need advice on a very sad situation

[thekunk07]

so, my wife's cousin's wife just passed away at 42. melanoma that spread, happened very quickly.

they are all in ireland. they have 4 kids, 15, 11, 8 sand 6. i don't want to send something as trite as flowers. any suggestions on a care package for them? they don't need food or money or anything like that, i just am not sure of an appropriate gesture. any suggestions would be much appreciated.

 

[cptjeff]

Don't discount food. For a lot of people, with the hassle of trying to put together arrangements and deal with the loss of someone close, a couple of good meals they don't have to think about preparing is quite meaningful.

 

[dfagdfsh]

I think a really good gift would be if you called up a caterer local to them and them and get a bunch of food dropped off. I promise it'll be appreciated.

 

[Concordia]

A card. With all the words written by you.

 

[acidboy]

so apparently irish wakes can last a few days and food and alcohol are present. plus one on teger's idea.

 

[lasbar]



so apparently irish wakes can last a few days and food and alcohol are present. plus one on teger's idea.

An Irish funeral without some kind of punch-up is not a good sending off..

 

[MikeDT]



An Irish funeral without some kind of punch-up is not a good sending off..

It's true....I've been to two Irish funerals, one of which was my late grandad, and that's exactly what happened.

 

[detonate]

I say, a hand written letter to each the husband and children. It's a sincere gesture. If the deceased had an income, and you think the family would be struggling or will have difficulty transitioning without that extra support, money is not a bad gesture. It lets the family grieve without worrying about financials.

 

[globetrotter]

two things - one, I would agree that asking a caterer to help out for a week would be a good thing. families in need need food.

the other thing would be a handwritten note that extends an invitation to each of them to visit and spend some time with you, in the future. for anybody, knowing that they have a place to stay in new york is very cool. and kids in trauma need something to dream about.

sorry for your loss