I'm Single...

[FLMountainMan]

Originally Posted by EL72

Doesn't bother me (although you admitting to wanting to slug your ex several times is mildly disturbing). I just think it's an inane question because since when is violence gender-specific or physical disparity relevant. That's like saying it's ok for a little guy to beat up a big guy. It's no more acceptable for a woman to hit a man than it is for a man to hit a woman or a gay guy to hit another gay guy - unless you're like edmorel and happen to like that sort of thing

I don't think he was saying it's acceptable. He was wondering more about the legal ramifications. Not all of us poop rainbows and piss pixie dust and it's interesting to see how the law handles that.

 

[SoCal2NYC]

My ex BF that used to live with me in LA and I were VERY physical when we would fit. One time he pushed me, made me drop a glass of OJ, I picked it up while he was walking away, threw it at him and cut open the back of his calf.
That was the worse. Most of it was just headlocks and him crying and beating his fist on me because he thought I was cheating.

 

[kwilkinson]

Originally Posted by SoCal2NYC

My ex BF that used to live with me in LA and I were VERY physical when we would fit. One time he pushed me, made me drop a glass of OJ, I picked it up while he was walking away, threw it at him and cut open the back of his calf.
That was the worse. Most of it was just headlocks and him crying and beating his fist on me because he thought I was cheating.

I'm sorry, it's probably not a funny haha situation, but I definitely lol'ed reading this.

 

[jkennett]

Originally Posted by SoCal2NYC

Most of it was just headlocks and him crying and beating his fist on me because he thought I was cheating.
Damn! That is fucked up man. I once had a violent girlfriend who was 5'0" 98lbs... so easily managed, but still intolerable. I couldn't even imagine someone my size trying to beat on me. I think I'd be throwing a lot more than a glass of o.j.

 

[texas_jack]

lol, headlocks and crying don't go together.

 

[FLMountainMan]

Originally Posted by jkennett

Damn! That is fucked up man. I once had a violent girlfriend who was 5'0" 98lbs... so easily managed, but still intolerable. I couldn't even imagine someone my size trying to beat on me. I think I'd be throwing a lot more than a glass of o.j.


Judging from his suit size, SoCal seems like a pretty big guy. Still though, it certainly does change the dynamic a little.

 

[EL72]

Originally Posted by FLMountainMan

I don't think he was saying it's acceptable. He was wondering more about the legal ramifications. Not all of us poop rainbows and piss pixie dust and it's interesting to see how the law handles that.

I understood his question. My point was that the law is (theoretically) blind to gender in issues of domestic violence. The question regarding gay couples implies that woman on man abuse is legally different (i.e. more acceptable) than man on woman abuse. It's not.

 

[warlok1965]

Originally Posted by SoCal2NYC

My ex BF that used to live with me in LA and I were VERY physical when we would fit. One time he pushed me, made me drop a glass of OJ, I picked it up while he was walking away, threw it at him and cut open the back of his calf.
That was the worse. Most of it was just headlocks and him crying and beating his fist on me because he thought I was cheating.

Interesting that this tidbit ended up in your "I'm Single..." thread...

Originally Posted by EL72

I understood his question. My point was that the law is (theoretically) blind to gender in issues of domestic violence. The question regarding gay couples implies that woman on man abuse is legally different (i.e. more acceptable) than man on woman abuse. It's not.

"Theoretically" is the rub here. Despite the letter of the law, cops, judges, lawyers, prison guards, etc. are probably going to have the mindset that "beating a woman is never OK; beating a dude is OK in certain circumstances". I think (hope) most men are raised with this ethic. Since hitting women is a no-no but hitting men is more "OK" does that equate to a higher probability of domestic violence between gay men? I doubt it, but who knows, maybe I'm just sheltered out here in the suburbs where none of that ever happens.

 

[Piobaire]

Originally Posted by FLMountainMan

Judging from his suit size, SoCal seems like a pretty big guy. Still though, it certainly does change the dynamic a little.

First: dood, 42"?

Second: SoCal, I notice a repeating theme: the person you are with is sure you are cheating. What's up with that?

Third: nothing personal, but as much as you are getting more sedate in your activities, e.g. nice dinner vs. clubbing, you have clearly not sown all your wild oats yet and think monogamy = monotony (okay, good argument to make but still).

It adds up to me that you just plain like the thought of a long term relationship but are not ready to live with the requirements of one. I'd just play the field for a few more years if I was you.

 

[LabelKing]

Originally Posted by SoCal2NYC

My ex BF that used to live with me in LA and I were VERY physical when we would fit. One time he pushed me, made me drop a glass of OJ, I picked it up while he was walking away, threw it at him and cut open the back of his calf.
That was the worse. Most of it was just headlocks and him crying and beating his fist on me because he thought I was cheating.

Did you have a steamy S&M relationship?

Did one of you dress up in an East German officer's uniform?

 

[vc2000]

Originally Posted by SoCal2NYC

While I love em fresh and 17-20, He's taking all of his stuff from my house right now back to his dorm.

Ok I have to ask where do you meet someone that is 17-20? It can't be at a bar because they aren't of age right?

 

[SoCal2NYC]

Originally Posted by vc2000

Ok I have to ask where do you meet someone that is 17-20? It can't be at a bar because they aren't of age right?

Barneys
Manhunt
Craigslist
Saks
Bergdorf Goodman
Jeffery
18+ Clubs

 

[SoCal2NYC]

Originally Posted by Piobaire

First: dood, 42"?

Second: SoCal, I notice a repeating theme: the person you are with is sure you are cheating. What's up with that?

Third: nothing personal, but as much as you are getting more sedate in your activities, e.g. nice dinner vs. clubbing, you have clearly not sown all your wild oats yet and think monogamy = monotony (okay, good argument to make but still).

It adds up to me that you just plain like the thought of a long term relationship but are not ready to live with the requirements of one. I'd just play the field for a few more years if I was you.

I don't know...last night, me, my boyfiend and 3 other dudes had an awesome time.

 

[Piobaire]

Originally Posted by SoCal2NYC

I don't know...last night, me, my boyfiend and 3 other dudes had an awesome time.

That ain't monogamy man! I'm not saying we never spice things up, like having one of her friends over topless or nude in the spa or another couple over and we all get naked, but no serious touching of other folks has happened in 11 years now. There's a difference between a little racey and a five some bro!

 

[LabelKing]

Originally Posted by SoCal2NYC

Barneys Manhunt Craigslist Saks Bergdorf Goodman Jeffery 18+ Clubs
Meeting people via Craigslist seems so suspect, and I don't even know what Manhunt is. I'll bet you find a lot of conspicuous consumption young gays at those stores though.