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need advice on a very sad situation

thekunk07

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so, my wife's cousin's wife just passed away at 42. melanoma that spread, happened very quickly.

they are all in ireland. they have 4 kids, 15, 11, 8 sand 6. i don't want to send something as trite as flowers. any suggestions on a care package for them? they don't need food or money or anything like that, i just am not sure of an appropriate gesture. any suggestions would be much appreciated.
 

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Don't discount food. For a lot of people, with the hassle of trying to put together arrangements and deal with the loss of someone close, a couple of good meals they don't have to think about preparing is quite meaningful.
 

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I think a really good gift would be if you called up a caterer local to them and them and get a bunch of food dropped off. I promise it'll be appreciated.
 
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A card. With all the words written by you.
 

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so apparently irish wakes can last a few days and food and alcohol are present. plus one on teger's idea.
 

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so apparently irish wakes can last a few days and food and alcohol are present. plus one on teger's idea.

An Irish funeral without some kind of punch-up is not a good sending off..
 

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An Irish funeral without some kind of punch-up is not a good sending off..

It's true....I've been to two Irish funerals, one of which was my late grandad, and that's exactly what happened.
 
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I say, a hand written letter to each the husband and children. It's a sincere gesture. If the deceased had an income, and you think the family would be struggling or will have difficulty transitioning without that extra support, money is not a bad gesture. It lets the family grieve without worrying about financials.
 

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two things - one, I would agree that asking a caterer to help out for a week would be a good thing. families in need need food.

the other thing would be a handwritten note that extends an invitation to each of them to visit and spend some time with you, in the future. for anybody, knowing that they have a place to stay in new york is very cool. and kids in trauma need something to dream about.

sorry for your loss
 

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