Incman
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Brief info about myself: 18 years old, first year university, good grades, horrible social life, extroverted once i start talking to someone, but I find it completely impossible to go up to someone and start a conversation.
Brief summary of the evening:
Normally I don't leave my house except for school and work, but I've been working on my social life and trying to change that. However, it's been difficult. I saw a page on facebook for a frathouse kegger, and I texted a friend and asked if he wanted to go. He said sure. Now normally I wouldn't go to something like that, but because I was going with a friend I figured it would be alright.
So we go there, and there's something like 200 people crammed into this frathouse, and everyone is essentially in their own groups having a good time. I was intimidated to say the least, but I decided to start the drinks flowing to get a buzz going and see if it would help my shyness. I was semi-drunk, and there were tons of people everywhere, but I still couldn't bring myself to go up to anyone and just talk. I have no problem talking to people even if I just barely know them, but I can't go up to someone out of the blue and start a conversation. I just feel so self conscious in situations like that.
I talked to a couple people (they initiated it) while we were in line for the washroom, but then right after I finished it was right back to the wall to stand with my friend.
I know I'm gonna get a million responses saying "Oh, just go up to people and say hi", but the whole point of this thread is that I find it very hard to do that. It seems like most other people were in groups of their own friends talking and having a good time, and I find it very hard to go up to a group like that and say anything.
I would appreciate any advice you guys have for me, because I want to make the most out of my university career. As much as my actions may seem to the contrary, I don't want to be a wallflower for the rest of my life.
Many thanks in advance.
Brief summary of the evening:
Normally I don't leave my house except for school and work, but I've been working on my social life and trying to change that. However, it's been difficult. I saw a page on facebook for a frathouse kegger, and I texted a friend and asked if he wanted to go. He said sure. Now normally I wouldn't go to something like that, but because I was going with a friend I figured it would be alright.
So we go there, and there's something like 200 people crammed into this frathouse, and everyone is essentially in their own groups having a good time. I was intimidated to say the least, but I decided to start the drinks flowing to get a buzz going and see if it would help my shyness. I was semi-drunk, and there were tons of people everywhere, but I still couldn't bring myself to go up to anyone and just talk. I have no problem talking to people even if I just barely know them, but I can't go up to someone out of the blue and start a conversation. I just feel so self conscious in situations like that.
I talked to a couple people (they initiated it) while we were in line for the washroom, but then right after I finished it was right back to the wall to stand with my friend.
I know I'm gonna get a million responses saying "Oh, just go up to people and say hi", but the whole point of this thread is that I find it very hard to do that. It seems like most other people were in groups of their own friends talking and having a good time, and I find it very hard to go up to a group like that and say anything.
I would appreciate any advice you guys have for me, because I want to make the most out of my university career. As much as my actions may seem to the contrary, I don't want to be a wallflower for the rest of my life.
Many thanks in advance.