Things That Are Bothering You, Got You All Hibbeldy-Jibbeldy, or just downright pissed, RIGHT NOW!

[Biscotti]



Do you know how unhealthy this is? And how stupid?
THIS is why you are reacting they way that you are....NOT that she was "the one."

I think you're making assumptions--how are you to know this? You don't.

Anyway, if I ever am to have any sort of meaningful relationship, that is how it will have to be. Soon I will not even have any place to call "home" and I will be away no less than 50% of the year. If I meet someone, I will never have the time to do things the normal way. I'm OK with this honestly...everyone I know is miserable, may as well pick a more interesting form of misery. Or it will destroy me--that's just the reality of going into a field with an insanely high rate of suicide, substance abuse and a short life spans.

 

[L'Incandescent]

@Biscotti
I obviously don't know any of the details, and so I'm just basing this on the information you gave in your post: if an important part of the dynamic of your relationship involves you helping your partner recover from some kind of deep psychological pain or trauma, then the likelihood of that relationship succeeding over the long term is very low. That is my experience at any rate, and it matches what I've seen in friends and acquaintances who've gone down the same path.

 

[Harold falcon]

This too shall pass, Bisco.

 

[MrG]



I think you're making assumptions--how are you to know this? You don't.

Anyway, if I ever am to have any sort of meaningful relationship, that is how it will have to be. Soon I will not even have any place to call "home" and I will be away no less than 50% of the year. If I meet someone, I will never have the time to do things the normal way. I'm OK with this honestly...everyone I know is miserable, may as well pick a more interesting form of misery. Or it will destroy me--that's just the reality of going into a field with an insanely high rate of suicide, substance abuse and a short life spans.

Whoa. You're going to grad school to become a rock star?

WHY DIDN'T ANYONE EVER TELL ME THERE IS A GRAD SCHOOL FOR ROCK STARDOM!?!?

 

[Neo_Version 7]



I feel that I was used in the sense that I definitely feel I helped her overcome **** from her past...I was the first man she's fucked in two years.

This is the most telling statement of all.


He literally solved all of her problems with *********, you guys.

 

[edinatlanta]



Whoa. You're going to grad school to become a rock star?

WHY DIDN'T ANYONE EVER TELL ME THERE IS A GRAD SCHOOL FOR ROCK STARDOM!?!?

Didn't want to amplify your ego.

 

[edinatlanta]



Whoa. You're going to grad school to become a rock star?

WHY DIDN'T ANYONE EVER TELL ME THERE IS A GRAD SCHOOL FOR ROCK STARDOM!?!?

You couldn't hit the high notes needed for success.

 

[zarathustra]



I think you're making assumptions--how are you to know this? You don't.

Anyway, if I ever am to have any sort of meaningful relationship, that is how it will have to be. Soon I will not even have any place to call "home" and I will be away no less than 50% of the year. If I meet someone, I will never have the time to do things the normal way. I'm OK with this honestly...everyone I know is miserable, may as well pick a more interesting form of misery. Or it will destroy me--that's just the reality of going into a field with an insanely high rate of suicide, substance abuse and a short life spans.

Having been in or currently in several of those fields with a high rate of suicide, substance abuse and short life spans and seeing much of what you have written, quit wallowing in self-pity and pretending that you aren't scared shitless about the changes coming in your life. I have been there and done similar things that nearly destroyed me. Ain't no woman gonna save you or bring you back. The only one that can save you is you. There is no "one" woman. All there is, is the one that was right for the time---however long that may be. As Waylon said, time has a thing for moving on and so should you. If you don't, you have good odds at finding yourself down those dark dark lonely roads with nothing.

 

[ethanm]

Guarantee Bisco forgets about her within 5 minutes of being in NYC. You could spend a lifetime hitting up Tinder chicks just within a mile of you anywhere in this city.

 

[Bhowie]

I just realized the 3 longest relationships I've had all 3 of them had a parent pass away before they were 20. ****.

 

[Neo_Version 7]



I just realized the 3 longest relationships I've had all 3 of them had a parent pass away before they were 20. ****.

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[lawyerdad]



I lovr hoe we all just making fun go eachohther, ll in good fern. It all makes me sos hPPT.

We definitely need a WAYWN picture thread for this. (I first read it as "all in good fem", but it works this way, too.


Sucks, man. Give yourself a day or two to wallow in self-pity and write some Gram Parsons knock-off songs. Then, she's dead and gone. No reason to talk about her or worry about what she did or didn't do, or will or will not do.
Also, sex with other girls is a big help.

pinned into the wall by a gentleman that made Chris Christie look slim.

I'm just gonna leave this here for somebody else to play with.

Would you say you were incensed?

Boooo!

This too shall pass, Bisco.

+1

 

[Biscotti]

I appreciate the support guys. It was definitely a learning experience that's for sure.

She definitely was a damaged good. Her father shattered multiple bones in her body. Her ex smashed her face. She's been sexually abused. She never has been with a man not younger than ten years her senior...even when she was 12 years old.

So, so many red flags. It is for the best that she is out of my life.

I have far too much to live for and offer someone. Cheers to ****. Cheers to **** indeed.

 

[edinatlanta]

Bisco you will be OK. I think everyone needs to go through one bad relationship in their life. You seem to recognize that it was bad and thus you will be able to move on and be better.

 

[ter1413]



Bisco you will be OK. I think everyone needs to go through one bad relationship in their life. You seem to recognize that it was bad and thus you will be able to move on and be better.

Snap.
Ed.... comin' through in the clutch with some nice words.