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Stylish responses to annoying waitresses who don't assume you want your change?

stylemeup

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I am starting to get very annoyed with how at the majority if restaurants I go to, after I give the waitress the money for my bill she always asks me, "Do you need change?"

I should not be asked that; it is a very insulting question!

It is even more insulting by how they always say 'need' rather than 'want'.

I should not feel like I have to provide an awkward response to a question that frames me like vagrant simply for wanting the change that I am perfectly entitled to receive.

Rather, she should assume I want change and bring me my change automatically. Then, I may decide to tip her if I so choose. I have met some good waitresses who do this, they say automatically, "I will get your change" instead of the far more common & annoying way of asking, "Do you need change?"

What is the most stylish response to annoying waitresses who ask if I need change?

Furthermore, should I not tip them at all because they had the gall to ask me such an insulting question, or should I just attribute that to their social ignorance and therefore forgive them and tip them anyway?
 

Piobaire

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Use a credit card. Problem solved.
 

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that's how they make their money. say "yes" like I do, and then give them the tip you want after they have brought it.
 

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Originally Posted by globetrotter
that's how they make their money. say "yes" like I do, and then give them the tip you want after they have brought it.

+1

That was an easy one. /thread
 

stylemeup

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Originally Posted by globetrotter
that's how they make their money.

I think they would make just as much if not more money by giving the customer the choice. I resent the waitresses who annoy me by asking and therefore it makes me have no desire to tip them anything.

On the other hand, I have great respect for the waitresses who do not ask.

I know that no one solution would work for everyone and I'm sure some people do cave to the sales pressure of not wanting to look silly by saying "Yes" to change, but I am skeptical if the majority of people are that way.

I do say yes like you advise, however, it dampens my enjoyment of going to restaurants by knowing I will likely be made to feel awkward after my meal by an annoying waitress.
 

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Originally Posted by stylemeup
I think they would make just as much if not more money by giving the customer the choice. I resent the waitresses who annoy me by asking and therefore it makes me have no desire to tip them anything.

On the other hand, I have great respect for the waitresses who do not ask.

I know that no one solution would work for everyone and I'm sure some people do cave to the sales pressure of not wanting to look silly by saying "Yes" to change, but I am skeptical if the majority of people are that way.

I do say yes like you advise, however, it dampens my enjoyment of going to restaurants by knowing I will likely be made to feel awkward after my meal by an annoying waitress.


I hope you don't lose sleep over this.
 

globetrotter

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Originally Posted by stylemeup
I think they would make just as much if not more money by giving the customer the choice. I resent the waitresses who annoy me by asking and therefore it makes me have no desire to tip them anything.

On the other hand, I have great respect for the waitresses who do not ask.

I know that no one solution would work for everyone and I'm sure some people do cave to the sales pressure of not wanting to look silly by saying "Yes" to change, but I am skeptical if the majority of people are that way.

I do say yes like you advise, however, it dampens my enjoyment of going to restaurants by knowing I will likely be made to feel awkward after my meal by an annoying waitress.


life is tough. then you die.

no need to make it any worse for yourself.
 

JayJay

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Originally Posted by stylemeup
I think they would make just as much if not more money by giving the customer the choice. I resent the waitresses who annoy me by asking and therefore it makes me have no desire to tip them anything.

On the other hand, I have great respect for the waitresses who do not ask.

I know that no one solution would work for everyone and I'm sure some people do cave to the sales pressure of not wanting to look silly by saying "Yes" to change, but I am skeptical if the majority of people are that way.

I do say yes like you advise, however, it dampens my enjoyment of going to restaurants by knowing I will likely be made to feel awkward after my meal by an annoying waitress.

At one restaurant a server brought my bill for breakfast which was only 4 bucks and change. I handed over a 20.00, and the server asked if I wanted change. This is the only time I recall being really bothered by the question, and it's the only restaurant where I go that servers routinely ask this. I prefer that they not ask this although I sort of understand why they do it.
 

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I'd slap that ***** for not respecting me. How dare her even assume anything about me!

Jon.
 

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double post
 

MrDaniels

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Originally Posted by HelloIDistance
Lighten up, damn.

+1


Unless the waitress totally looks at the amount you have laid down and counts it out that you are sure that she has already done a lot of math in her head by subtracting the change from total amount and then compared it to an appropriate gratuity, then you should just assume she does not know if you require change back or not..she is probably busy and would rather be asssisting other customers than bringing change back to you that you do not require if you already put down the total amount, including tip.


PS Take a nice weekend trip to Haiti...it could do so much for your world view.
 

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you could pay with larger bills... e.g., if the bill is $18.25 and you leave a $20 on the table, then I could see her asking that question (although the correct procedure for waiters/waitresses is to ALWAYS bring change and never ask "do you want change") but at iHop I can see her asking if you need change when the bill is $18.25 and you have a $20 on the table. But if you pay with a $50 or a $100, then there would be no confusion.

It is a rude question... "do you need change" grates on my ears as well. I'd respond, "if it's not too much trouble" and see if she picks up on the sarcasm - she probably wouldn't.
 

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