BlackShoes
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The number of men that advocate being a complete ***** on entrance to the matrimonial club is surprising.
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The number of men that advocate being a complete ***** on entrance to the matrimonial club is surprising.
I would call ceding your own wishes, not to mention taking a financially deleterious decision, all to keep your partner's expectations from being dented, being a *****.
That's one thing Im really dreading.. being the center of attention. I don't mind being the center of attention if I'm telling a story or working a crowd, but an intimate moment where I'm getting married is not one of them. That's why that part is being done as quickly as humanly possible.
I hope y'all realize that 20 years only the very rich spent this type of money on weddings. This is just a fad.
Interesting topic as I am going throught the same thing right now. Fiance and I are modest people in general. We decide to get married, she tells me right off that her family doenst have much money. I being mister BSD was like, oh if we keep it modest, I will pay for it. I figured on 15K, 5 from me, 5 from her parents 5 from mine. Well, now we are sitting closer to 20+K and her parents are giving us, maybe 1500. and my parents, I decided shouldnt have to foot the bill either, so they are doing the rehersal, paying for the booze and a the few 'extra' guests they wanted. So now its all my bonus, her bonus, tax return, commissions, and I still have to dip into my pocket. Its all we fight about, as I feel terribly disrespected by her parents (1. Did you not think your daughter was ever going to get married 2. is it really necessary to buy all new kitchen appliacnes while telling us you have no money for the wedding? Even if you financed them, couldnt you wait till after the wedding 3. Wait, did you just buy a new motorcycle? 4. how much did you just spend on xmas gift?) I really like her parents, they are great people, but this money thing is not my fight, yet I feel the pain from it. So, all that said, we had a bit of a come to jesus about the wedding (not getting married) last week as we had to give another deposit. We decided that we were dammed if we do and dammed if we didnt. We were too far down the rabbit hole (already sent out save the dates, etc..) to cancel, and if we did cancel we would always regret not going through with something we really wanted, but if we do have the wedding we would always be upset at the amount of money we spent on it. In conclusion (forgive me I have been off for a couple of days), if given the chance to do this again, I would forgo the wedding and just do something small and intimate with the bridal party, and first round of family. ALWAYS REMEMBER ITS ABOUT THE MARRIAGE AND NOT THE WEDDING!!! people lose sight of that pretty quick on both sides and thats what gets a lot of people in trouble. A lot of good relationships get strained during this process and I know a friend of mine who actually called the wedding off about a month out and ended the relatioship because the wedding planning basically broke them apart. And dont get me started on registering!
For 30k, I'd rather be the center of attention at Rubinacci. Just sayin'
Of course, things have a way of balancing out, because cash in red envelopes is the traditional gift, and its pretty bad form to not give enough to pay for what you expect your head cost to be, which is easily a few hundred dollars. Also, the man's family traditionally pays. .