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Our wedding was very minimalist. As in the two of us and two close friends for our witnesses. One of the best moves we ever made.
As a young man I was left out of a cousin's wedding (no one under 16 invited) and I have neither forgiven this couple or had a civil interaction with them since^^
My wife has a really huge and close family, so if we wanted to invite people close to us, it was going to be a pretty big event. We did a lot of comparison shopping, didn't serve liquor, had catering from a taco truck, and spent about $15K, iirc, for about 250 people. I thought it turned out really wonderfully. I was really glad that I invited the people I did, and that we focused on making it fun, and not on making it some wedding planner's idea of "classy." Because frankly, the classiest weddings are like white text on a black background: simple and focused on celebrating two families coming together and the love of two people who want to share their lives with each other. The way the wedding industry sees classiness is, imo, supremely tacky. On the other hand, if you're rich (we're not, and our families are far from it), then maybe you might as well pay other people a lot of money to do the thinking/worrying for you.
1) make the guest list as big as you can afford.
I think a live band is cooler, I was going to hire some high school or college kids to play some classic ensembles. I've been to weddings where friends make the playlist then they hook up all the equipment to their computer and it worked out fine and almost free.2) spend extra money on a good DJ
Definitely agree here.3) pick a cool venue. Doesnt ahve to be some fancy banquet hall. think outside of the box.
Yeah, cash bars are tacky. I was at a wedding once at a hotel where the open bar had a $10k cap. I didn't get a single free drink!! Just pick up a bunch of wine in bulk from a winery or somewhere and hire some cousin to serve it out.4) open bar is a must
Agreed, plus the cookie cutter wedding guys will be kind of cheesy. This isn't 2005, people actually have to think to make money.5) get a good photographer, but dont be afraid to think outside the box on that too. The 'wedding' guys are expensive, but ask around for a good young photographer with a great eye. There is a guy I know, he is like 22-23, and takes great pictures. I have seen some of his wedding stuff and its unreal. he will bring a bunch of his younger 'colleagues' charge you half the price adn take some great stuff. Its great to have some good 'who was there, what were we doing shots', but what you really want is that one shot, the money shot, you put up in your office, etc....
I think a quality buffet is the way to go. I have to disagree that people don't remember what they ate. I've heard people complain about the food at weddings all the time. Make it tasty and plentiful, not an easy to find this combo.5) save money by skimping on food. What!?!? seriously, in two years, no one will remember what they ate at your wedding. no one will care about the chairs you had, or how many stupid ceremonies you stopped the fun for. Have a buffet style, smaller amount of food, that gets replenished throughout the night.
All in all we've spent around 10k (maybe less).
I agree with the idea that food is very important. A small section of your guests will those very close friends who will always be chatting and dancing, but a lot of the other guests (especially if they've travelled far to join) will truly enjoy the hospitality shown through a nice dinner, good service and a pleasant decor.