I'm with Huntsman, do yourself a favor and skip all the bullshit and ask her out on a real date. That will tell you right then and there where you stand and you can decide if you still want to waste your time. too late for that, she's gone. planned dates are lame anyway - a big hassle. spontaneous is better, which means seizing the moment which OP FAILED to do big time. best thing for OP is loosen up a bit around girls, be more cheeky on chicks you're not even interested in, and that will put in you the right frame for the ones you do like. it's the CLICK.