yjeezle
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i'm not that much older than you but i know what you're going through... i experienced it myself... i try to kick back now and kinda relax a little bit...what kind of stress?
God it's so ******* complicated I don't even know how to describe the situation on here. It would require my having to write a novel to describe the entire situation.
I think I need to talk to a therapist or something because this is eating away at me like a motherfucker and there is literally no one in my group I can talk to to seek advice. I'm at a dead end.
I'm going to go get drunk at the airport while I wait for my ******* red-eye flight.
GF, again, welcome to adulthood. It doesn't stop unitl you retire or get low stress job...which usually comes with low pay. What you need to do is learn to compartmentalize things. When I made my move into my first c-suite level position I don't think I slept for a month and my guts got bound up like river of cement. Having a big job comes with big problems. You just have to learn to keep things distinct and learn to turn work off. I'm not saying it's easy, that it doesn't take some practice, and that you'll ever be 100% successful at it but I can tell you I can go home after a ****** 12 hour day and have a nice quiet chat with my wife vs. what I know some people do which is to take out their work stress on loved ones. Not good.
I always use the AA serenity prayer as a way to express this to new manangers or people having problems coping:
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
It really works.
i used to be a real workaholic last year, but i learned to shut everything off once i got home (in the past few months)... it'll happen sooner or later...
**** man... i think i'm in love with those chicks who pour you drinks at the bar.. (not the bartender)... we had visitors from a foreign land these past few weeks... and everyday has been drink after drink (on the company dime of course)... and now my "partner"(female) has thoroughly seduced me...
also, my dept. head blocked my transfer into the "consulting" division of my company, citing not enough manpower... (this year we've had 34 voluntary resignations)