How do you handle rejection?

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Originally Posted by merkur

How do you handle rejection? What's the best way to do it gracefully? What do you say to a girl after being rejected before you part ways?

booty call

 

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Originally Posted by merkur

Thanks. I just wanted to know what to say after being rejected. I figured that going all silent on a girl and then walking away awkwardly would be kind of weird.

if you want something to say, just look at her puzzled and go "does that usually work? You must get hit on by some lame guys"

 

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Originally Posted by Flursheim

The last time it happened to me, I surprised myself by asking her why she said no, so that I could learn from it and move on, hopefully a tad wiser. It caught her by surprise but she did tell me her reason.

I also recommend this, because in my experience, the reasons for rejection are often not what you may initially think. Also, since you have already been rejected you don't really have anything more to lose by asking for the reason. In some cases, you may actually be able to change the reason and thus not being rejected after all--or at least not for the same reason another time.

For example, if you approach a girl in a bar, she might not be willing to talk with you because she is not interested in being "picked up" by some random (drunk) guy looking for a one night stand. Instead, she might actually be interested in going on a date some other time, or she may just be in a bad mood. The confusion can of course often be avoided if you are clear about your intentions as early as possible.

Anyway, whatever the reason, don't spend much time thinking about rejections. They are a natural part of life, and as with everything else, it's a numbers game. In the long run, rejection happens less often that you might expect, and when it does, it's hardly ever as embarrassing as you feared.