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Need help (girl of my dreams)

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Richard Pryor, Jun 29, 2011.

  1. Unbreakable

    Unbreakable Well-Known Member

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    Look man, girls like a man who take initiative and know what they want. Those are Alpha Males qualities and a female can quickly recognize them.


    That's what I'm trying to pull off here... the "I won't take no for an answer" attitude. I have two friends who married women that were not interested in them at first, but they kept insisting and ended up scoring.





    Shes 28 and you're 31, stop beatin' around the bush.

    actually in all honesty you've tried harder than I ever would, theres always a better chick out there. Way too much time has been spent with out good cause, move on brother and godspeed.
     
  2. corneliusparky

    corneliusparky Well-Known Member

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    Is OP MIA? No follow-up? WTF
     
  3. ter1413

    ter1413 Well-Known Member

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    Wait the fuk a minute? OP "asked" a girl out to lunch via FB?
    LOSER!! Man da fuk up and pick up the phone. Being a pussy gets you no pussy!
     
  4. Richard Pryor

    Richard Pryor Well-Known Member

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    Called her on friday afternoon. She answered the phone very friendly. SOme chit chat about what she had done the night before. I asked what she was doing and she said she was packing because a friend (she was very specific about it being a male friend) had invited her to spend the weekend over at some place a few hours away from the city. She said she hadn't seen him in a while, and they saw each other the day before and he invited her and she said yes.

    I then told her too bad cause I was calling to see if she had plans that night cause I wanted to ask her out/hang out with her, and she immediately said "well, raincheck then" I told no problem, and quickly finished the conversation saying I'd let her finish pack her bags.

    For all I know, her 'boy' friend is a homosexual, or he might be Evan Stone. I'm thinking the latter just for mental clarity.

    In any case, it was a learning experience. I should've asked her out when I called on Wednesday and make definite plans. But, had I made definite plans on Wednesday, and if Evan would've asked her out on Thursday to spend the weekend god knows where, would she have cancelled my plans?

    Obviously the switch is back off.

    I will see her again next week at the gym, probably tomorrow or Wednesday, and my plan is to act very cool and friendly, as if nothing has happened, as if I don't give a fuck. Don't plan on asking her anything about her weekend, and I also don't plan to ask her out or call her again, unless of course she mentions something to me. The way I see it, the ball is in her court. Agreed?

    Seems like she's having fun before leaving in August.

    I'll be honest, this is the kind of girl that's a keeper. So I might want to play my cards well so I can gamble again when she returns in one year. A lot can happen in one year, I know. But everything happens for a reason and if I can take anything out of this is that it was a learning experience on how not to act around girls you like.

    Around girls I just want to fuck, I'm completely cool, suave, etc. But when I see a 'good' girl (marriage material) I'm not the coolest cat.

    Please keep the insults coming. COnstructive criticism is also welcomed. Particularly regarding what you think this girl thinks of me. I mean, she' friendly with me, answers the phone even if she's in a crowded place, calls back and this to a guy she knows is interested in her because I'm not the type of guy that's looking for girl friends. I'm sure at least I get that message through.

    Loved your honesty so far guys, and it's been very helpful, so please keep it coming.
     
  5. Richard Pryor

    Richard Pryor Well-Known Member

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    Wait the fuk a minute? OP "asked" a girl out to lunch via FB?
    LOSER!! Man da fuk up and pick up the phone. Being a pussy gets you no pussy!


    I get my fair share of pussy, but I have indeed acted like a pussy with this particular chick.
     
  6. ter1413

    ter1413 Well-Known Member

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    Called her on friday afternoon. She answered the phone very friendly. SOme chit chat about what she had done the night before. I asked what she was doing and she said she was packing because a friend (she was very specific about it being a male friend) had invited her to spend the weekend over at some place a few hours away from the city. She said she hadn't seen him in a while, and they saw each other the day before and he invited her and she said yes.

    I then told her too bad cause I was calling to see if she had plans that night cause I wanted to ask her out/hang out with her, and she immediately said "well, raincheck then" I told no problem, and quickly finished the conversation saying I'd let her finish pack her bags.

    For all I know, her 'boy' friend is a homosexual, or he might be Evan Stone. I'm thinking the latter just for mental clarity.

    In any case, it was a learning experience. I should've asked her out when I called on Wednesday and make definite plans. But, had I made definite plans on Wednesday, and if Evan would've asked her out on Thursday to spend the weekend god knows where, would she have cancelled my plans?

    Obviously the switch is back off.

    I will see her again next week at the gym, probably tomorrow or Wednesday, and my plan is to act very cool and friendly, as if nothing has happened, as if I don't give a fuck. Don't plan on asking her anything about her weekend, and I also don't plan to ask her out or call her again, unless of course she mentions something to me. The way I see it, the ball is in her court. Agreed?

    Seems like she's having fun before leaving in August.

    I'll be honest, this is the kind of girl that's a keeper. So I might want to play my cards well so I can gamble again when she returns in one year. A lot can happen in one year, I know. But everything happens for a reason and if I can take anything out of this is that it was a learning experience on how not to act around girls you like.

    Around girls I just want to fuck, I'm completely cool, suave, etc. But when I see a 'good' girl (marriage material) I'm not the coolest cat.

    Please keep the insults coming. COnstructive criticism is also welcomed. Particularly regarding what you think this girl thinks of me. I mean, she' friendly with me, answers the phone even if she's in a crowded place, calls back and this to a guy she knows is interested in her because I'm not the type of guy that's looking for girl friends. I'm sure at least I get that message through.

    Loved your honesty so far guys, and it's been very helpful, so please keep it coming.


    See the difference ^^^ in what you did and what the friend who will be banging her this wknd did??? He had a plan and you still did not! Leave it alone...
     
  7. corneliusparky

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    What's the point of this? If you really think this girl is wife material the absolute worst thing you could do is date her for a few weeks and then say goodbye to her. What would you do....long distance relationship after 2 weeks of dating?

    Just pretend she doesn't exist...check in with her in a year if you even see her in the same light then.

    Is her brother chaperoning the getaway with the hopefully gay dude? Quid pro quo.
     
  8. WorkingOnIt

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    Called her on friday afternoon. She answered the phone very friendly. SOme chit chat about what she had done the night before. I asked what she was doing and she said she was packing because a friend (she was very specific about it being a male friend) had invited her to spend the weekend over at some place a few hours away from the city. She said she hadn't seen him in a while, and they saw each other the day before and he invited her and she said yes.

    I then told her too bad cause I was calling to see if she had plans that night cause I wanted to ask her out/hang out with her, and she immediately said "well, raincheck then" I told no problem, and quickly finished the conversation saying I'd let her finish pack her bags.

    For all I know, her 'boy' friend is a homosexual, or he might be Evan Stone. I'm thinking the latter just for mental clarity.

    In any case, it was a learning experience. I should've asked her out when I called on Wednesday and make definite plans. But, had I made definite plans on Wednesday, and if Evan would've asked her out on Thursday to spend the weekend god knows where, would she have cancelled my plans?

    Obviously the switch is back off.

    I will see her again next week at the gym, probably tomorrow or Wednesday, and my plan is to act very cool and friendly, as if nothing has happened, as if I don't give a fuck. Don't plan on asking her anything about her weekend, and I also don't plan to ask her out or call her again, unless of course she mentions something to me. The way I see it, the ball is in her court. Agreed?

    Seems like she's having fun before leaving in August.

    I'll be honest, this is the kind of girl that's a keeper. So I might want to play my cards well so I can gamble again when she returns in one year. A lot can happen in one year, I know. But everything happens for a reason and if I can take anything out of this is that it was a learning experience on how not to act around girls you like.

    Around girls I just want to fuck, I'm completely cool, suave, etc. But when I see a 'good' girl (marriage material) I'm not the coolest cat.

    Please keep the insults coming. COnstructive criticism is also welcomed. Particularly regarding what you think this girl thinks of me. I mean, she' friendly with me, answers the phone even if she's in a crowded place, calls back and this to a guy she knows is interested in her because I'm not the type of guy that's looking for girl friends. I'm sure at least I get that message through.

    Loved your honesty so far guys, and it's been very helpful, so please keep it coming.


    Based on what you said, I don't think she is interested. Sorry. Had you made plans and she actually liked you, she wouldn't have made plans to go out of town with a guy friend. Seeing as this option never existed, we'll never really know the "coulda, woulda, shoulda."

    As it is, it looks like she isn't interested or she was and you let the interest fade. You could attempt some grand gesture but I think you're putting her on a pedestal she is undeserving of. If she wanted to see you, she would have already. Playing it cool in hopes for another shot at it a year from now entails two situations in my mind: (1) you stay in touch with her and get friend zone'd; or (2) you don't really stay in touch and your selling points fade into the back of her mind like every other guy she's met at the bar or gym over the past year.
     
  9. HRoi

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    Called her on friday afternoon. She answered the phone very friendly. SOme chit chat about what she had done the night before. I asked what she was doing and she said she was packing because a friend (she was very specific about it being a male friend) had invited her to spend the weekend over at some place a few hours away from the city.
    you're done. sorry. she's either being bent in half over a 3 day weekend, or wants you to think that someone's bending her in half. btw let's not be too hasty in calling her the girl of your dreams. we've not even determined if she'll take it in the pewper [​IMG]
     
  10. WorkingOnIt

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    btw let's not be too hasty in calling her the girl of your dreams. we've not even determined if she'll take it in the pewper [​IMG]

    If Pryor is like me, girl of the dreams is not contingent on her TIITB. [​IMG] Though bending in half is.
     
  11. makker

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    Yep, its over. In the meantime as we wait a year, post some pics.
     
  12. musicguy

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    It's over, not that it was ever on, but there's no hope. She's found a guy that's more interesting to her, or with less baggage. Don't believe the movies where the lame guy gets some hot chick that he's fallen head over heels for yet she's totally not interested at first. It never happens unless the girl realizes she's getting older and is done with dating men that excite her and want someone safe. Also, many women will say they will hang out sometime as a way to let you blow you off without being an asshole. She was never really into you. She was just being nice. She likes it when men fall for her, that's why she wasn't explicit about the way she felt. Bringing her brother along was another another way of her saying she was not interested in you intimately.

    I'm not trying to be an asshole, but it's the truth. Save you energy for someone better. Turn the negative situation into a learning experience. Next time, you'll do better.

    There are plenty of other women out there. Don't get hung up on her. You'd be surprised... Really finding a woman of your dreams will feel a lot nicer.

    I also recommend the book How To Become an Alpha Male by John Alexander. It might help you out a lot. I know it did for me when I read it some years ago.
     
  13. corneliusparky

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    Alpha = Running into girl and asking her out for a weekend getaway.

    Not so Alpha = Calling up girl to organise a day to call up again and ask her out.
     
  14. ter1413

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    Alpha = Running into girl and asking her out for a weekend getaway.

    Not so Alpha = Calling up girl to organise a day to call up again and ask her out.


    +1
     
  15. unjung

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    This is one of the saddest threads I've ever seen.
     
  16. Biscotti

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    I also recommend the book How To Become an Alpha Male by John Alexander. It might help you out a lot. I know it did for me when I read it some years ago.


    I'll by your used copy; I want one as a coffee table book, and no way I'm paying $40
     
  17. jakevszilla

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    Keep at it Richard...Women just seem to give mixed signals all the time!
     
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    Around girls I just want to fuck, I'm completely cool, suave, etc. But when I see a 'good' girl (marriage material) I'm not the coolest cat.


    I'm really curious how "cool, suave, etc." you are with girls you just want to fuck. please share.
     
  19. acidboy

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    oh, and this thread makes me cry.
     
  20. corpuszero

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    haha yeah show her this thread!
     

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