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What I learned today:
What exactly do you mean by this? Do you live with/support your GF's grandparents as well?
On a serious note, I mentioned it earlier and she said she gives her parents money because they spent almost all their savings on her and her brothers' educations.
That's pretty much how every financially responsible young adult in East Asia thinks as well. m@t was being sarcastic. It's just a way of life, one with a greater emphasis on the family/community/support system than the self. It's not inherently better or worse than the Western equivalent, just diffent. Actually, now that I've had my share of experiences in both, I prefer the Eastern way - it makes me work harder.
..and that is noble and all, but at the same time, you are also well aware that when you come back here, assuming you marry yourself some nice little Hanoian girl, there may well be an expectation that some percentage of your earnings is regularly sent back to her family. And if you marry some girl from the provinces, it would be almost unavoidable....dung khong?A few years ago, I vowed to eventually give back tenfolds of what my parents have invested in me, not just financially but in other things as well. Of course I'm not there yet, but one day I will be. One way to do that: make more money.
..and that is noble and all, but at the same time, you are also well aware that when you come back here, assuming you marry yourself some nice little Hanoian girl, there may well be an expectation that some percentage of your earnings is regularly sent back to her family. And if you marry some girl from the provinces, it would be almost unavoidable....dung khong?
... She buys me gifts here and there, pays for probably half of our dates, and is always willing to give me some money if I sent a bunch home to the states and it's still gonna be awhile before my next check (monthly paychecks ftl). ...
Ugh, yea, God forbid I remain with a beautiful, intelligent girl who is the most devoted girlfriend I've ever had because I've been willingly shelling out a couple hundred bucks here and there by my own accord. Obviously, I'm fucked!
Brian, 5% is way too low. Your SO is a keeper.
Like someone already mentioned, it is completely normal for one to send back a portion of their earnings every month to the family. This is not only true for poor people, it is just part of the culture. Sure, it might be different from western culture, but so are a lot of other things. If she is disciplined enough to send back money to her family, I would not be surprised if she is saving the allowance towards the relationship in the future (marriage ceremony costs, etc.).