Have you been caught red by your partner buying expensive items without telling her?

[lasbar]

In my case , the worse part of it is my guilt.

I do know she is frigging right and my behaviour is irrational.

My desire for a certain hedonistic way of life is stronger than rational thinking.

I'm 40 and acting like a petulant 20 something.

Are we a bit masochist?

 

[furo]

Originally Posted by lasbar

I do know she is frigging right

Well then that's 99% of the battle right there

Most guys will never get this far

 

[drop]

Not much of an issue, because my wife and I follow a budget that allows us both to pursue our individual interests equitably. However, every once and a while she will discover how much something costs -- say, a pair of good shoes -- and ask why I care so much about clothes/appearance. My typical response is "consider the alternative."

This is also a good response for when she complains about my nutrition/training program.

 

[lasbar]

Originally Posted by drop

Not much of an issue, because my wife and I follow a budget that allows us both to pursue our individual interests equitably. However, every once and a while she will discover how much something costs -- say, a pair of good shoes -- and ask why I care so much about clothes/appearance. My typical response is "consider the alternative."

This is also a good response for when she complains about my nutrition/training program.



As I have a very Greek approach to budget in general , my overspending is also hidden behind some clever accounting.

 

[HomerJ]

Originally Posted by knittieguy

Whenever I buy something new, I hide it in the back of the closet for a few months. Then when I wear it and my wife says, "Oh, is that new?" I can reply, "I've had it for a while."

I think she's on to me, though. The other day she responded with, "Yes, but have you worn it before?"

 

[Nataku]

I usually thrift anyway, so I will brag about something and she will just roll her eyes. However, I do occasionally splurge, but she also knows I sell things a lot. If she catches me, I will tell her I intend to sell it - most of the time I am intending to sell it. Then again, a lot of times I become fond of the items I intend to sell and they discreetly work their way into my closet. She never notices....

 

[MyOtherLife]

Use the old ways and think how good you'll look in court later.

 

[lasbar]

Originally Posted by Man Of Lint

Use the old ways and think how good you'll look in court later.

i have recntly watched too many episodes of Judge Judy and I'm scared....

 

[ohm]

Originally Posted by Man Of Lint

Use the old ways and think how good you'll look in court later.

If his outfit is any indication, the old ways didn't work very well.

 

[Closer]

Originally Posted by upnorth

I've often wondered if a gay partner would be more forgiving but I am not prepared to change my lifestyle and preference.


Possibly. They may try and **** you ********** though.

 

[lasbar]

Originally Posted by Closer

Possibly. They may try and **** you ********** though.

Designers love the gay community...

They tend to spend more on clothes and are very sensitive to their image...

They're what we call DINK ,double income no kids...

Regarding the question of ******* you ********** ,you could be a giver a ,receiver or both.

 

[Crane's]

It has never been an issue. I don't go berserk spending and neither does she. Everything is kept well within means by both of us. When I bought myself a two tone Rolex GMT all she said was that's a nice watch with a smile on her face. She has bought a few very expensive pieces of jewelry and every now and again the closet gets a serious makeover. I basically don't care and of course the reward for being nonchalant tends to be very good. Now we did keep a few expensive purchases secret but that's because they were gifts from one to another.

 

[HHD]

My wife complains more about the space my stuff is occupying than my actual expenditure. I don't particularly believe it is any of her business what I spend on clothes, as it isn't a huge sum and I'm very diligent about paying for housing / holidays / savings / school fees etc.

Plus in our circle of friends we have:

2x coke fiends
1x serious gambling problem
1x regular whore user
1x Chateau PÃ

trus aficionado (even though he and his family live in 65 square metres)
2x keeping costly mistresses

Me buying a pair of Edward Greens or having a jacket made up is small beer.

 

[CDFS]

Originally Posted by furo

If that works for you, that's great. But I see it as a recipe for disaster. Something just doesn't seem right about that.

 

[qtdude]

Yes. But I usually say something if its a big purchase (suit/nice shoes). My wife is very understanding of the role my clothes play in my profession. I still try to stay frugal and use eBay/outlet whenever possible.