To Happily Married People:

[Eason]

All two of you: How long did it take, from meeting your wife, for the thought to enter your mind that you knew she was the right one?

 

[itsstillmatt]

Probably a week, maybe less, but we waited six years to actually get married.

 

[thekunk07]

met when i was 15, she 16.

fucked around off and on.

got together for good on my 21st birthday. been together ever since.

married at 23. kind of on whim but it turned out great.

 

[Get Smart]

Originally Posted by iammatt

Probably a week, maybe less, but we waited six years to actually get married.

similar. it didnt take too long to know, but we waited 8 years before finally tying the knot

 

[globetrotter]

2 to 3 weeks.

 

[thekunk07]

to the original question, kind of always thought we'd wind up together from weeks after we met but i had also dated a much older woman in between that i had resigned to being with for the long haul.

strange thing is my wife and this woman were the only two women i was truly mad for and they look very much alike and are great and awful in almost the exact same ways.

 

[1BNY23]

10 years...high school sweet hearts, couple of breaks (college and grad school). Only after did I wise up and realize she was the one.

 

[wiscogooner]

I knew after a couple weeks

 

[grimslade]

I knew very quickly. Weeks probably. It would be another four years before we married, however.

EDIT: Let me add this, however: Marriage is a decision. It is something you decide to do. It is not something that happens to you. And staying married and in love is likewise a decision you undertake, not something experienced passively.

 

[Eason]

That's pretty interesting to note. I met a girl about 12 days ago, and we both fell madly in love with eachother. It's the first time it ever happened to me like that, and there's a lot of things about her that make her compellingly special- it's the first time I ever thought about wanting to spend the rest of my life with someone so surely. I don't plan to say anything about it for a while.

 

[itsstillmatt]

Originally Posted by grimslade

I knew very quickly. Weeks probably. It would be another four years before we married, however.

So, a couple weeks of stalking, a couple years in jail, and then a couple years of courtship? How romantic.

EDIT: Let me add this, however: Marriage is a decision. It is something you decide to do. It is not something that happens to you. And staying married and in love is likewise a decision you undertake, not something experienced passively.

Jokes aside, this is very good advice, yet nobody takes it, and everybody ends up learning this lesson in a somewhat painful way. There is a lot of work every day, even in the very best marriages.

 

[chorse123]

We met when we were pretty young, so we'd been together for a few years before I knew knew. We married a few years later, having been together for about five and a half years.

 

[globetrotter]

Originally Posted by Eason

That's pretty interesting to note. I met a girl about 12 days ago, and we both fell madly in love with eachother. It's the first time it ever happened to me like that, and there's a lot of things about her that make her compellingly special- it's the first time I ever thought about wanting to spend the rest of my life with someone so surely. I don't plan to say anything about it for a while.


just a note - didn't you think that the last one was "the one"

I dated a few hundred girls, and noone was ever the "one" until I met my wife. (although I did propose to one, but that was just because she was really hot and I was stupid)

 

[Eason]

I didn't think the last one was the one, at least not in the same way. I just resigned to myself that she would be good enough to marry- she wasn't.

 

[rdawson808]

Two dates separated by about a week to determine I didn't want to date anyone else. Another couple months to ask her about moving in together, which was tantamount to asking her to marry me. I wasn't going to move in together if we weren't that committed.

Now every day that passes convinces me more that I made the right decision.


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