makker
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Here we go again.
Ok, heres the situation. I've got a girl in mind, a year below me. Therefore its hard to get in touch with her since I dont see her around as much as I see my other classmates. If I do, shes always hurdled around her friends so approaching her seems difficult.
Almost exactly a year ago I "asked her out", which didnt turn out good. I was quite surprised how far I got it to go through virtual insanity. I began talking to her through facebook, made nice comments on her pics and eventually asked her for coffee through fb chat. How lame is this? Well, we went for coffee and I guess it went okay, I couldve done better. I just needed something to get to know her better and then take her out for a real date maybe if I knew she was the right type. It didnt turn out good either a bit due to my shyness. Once I saw her sitting by herself - remarkably - in the library and I went over to small talk, but I couldnt think of things to say so she eventually left with her friends. Didnt see her later and I made the mistake of asking what her weekend plans were through an inbox message, when she replies that she doesnt know.. and later hoping that I would understand that the first time was the last time. ****.
A few months later, I ask her how her summer vacation was going, to which she replies nicely. However, a reply to my post from her friend tells me to give up. I feel totally in pieces now.
Life has moved on now over 365 days later.. I have no idea if her mind has changed. I've seen her looking around at me at school lately, but my novice experience with women tells me that I dont know if this is a sign or not. Things have continued the same way for the whole year, dont see her that much. I dont know if shes been avoiding me somehow either, because she is always offline on fb even though new **** appears on her wall. Can you block someone on fb chat? Well anyhoo, she was online last night and I had a nice 16 min convo which didnt lead anywhere though, but it was nice to see what was up. What I hope is for her to give me a second chance. She really seems appealing but I still would need to get to know her better. I still regret for not making it work a year ago, as I had it all in my hands.
I know youre thinking that I should grow a pair, but I just cant help it. You might also be thinking that it wont work, but even the smallest suggestions to make this work would be excellent. The hard thing is interpreting women in general; how do I know if shes after a relationship even or not? Or would she be willing to be friends at most?
I really need to learn to socialize and send out more positive vibes if this ever works. The problem is that all the topics I can think of revolve around school or then its something very general such as your favorite X, even though its always a starting point but not very charismatic or fluent dialogue.. more like interrogation.
Ok, heres the situation. I've got a girl in mind, a year below me. Therefore its hard to get in touch with her since I dont see her around as much as I see my other classmates. If I do, shes always hurdled around her friends so approaching her seems difficult.
Almost exactly a year ago I "asked her out", which didnt turn out good. I was quite surprised how far I got it to go through virtual insanity. I began talking to her through facebook, made nice comments on her pics and eventually asked her for coffee through fb chat. How lame is this? Well, we went for coffee and I guess it went okay, I couldve done better. I just needed something to get to know her better and then take her out for a real date maybe if I knew she was the right type. It didnt turn out good either a bit due to my shyness. Once I saw her sitting by herself - remarkably - in the library and I went over to small talk, but I couldnt think of things to say so she eventually left with her friends. Didnt see her later and I made the mistake of asking what her weekend plans were through an inbox message, when she replies that she doesnt know.. and later hoping that I would understand that the first time was the last time. ****.
A few months later, I ask her how her summer vacation was going, to which she replies nicely. However, a reply to my post from her friend tells me to give up. I feel totally in pieces now.
Life has moved on now over 365 days later.. I have no idea if her mind has changed. I've seen her looking around at me at school lately, but my novice experience with women tells me that I dont know if this is a sign or not. Things have continued the same way for the whole year, dont see her that much. I dont know if shes been avoiding me somehow either, because she is always offline on fb even though new **** appears on her wall. Can you block someone on fb chat? Well anyhoo, she was online last night and I had a nice 16 min convo which didnt lead anywhere though, but it was nice to see what was up. What I hope is for her to give me a second chance. She really seems appealing but I still would need to get to know her better. I still regret for not making it work a year ago, as I had it all in my hands.
I know youre thinking that I should grow a pair, but I just cant help it. You might also be thinking that it wont work, but even the smallest suggestions to make this work would be excellent. The hard thing is interpreting women in general; how do I know if shes after a relationship even or not? Or would she be willing to be friends at most?
I really need to learn to socialize and send out more positive vibes if this ever works. The problem is that all the topics I can think of revolve around school or then its something very general such as your favorite X, even though its always a starting point but not very charismatic or fluent dialogue.. more like interrogation.