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Have you ever thrown everything out?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by Singlemalt, Sep 18, 2012.

  1. patrickBOOTH

    patrickBOOTH Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Beats trying to sell it to the picky, lowballing, assholes on B&S.
     
  2. JayJay

    JayJay Senior member

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    It was painful to donate all of my MTM suits, but it had to be done. No regrets because what I have now is much better, though not perfect.
     
  3. JLibourel

    JLibourel Senior member

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    I once in a long while will engage in a bit of culling, mostly to make room for new acquisitions. If I like an item of clothing, I don't see a need to get rid of it just because I haven't worn it recently.

    I did get rid of all my RTW suits in fairly short order. I would have kept my Corneliani pinstripe, but I took it to a local tailor of some renown to have the waist taken in and his people butchered it. It felt like a straitjacket so off to Goodwill it went.
     
  4. Reevolving

    Reevolving Senior member

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    Ebay?
     
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  5. Reevolving

    Reevolving Senior member

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    I cull once a year. Great feeling. The challenge is that once you have a solid SF approved closet, you can talk yourself into keeping anything (even if you don't wear it) I am finally getting to the point of tossing out stuff that was even tailored. Cutting deeper. I want to get to a point where the only things that are in my closet are things I could wear today with no hesitation.
     
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  6. hammerhead

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    I'm trying to do a purge now--went through one a year ago when started monitoring this site. Anyway----the concept of SF approved makes it tricky. I wish there was a list or shopping cart of stuff to choose and rebuild from. I went through a phase a few years back where I wore nice jeans, wingtips or allstars, and a black tshirt 50% the time and got the most compliments I've ever gotten. That said, I'm trying to get more advanced and stick to classic, simple, and a little vintage. Love the advice I get here, but I wish there was a roadmap to get better after a purge. Local menshop offers a personal shopper that I've thought about doing.... any luck on using them? He's a good guy (well respected on here actually it looks like too) and everything I've purchase from him I've been pleased with. Any ideas on if they are worth it?
     
  7. stupendous

    stupendous Senior member

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    Agree. it is a process. Sometimes part of the challenge is the patience required, really giving some thought to what you buy. If you buy the wrong thing, it could cost a bundle, then you lose money!

    You also have to be ruthless - that's what I tell my wife. If you haven't worn it, don't keep it for that day when you 'might' want to wear it again. Of course, no one can predict the future, but hey, if you have not worn it in six months, except for seasonal clothing, there must be a reason.

    I like what you said about getting the things you want tailored...tailored. Part of it is laziness, and part of it is making sure you go to someone who knows what to do and can execute.

    I once took an RLPL suit to the guy who takes in my shirts and shortens my trousers. He butchered the suit! And here, in Singapore, your options are, to sue (which is ridiculous and would cost more in terms of time and money than the suit is worth), to ask him to pay (ha! fat chance!). It was an expensive lesson, but now I only go to a 'real' tailor for alterations, even if it costs more.

    I just did that to a shirt I liked. The sleeves were just too short, and you could only wear it if you rolled up the sleeves so that no one could tell. Like I said above, you have to be ruthless - honest with yourself, which is not always easy.

    May I ask why you did that? Were there events in your life at the time? Just curious...how did you feel afterwards?

    I actually laughed when I read this, but it's true! I gave away those shoes to relatives and relatives of relatives. Charity begins at home etc. But you're right - some have more than others. But, c'mon, in reality, we only 'truly' need two sets of garments to alternate and one pair of footwear. Everything else is a 'want'.[​IMG]

    I am relatively new to SF, but I have read the following from several members here at SF - buy what makes you happy, or what looks good, and not get stuck with approved this or approved that (I'm paraphrasing, of course). There are general rules, I agree, and I'm big on being 'appropriate', but to strictly follow everyone of them to a T - too much time and effort. Moderation in all things.

    Regarding your question about a personal shopper - I assume he will charge extra? Reading the posts on this forum and asking questions works almost as well, in my opinoinion, and you get a multitude of perspectives, rather than just one. Good luck with however way you want to go!
     
  8. stupendous

    stupendous Senior member

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    Missed commenting on this in the last post. It does feel good, doesn't it? I think that, although we are consumers, and are bombarded with senosory input that makes us accumulate, in the end, our inner selves want it light and simple.[​IMG]
     
  9. gsugsu

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    I have normally made small semi-annual purges. If it is something i rarely wear, i don't need it. The process has been coupled with a move away from impulse buying and has resulted in a more carefully curated wardrobe. Plus the initial Men's Clothing Classified's "buy it because it is [insert brand name here] and it is [insert % here] off retail!" behavior peaked early and faded.

    But i am in the process of my first complete purge. It is motivated by practicality: getting to and maintaining a target weight for nearly two years and finally recognizing that RTW regular and many short jackets do not work for me. So all of it goes save for my shoes.

    Suits, jackets, ties and pents have been carefully replaced by bespoke because I am no longer willing to compromise on fit.

    All that is left is the decision on how to get rid of things. I still have a large number of relatively recent pieces that remain after the old stuff went straight to the bin. I just have to decide if it is worth it to sell them or better to donate them.

    Thoughts on the method of disposal? Or can a true purge happen only if you donate or throw it in the garbage bin?
     
  10. GBR

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    Regulalr culls are needed - fills the dustbin.
     
  11. Singlemalt

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    I know that feeling. Had a really nice red shirt that I really liked but it was one size too small in the collar and couldn't button it up properly when wearing a tie. I think that was also the first piece of clothing that got 'cut from the team'.
    Now that's taking it to the extreme. Everything else? (I'm getting ideas about job, city, wife, kids, car, phone...;) )
     
  12. Singlemalt

    Singlemalt Active Member

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    I'm actually quite surprised that so many people have done such a 'radical' change to their wardrobes. I didn't expect that. But after reading all these replies, I'm starting to look at my own...certain articles of clothing are starting to look nervous ;)
     
  13. Blackhood

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    For me it was part of a bigger life change. I realised that buying clothing and collecting clothing were two symptoms of depression. I had to make a concious choice that I would only own things that I wore instead of buying things for the thrill of owning something new.

    I then took the $1,000 a month odd that I was spending and put it towards experiences with my friends. Sometimes this "hobby", "habit" and "vice" of ours can slip into obsessive behaviour. The constant cull helps to alleviate this by routinely severing unhealthy attachments to garments that don't have a function.

    The question must always be "do I love wearing my clothes, or do I just love having them?"
     
  14. patrickBOOTH

    patrickBOOTH Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Same deal.
     
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    Been there and done that - in fact I am in the middle of a longer overhaul that will gradually replace my old RTW suits with MTM and bespoke items, over and above the seasonal purges of clothes that I just don't wear anymore. I have also come to realize that when everything fits and you really like the items, you get around on a much smaller wardrobe than when you have a lot of so-so items...



    This is something I also struggle with. There's a certain kick in buying a new clothing item and the bespoke process certainly does not give the same "quick fix" - when you have to wait a couple months to see the final product "instant gratification" no longer works. With bespoke it is more about the process rather than the end result (although that matters of course!) and that has takes time to get used to.
     
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    I opened the door to my apartment and told neighbors and passersby to take whatever they wanted and I had some nice stuff. I left the key with the super and bounced. Found another place and started all over again. You don't know how lightweight you feel when you have left everything behind.

    Another time, fresh off of a brief stint in jail I went to 145th street, bought a Carhartt jacket, Champion sweater, Levis and a pair of Vasque boots. Socks and drawers also. I changed in the store and threw out what I had on. Walked to the precinct to pick up my cellphone. My car, girl, job, apartment, clothes and all other possessions were behind me. All I had is a good amount in the bank and a blank slate. Shortly later a got a good job, met my wife, got the best place I've ever had and the car I always wanted. I am very fortunate.

    Sometimes it's good to just hit the reset button.
     
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  17. LeviMay

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    For me it was part of a bigger life change. I realised that buying clothing and collecting clothing were two symptoms of depression. I had to make a concious choice that I would only own things that I wore instead of buying things for the thrill of owning something new.
    I then took the $1,000 a month odd that I was spending and put it towards experiences with my friends. Sometimes this "hobby", "habit" and "vice" of ours can slip into obsessive behaviour. The constant cull helps to alleviate this by routinely severing unhealthy attachments to garments that don't have a function.
    The question must always be "do I love wearing my clothes, or do I just love having them?"

    True, and surprisingly eye-opening.
     
  18. patrickBOOTH

    patrickBOOTH Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Interesting. Whenever I have had depression I do the exact opposite. Feel I don't need anything and wither away.
     
  19. Fraiche

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    Thanks for sharing...I have the same problem.
     
  20. Putonghua73

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    Agreed. I don't have the same issue, or at least didn't until I joined SF. I think it's a mixture of carthasis i.e. the need to pause, take a deep, hard look at yourself as an individual, as well as the contemporary quick-fix solution to deep-rooted issues re: consumerism.

    I've spent a good amount of money this month, on dinner and drinks ("experiences") as a way of coping with my long-ass commute and stress and tribulations with the demands of my work at the moment. I've spent a long time saving, so see the last few months as a little bit of release - not just improving my wardrobe and taking more care in what wear, but also understanding what suits me today i.e. where I am in my life.

    Given that my "experiences" have been exclusively with Asian women, no cause for complaints!

    I haven't completely restarted but have thinned my business wardrobe quite extensively, and will be adding to my donation wardrobe (spare wardrobe filled with clothes to charity) re: Zara v-neck bought by my ex. Not donating it because she bought it (I like the ivory button-cuff shirt that she brought from Zara, and the blue/white trainers from Kunming, China), but because it doesn't fit as well as my Nigel Hall v-necks.

    On the subject of the blues, I find literal cleaning (apartment), and getting outdoors to parks and other green, natural spaces really helps to process thoughts and get into a more positive head-space.

    Addendum: just realised how the above could be misconstrued. Language partners, as opposed to high-class Asian call-girls!
     
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