Sneakers With Tailoring: Yes, No, Maybe?

[mak1277]

I was not suggesting that the girl attended his university. Only that it's creepy if an educator in his 30s hits on 18-year-old girls.

I know you weren’t but it seemed like others might have been .

If an 18 year old wants to have a fling with an older man I don’t see the problem with it.

 

[Waldo Jeffers]

Average age of a first year law student is 24. A 24 year old 1L (or 25 year old 2L) is not a 30+ year old teacher/admin.

agree and would absolutely differentiate someone teaching at a university hitting on a student, but the point is that young women do often seek out older men and they have the ability to make the decision for themselves who they’re interested in

 

[JFWR]

I was not suggesting that the girl attended his university. Only that it's creepy if an educator in his 30s hits on 18-year-old girls.

So apparently I have to treat adult women as children in order to be non-creepy? I thought respecting female autonomy was what a "woke" person was supposed to do.

Yes, I flirt with sexy girls in a consensual environment who are not affiliated with my job. I was over 70 miles away.

 

[dieworkwear]

I know you weren’t but it seemed like others might have been .

If an 18 year old wants to have a fling with an older man I don’t see the problem with it.

Perhaps. But it's not uncommon to think that men in their 30s should not hit on 18-year-old girls, or try to ******** with them. This is a pretty commonly held view and not something I would characterize as "clutching pearls."

A cutter once told me a story about another cutter. He said that, when the two worked together at a tailoring house, they drove to a trunk show. Along the way, the cutter asked if they could stop by a high school to pick up his then-18-year-old girlfriend. This specific cutter found it gross.

He presumably thought this was a very bad thing because he relayed the story to me as a mark of this person's character. I don't know how old the other cutter was at the time of this incident. I assume in his 30s given what I know about the career path of these two men.

 

[mak1277]

Perhaps. But it's not uncommon to think that men in their 30s should not hit on 18-year-old girls, or try to ******** with them. This is a pretty commonly held view and not something I would characterize as "clutching pearls."

A cutter once told me a story about another cutter. He said that, when the two worked together at a tailoring house, they drove to a trunk show. Along the way, the cutter asked if they could stop by a high school to pick up his then-18-year-old girlfriend. This specific cutter found it gross.

He presumably thought this was a very bad thing because he relayed the story to me. I don't know how old the other cutter was at the time of this incident. I assume in his 30s given what I know about the career path of these two men.

Consensual adults should be able to sleep with who they want to sleep with. I don’t think that should be controversial

 

[Waldo Jeffers]

I’m going to guess that the people who find it offensive for a 18 yr old girl to sleep with a 30 yr old man would not care at all about a 30 yr old woman sleeping with an 18 yr old boy.

 

[dieworkwear]

I’m going to guess that the people who find it offensive for a 18 yr old girl to sleep with a 30 yr old man would not care at all about a 30 yr old woman sleeping with an 18 yr old boy.

Why would you think that?

 

[Waldo Jeffers]

Why would you think that?

because the impulse to think it’s wrong is probably rooted in white knight syndrome

 

[dieworkwear]

because the impulse to think it’s wrong is probably rooted in white knight syndrome

Amazing to me that some people here think that "men should dress their age" but not date people around their same age.

Don't wear a cool coat, but definitely go to the high school/ freshman orientation seminar to pick up on a date.

 

[mak1277]

Amazing to me that some people here think that "men should dress their age" but not date people around their same age.

Don't wear a cool coat, but definitely go to the high school/ freshman orientation seminar to pick up on a date.

Amazing to me that some people in 2021 are still policing other people’s romantic/sexual preferences.

 

[Waldo Jeffers]

Amazing to me that some people here think that "men should dress their age" but not date people around their same age.

Don't wear a cool coat, but definitely go to the high school/ freshman orientation seminar to pick up on a date.

I’ve been married for 17 yrs to my high school sweetheart. But there have been occasions when other women, including women much younger than me, have made it clear they were interested. It’s not a big deal and is totally normal. What’s weird is the paternal instinct to act like they can’t decide for themselves

 

[dieworkwear]

This convo feels like the only thing stopping some guys from ********** with a 16 or 17-year-old is the technicality of the law.

 

[Waldo Jeffers]

This convo feels like the only thing stopping some guys from ********** with a 16 or 17-year-old is the technicality of the law.

I’ve literally been in a relationship with my wife for 28 yrs (17 yrs married, 11 bf/gf before that, going back to age 16)

im not hitting on random women at all

but im not blind to reality which is that young women are frequently attracted to older men

do they have the ability to decide that for themselves? That is the question

at some point, we stop considering people to be children. Do you have a different standard for when you stop considering a woman to be a child vs a man?

 

[dieworkwear]

I’ve literally been in a relationship with my wife for 28 yrs (17 yrs married, 11 bf/gf before that, going back to age 16)

im not hitting on random women at all

but im not blind to reality which is that young women are frequently attracted to older men

do they have the ability to decide that for themselves? That is the question

at some point, we stop considering people to be children. Do you have a different standard for when you stop considering a woman to be a child vs a man?

No, I would not consider an 18-year-old to be a man or a woman yet. I'm around such people on a regular basis and consider them somewhere between a child and a full-grown adult. Just because an 18-year-old wants to ******** with a 35-year-old, I would not consider it wise or right for that 35-year-old to engage. Because they should know better.

I don't think I was a fully developed person at 18 years of age. I think I was still very much learning to find my way through the world and make proper decisions. I can't give you a defining line of when someone became a man or a woman. I can only say that, I think people who are in their 30s should date people closer to their age.

 

[thatboyo]

It's honestly a bit weird that someone would bring up flirting with someone half their age on a clothing forum.