people that believe there is more than this. I know, I know, "religion is the cause of horror" etc. etc. Ignore all of that. You can remain an atheist if you wish, but you need to be around non-atheists for a bit.

Wear nice clothes. Clothes make the man. You can get a good Merino white button-down at Target for 25 bucks. 3mm buttons, extra collar stays, and a good cut. Light khaki slacks. An attractive watch. Wear blingnacious shoes. Shoes will attract women. Not boring shoes. Maybe some spectators in tan and cream. And a good belt. Spend at least $50 on a good belt. Comb your hair. If you have hippie hair, cut it.

Find good places to hang out. Coffee shops, libraries, the gym, bookstores, dog parks, and just be happy being there. Do not pressure yourself to meet someone, have an adventure, etc. Instead, just be there, keep your chin up, walk with confidence, smile at people, compliment their shoes, hat, etc., and not expect anything in return. Getting unlonely is a gradual process, not something that happens in a week.

Join an outdoors club, or a bike team, or a canoe/kayak group. If you are awkward or a late bloomer, the people in these clubs will not care, because you share a common interest. You are in their cohort.

Stay away from politics. Politics is meaningless. The cycle of things, the pattern, is fire, the mass spilling blood, and mayhem every three hundred years or so. How we get there is an asterisk.

Keep us posted.

By the way, can an atheist do this effectively? Is there like a "skeptics day" where you might meet other atheists?

To the OP, there are always 'alternative' churches (I don't know the exact names, but the are non-denominational, my gf used to belong to one). Anyone know? Unitarians?

 

[VKK3450]

Having friends and a social life is not an entitlement. People have their own lives and relationships to deal with over seeking you out to bask in your friendship....

It's a ******* 2 way street. You need to go out and put effort into meeting and getting to know people, or you arent holding up your end of the bargain.

K

 

[Big Pun]

Originally Posted by VKK3450

WTF??

If you dont have friends GET OFF of SF and go meet people. Dont let this be your little online crutch full of virtual friendships.

K

+∞

Find yourself a hobby. And drink alot.