Huntsman
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Sometimes I read all this 'be desirable, but don't be interested,' or 'be interested, but don't be too interested,' or, 'just ignore her to make her think you're not interested to maker her show interest' stuff and shake my head. Part of that, of course, is that "what women want" is not this one set of confusing behaviors and rules, but is as varied as people vary. It may also be that the type of women I find myself interested also have little patience for all of that reverse psychobabble.
There is not just one way to act cool and confident; being "above" her is not the only way (and honestly, one I find distasteful). Honesty and genuine interest is a display of confidence, too -- because you open yourself to the possibility of being shot down on the spot, which most men so desparately try to skirt around. As long as you're reasonably not creepy, just ask her out again. If she says no, you know where you stand (ok, someone will say that then she is playing with you, which would make me not interested at that point). If she says yes, well, your day is brighter. Beats all this hand-wringing and agony with a stick, though, no?
~ H
There is not just one way to act cool and confident; being "above" her is not the only way (and honestly, one I find distasteful). Honesty and genuine interest is a display of confidence, too -- because you open yourself to the possibility of being shot down on the spot, which most men so desparately try to skirt around. As long as you're reasonably not creepy, just ask her out again. If she says no, you know where you stand (ok, someone will say that then she is playing with you, which would make me not interested at that point). If she says yes, well, your day is brighter. Beats all this hand-wringing and agony with a stick, though, no?
~ H