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wearing a suit w/ no tie to a wedding?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by gqcao, Jun 18, 2006.

  1. gqcao

    gqcao Senior member

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    i have a wedding coming up. i'm just a regular guest; nothing special. since i've always wear a tie to weddings, this time i'm thinking of doing something different: wearing a suit with a nice french cuff shirt with no tie. is it too casual? i know almost everyone wear a suit or shirt and tie to a wedding. am i being disrespect for not wearing a tie??
     
  2. WSW

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    I think you should still wear a tie with your suit, but have fun with it. Pick a tie that is more colorful or flashier than what you would wear to work. Wear a pocket square as well. If you do not wish to wear a tie, you could put on a sportcoat instead. Since it is the summer, perhaps you might want to go with some light colored linen or lightweight wool.
     
  3. skalogre

    skalogre Senior member

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    Would be no disrespect. But for me that would be merely another one of those rare chances to wear one of my ties so I would not miss out the chance by going tieless [​IMG]
     
  4. DocHolliday

    DocHolliday Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Depends on the formality of the wedding. For a casual beach wedding, I'd say going tieless is a possibility. But for anything more formal than that, I'd suggest a tie. While no disrespect would be intended, I'm sure, it might not be received that way.
     
  5. AskAndyAboutClothes

    AskAndyAboutClothes Senior member

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    gqcao:

    I'd wear the necktie!

    And "respect" is a factor: We live in a complex, crowded society where considerate people dress appropriately for various places and occasions. Dressing appropriately is about respect for your fellow humans and our institutions.

    Andy
     
  6. gqcao

    gqcao Senior member

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    i just hate it whenever i wear a suit and tie; i look and feel over-dressed for any occasion.
     
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    AskAndyAboutClothes Senior member

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    gqcao:

    You look great! It's the other guys who are "under" dressed!

    Andy
     
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    royal618 Senior member

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    You can never be over-dressed, only under-dressed.

    Rock up to a game of football in a tux... sure, if you feel like it and if you need an 'out', you can say you're going to the opera that evening and you have to go straight from the game!

    [​IMG]
     
  9. gorgekko

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    i just hate it whenever i wear a suit and tie; i look and feel over-dressed for any occasion.

    Your statement reminds me of something that Russell Smith wrote in his recent book Men's Style: The Thinking Man's Guide to Dress: It's not always about you. You dress appropriately for certain occasions to show respect for other people. If that's too much of an imposition, stay home.
     
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    I don't know, if you are already going to bother with french cuffs, why not just add the tie
     
  11. Sgt. Chic

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    A velvet morning suit would be rather elegant provided you compliment it with the necessary amount of braggadocio.
     
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    I don't know, if you are already going to bother with french cuffs, why not just add the tie

    I agree.
     
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    Rampart Senior member

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    I would also reccommend wearing a tie. I've been to a couple weddings where some guys didn't & it just doesn't seem to fit the occasion..

    The reception however is another story. If you aren't closely connected to the event, I wouldn't see it being an issue.

    Rpart
     
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    PLEASE don't wear a suit without a tie! This sloppy look has reached epidemic proportions. A tie gives the opportunity for colour and flair.
    If you don't want to wear a tie, don't wear a suit.
    W.
     
  15. javyn

    javyn Senior member

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    Hey! Let's not go overboard here, what about casual Fridays?!
     
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    Unless the wedding is specifically designated as casual, it would just come off as jackassy or arrogant.
     
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    i have a wedding coming up. i'm just a regular guest; nothing special. since i've always wear a tie to weddings, this time i'm thinking of doing something different: wearing a suit with a nice french cuff shirt with no tie. is it too casual? i know almost everyone wear a suit or shirt and tie to a wedding. am i being disrespect for not wearing a tie??


    It entirely depends upon the nature of the ceremony and the principals.

    If they are in full morning dress then this would be inappropriate, then you can range from a lounge suit to a a setting on a Caribbean beach.

    Judge it against that
     
  18. gorgekko

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    PLEASE don't wear a suit without a tie! This sloppy look has reached epidemic proportions. A tie gives the opportunity for colour and flair.
    If you don't want to wear a tie, don't wear a suit.
    W.


    I do think there are occasions when you can go casual. I like clubbing with a suit sans tie and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I know the more traditional members consider it a sartorial sin (and I agree it is, though whether it is mortal or venial is up for debate) but I like the look in that context. I just draw the line at more formal events.

    Of course, given the amount of chinos/running shoes/button down shirts I've seen at weddings, wakes, funerals, etc., not wearing a tie with a suit is definitely a relative sin.
     
  19. DocHolliday

    DocHolliday Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Of course, given the amount of chinos/running shoes/button down shirts I've seen at weddings, wakes, funerals, etc., not wearing a tie with a suit is definitely a relative sin.

    You make an interesting point. Yet, in many cases, I'd find myself more bothered by the lack of tie than by the chinos. Most folks I see in khakis at such events I assume don a jacket or tie rarely, if ever. For them, they are "dressed up." But if I were to see a guy in a suit with no tie, I'd assume he knew better but couldn't be bothered. The tie's absence, in its specificity, becomes an insult.

    I'm sure I'm being too kind/vaguely patronizing to the khaki crowd at such events, but there you have it. My point, I suppose, is that dressing in a suit with no tie sends a very specific signal about how important you deem the event: "I could have worn a tie, but I didn't."
     
  20. gorgekko

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    I think you are being too kind. At least a suit with a tie presumes someone at least put some thought -- even if careless or insulting -- into what they were wearing. Showing up to a wake, as I saw some do so not long ago, wearing a golf shirt, chinos and running shoes sends the message that paying respect to the family rises to the same level as mowing your lawn. I could have danced in their blood that evening I was so disgusted.

    Either way, I agree with you, it's incredibly disrespectful.
     

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