A Crappy Situation

[why]

Originally Posted by Fuuma

Hmm, you don't have much vacation and you're planning to take most of it without her, no wonder she's pissed (spare me the parts about rationality, no one uses that in a relationship).
If that were true I wouldn't think pre-nups should exist.

 

[BrettChaotix]

Originally Posted by Eason

So, my gf flips out and cries all night, and says how can I go to Beijing for so long without her, for my whole vacation (it's 5~7 whole/partial days away out of 11) and that I definitely don't' care about her. She says let's break up when I try and talk to her, two times, and refuses to see that I don't really have a choice. My brother wouldn't allow me to go for less time, and if I canceled the trip, he would blame my GF for it and never forgive her- not a good start since I was planning on marrying her. So, yeah. ****. What the ****.

A GF/BF should NEVER use breaking up as an ultimatum or leverage in a fight. That's an instant deal-breaker for me, it shows how little she values the relationship, especially with such an immature argument, I mean we are talking about less than a week here.

 

[Douglas]

Originally Posted by BrettChaotix

A GF/BF should NEVER use breaking up as an ultimatum or leverage in a fight. That's an instant deal-breaker for me, it shows how little she values the relationship, especially with such an immature argument, I mean we are talking about less than a week here.

+ like, a million.

 

[constant struggle]

So she gets pissed at you, not letting you have a good vacation, when you get back make up.

 

[West24]

tell her shes being marsupialed. and completely unreasonable. its not your fault your so manly and good looking that she cant take not being with you for 5 days or whatever.

 

[TyCooN]

Originally Posted by West24

tell her shes being marsupialed. and completely unreasonable. its not your fault your so manly and good looking that she cant take not being with you for 5 days or whatever.
+1

 

[globetrotter]

I agree with everybody else

 

[TyCooN]

Bros before hoes

 

[dfagdfsh]

what will be the consequences of ending the relationship on your business?

 

[appolyon]

Originally Posted by Teger

what will be the consequences of ending the relationship on your business?

Eason, I had a gf that would do much the same thing. If I couldn't see her on a weekend she'd freak out and make life a fcking misery. Thing is, if she makes a threat and you back down, you can bet your arse she will use it again. Tell her you need some time to yourself to think, go on your holiday, have a great time and speak to her when you get back mate.

 

[Eason]

Ok she's pretty much resigned to the fact that I'm leaving regardless of what she says, but she isn't any happier about it and is still swinging from resignation to suddenly bitching and arguments. But now she's complaining that she can't feel I love her and she feels empty... all because I rejected her offer to stay there for 5 days. Yaaaaaaaaawn. edit: okay I was able to communicate that I understand that she is angry and annoyed that she can't go with me, and that I would also be angry and annoyed in her situation- but she seems to think that this means I just have to stand with her being annoyed and angry all the time until I get back.

 

[appolyon]

And what do you care if she is angry and annoyed while your away? ... man you can add me to the list of guys that are feeling irate with her at the moment!

 

[rxcats]

Your girlfriend is being completely unreasonable, but I think everyone else has already said that. She should say she is sorry she wasn't able to go, but you should go see your brother and have fun. It isn't fair of her to take that away from you.

Maybe she could go if you invite SoCal and get him to pick up the whole trip. I am not sure where she would sleep though; SoCal would probably get her an adjoining room. There might be some strings attached to such an arrangement, but they would effect you more than your girlfriend. She might want to wear ear plugs.

 

[Eason]

Situation resolved! She finally came to terms with the fact she was being crazy and unreasonable due to many factors.

 

[kwilkinson]

Originally Posted by Eason

Situation resolved! She finally came to terms with the fact she was being crazy and unreasonable due to many factors.

Good. Now give her a good lay to congratulate her on comin back to sanity.