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need advice on a very sad situation

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by thekunk07, Apr 25, 2012.

  1. thekunk07

    thekunk07 Senior member

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    so, my wife's cousin's wife just passed away at 42. melanoma that spread, happened very quickly.

    they are all in ireland. they have 4 kids, 15, 11, 8 sand 6. i don't want to send something as trite as flowers. any suggestions on a care package for them? they don't need food or money or anything like that, i just am not sure of an appropriate gesture. any suggestions would be much appreciated.
     


  2. cptjeff

    cptjeff Senior member

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    Don't discount food. For a lot of people, with the hassle of trying to put together arrangements and deal with the loss of someone close, a couple of good meals they don't have to think about preparing is quite meaningful.
     


  3. Teger

    Teger Senior member

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    I think a really good gift would be if you called up a caterer local to them and them and get a bunch of food dropped off. I promise it'll be appreciated.
     
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  4. Concordia

    Concordia Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    A card. With all the words written by you.
     


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    acidboy Senior member

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    so apparently irish wakes can last a few days and food and alcohol are present. plus one on teger's idea.
     


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    An Irish funeral without some kind of punch-up is not a good sending off..
     


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    It's true....I've been to two Irish funerals, one of which was my late grandad, and that's exactly what happened.
     
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    I say, a hand written letter to each the husband and children. It's a sincere gesture. If the deceased had an income, and you think the family would be struggling or will have difficulty transitioning without that extra support, money is not a bad gesture. It lets the family grieve without worrying about financials.
     


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    two things - one, I would agree that asking a caterer to help out for a week would be a good thing. families in need need food.

    the other thing would be a handwritten note that extends an invitation to each of them to visit and spend some time with you, in the future. for anybody, knowing that they have a place to stay in new york is very cool. and kids in trauma need something to dream about.

    sorry for your loss
     


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