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Met this chick and I practically screwed myself.

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by polo votarient, Feb 1, 2011.

  1. IBJanky

    IBJanky Senior member

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    You have much to learn. But there's hope...Not with this girl, but with the next one. Watch "The Tao of Steve". Forward to :45 for the lesson.

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    You basically did this.
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    You texted desperation and anxiousness to her. Once a girl smells desperation, it is done. Don't even try to get this girl back, you'll only be wasting your time. Seriously, don't text her again. Learn from this and move on. You lost this fish, cast your reel and catch another one. Don't contact this girl. Forget about her. You will find another one.


    Your first text should have been something like: (do not try this now, it's over with that girl. This is just an example)

    What were you saying - you were going to chase me for 3 months? I'm not THAT easy! BTW, I prefer candy over flowers...

    The above displays that you're playful and confident. You turned the whole thing around - she's chasing you. This will be unbelievably attractive to most women, especially beautiful women who aren't used to someone turning the tables on them. Hot chicks are used to guys kissing their butts and tripping over themselves to please her. Don't be that guy. I know, I know - it sounds like you're an arrogant bastard. Girls love arrogant bastards - they really do. Why do you think girls are so crazy about bad boys? Confidence - You have to be the prize, not the other way around

    (she'll text you back with many LOLs. This is a good sign. After 3 hours or more, you reply with this: )

    I've got some things to do this weekend, but maybe we can meet next week for a drink. I know this really cool place. Wed, Thurs are good for me.

    This shows you're a busy guy with plans. You also have a place planned out to take her to (find a place beforehand). Girls love a guy with a plan. You're also making her fit into your schedule, not the other way around.

    (A few days later - a few days before you go for drinks/coffee with her - you text her with)

    Hey, I met your twin yesterday. That wasn't you, was it?

    This demonstrates that other girls of her caliber are willing to talk to you. This will create intense jealousy on her part - women are always in competition with each other, even if that 'other' was someone you made up. She barely knows you, yet all of a sudden she's magically attracted to you, if only because she's competing with 'the twin'!


    This advice is spot on.

    myke
     
  2. CalTex

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    Come on dude, that was the lulz!

    Forget about this chick. You ruined your chances. There are a million more.


    lol yes it was, I was just not in the mood lol. but yes it was funny.
     
  3. deadly7

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    to summarize.....

    Treat them mean - keep them keen....

    Treat them nice -- pay the price.


    Well known saying.


    Sure, if you're looking for a one night stand.
     
  4. ChicagoMediaMan

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    Treat a girl like shit, and she is yours. Period.

    This is definitely true in some cases, but not always. Especially as you get a little older I feel like it tends to change a little. On the whole treat a girl like shit and she will like you thought....It's really about finding that right balance. You can be nice to her and treat her well without letting her walk all over you and still get a girl to like you. In my opinion, if a girl only likes you when you treat her like absolute shit, then she is a psychological train-wreck who has been fucked over by men her whole life and she is better off avoiding in the first place.
     
  5. word

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    Are you a musician by any chance? If you play for a band or are the frontman, you don't even have to try.

    Trust me. v_v


    It's hit or miss.

    Certainly more hit than whatever it is he's doing, or not doing, that means he's only met one girl his age in 6 months.
     
  6. tagutcow

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    PLZ HALP. How do I get a girl into a position where I can treat her like shit?
     
  7. mm84321

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    I think this whole "treating a girl like shit" thing is a common misconception. Most are led to believe it because those successful with women, i.e. good looking men, usually don't fawn over them and shower them with ingratiating compliments, like those with less luck with the ladies do, i.e. ugly men. The reason being: they don't have to. They can afford to be douchebags for the very reason that they can move from one mate to another, without much concern of being able to succeed in doing so. However, correlation does not imply causation. It is not because they treat a girl like shit, that they are successful in acquiring her, it is because they can get a girl that they treat her like shit. The causality is reversed. The reason they are successful is most likely because the opposite sex is naturally physically attracted to them, and not their impudent personality. Obviously, I am speaking from a purely superficial level here. I believe this pattern is mostly seen amongst the youth, who are, for the most part, basing their attraction on appearances solely. It seems to be that once you get older, standards start to change and women, and men alike (although to a lesser degree), start to look for more valuable characteristics in the opposite sex, such as loyalty, compassion, intellect, and paternal instincts. At this point, those who still believe treating a woman like shit is key will most likely end up alone. So the most effective thing that those with less luck with the opposite sex can do is to devote their time getting into optimal health and peak physical condition. Having style is important as well; but a Tom Ford suit on a fat man is still, unfortunately, a fat man. Just my thoughts.
     
  8. wootx

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    ^^^ Good points. I totally agree with you here.
     
  9. Joenobody0

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    PLZ HALP. How do I get a girl into a position where I can treat her like shit?

    I've never been a "treat a girl like shit" kind of guy. However, I am the sort of guy that's generally indifferent to everyone (men and women). I tend to do my own thing. When I was younger I was focused on college, as I got older I was focused on my career. I didn't really have the time or inclination to chase after any women. However, I was successful. Not rich, but always well respected in any situation. To put it in style forum speak, I was alpha as fuck [​IMG] .

    I think women responded to that because they saw a driven successful person who tended to not give most people the time of day. Consequently, when I made time for a women or showed them deference, they responded very well. I'm sure that many people have assumed that I was an asshole due to my reserved and very private nature, but I have definitely been pursued by a number of desirable women. Before anyone asks, I am no Brad Pitt or anything. I stay in shape, am generally good looking, but I'm not very tall (5'8" or so).

    So if you're actually looking for advice, I'd say you should focus on yourself. Get to the point that you're happy being alone. Cultivate a sort of aloof disposition, and concentrate on your own life. You might not bang 200 sluts in your life, but interesting good looking women will pursue you. At the same time, you'll be setting the foundation for a very nice life. I hope it works out.

    Also, the best way to find slutty chicks to have sex with is to go to the bar and get drunk; especially the sort of bar that caters to the 27+ career women demographic.
     
  10. TyCooN

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    so what happen to the OP?
     
  11. TyCooN

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    I've never been a "treat a girl like shit" kind of guy. However, I am the sort of guy that's generally indifferent to everyone (men and women). I tend to do my own thing. When I was younger I was focused on college, as I got older I was focused on my career. I didn't really have the time or inclination to chase after any women. However, I was successful. Not rich, but always well respected in any situation. To put it in style forum speak, I was alpha as fuck [​IMG] .

    I think women responded to that because they saw a driven successful person who tended to not give most people the time of day. Consequently, when I made time for a women or showed them deference, they responded very well. I'm sure that many people have assumed that I was an asshole due to my reserved and very private nature, but I have definitely been pursued by a number of desirable women. Before anyone asks, I am no Brad Pitt or anything. I stay in shape, am generally good looking, but I'm not very tall (5'8" or so).

    So if you're actually looking for advice, I'd say you should focus on yourself. Get to the point that you're happy being alone. Cultivate a sort of aloof disposition, and concentrate on your own life. You might not bang 200 sluts in your life, but interesting good looking women will pursue you. At the same time, you'll be setting the foundation for a very nice life. I hope it works out.

    Also, the best way to find slutty chicks to have sex with is to go to the bar and get drunk; especially the sort of bar that caters to the 27+ career women demographic.

    good advice

    Key to not giving a fuck is to have something you're passionate about in life, video games and women don't count, and/or always be chasing more than one girl at any time.
     
  12. mkarim

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    I've never been a "treat a girl like shit" kind of guy. However, I am the sort of guy that's generally indifferent to everyone (men and women). I tend to do my own thing. When I was younger I was focused on college, as I got older I was focused on my career. I didn't really have the time or inclination to chase after any women. However, I was successful. Not rich, but always well respected in any situation. To put it in style forum speak, I was alpha as fuck [​IMG] .

    I think women responded to that because they saw a driven successful person who tended to not give most people the time of day. Consequently, when I made time for a women or showed them deference, they responded very well. I'm sure that many people have assumed that I was an asshole due to my reserved and very private nature, but I have definitely been pursued by a number of desirable women. Before anyone asks, I am no Brad Pitt or anything. I stay in shape, am generally good looking, but I'm not very tall (5'8" or so).

    So if you're actually looking for advice, I'd say you should focus on yourself. Get to the point that you're happy being alone. Cultivate a sort of aloof disposition, and concentrate on your own life. You might not bang 200 sluts in your life, but interesting good looking women will pursue you. At the same time, you'll be setting the foundation for a very nice life. I hope it works out.

    Also, the best way to find slutty chicks to have sex with is to go to the bar and get drunk; especially the sort of bar that caters to the 27+ career women demographic.


    Excellent advice.
     
  13. Star

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    I've never been a "treat a girl like shit" kind of guy. However, I am the sort of guy that's generally indifferent to everyone (men and women). I tend to do my own thing. When I was younger I was focused on college, as I got older I was focused on my career. I didn't really have the time or inclination to chase after any women. However, I was successful. Not rich, but always well respected in any situation. To put it in style forum speak, I was alpha as fuck [​IMG] .

    I think women responded to that because they saw a driven successful person who tended to not give most people the time of day. Consequently, when I made time for a women or showed them deference, they responded very well. I'm sure that many people have assumed that I was an asshole due to my reserved and very private nature, but I have definitely been pursued by a number of desirable women. Before anyone asks, I am no Brad Pitt or anything. I stay in shape, am generally good looking, but I'm not very tall (5'8" or so).

    So if you're actually looking for advice, I'd say you should focus on yourself. Get to the point that you're happy being alone. Cultivate a sort of aloof disposition, and concentrate on your own life. You might not bang 200 sluts in your life, but interesting good looking women will pursue you. At the same time, you'll be setting the foundation for a very nice life. I hope it works out.

    Also, the best way to find slutty chicks to have sex with is to go to the bar and get drunk; especially the sort of bar that caters to the 27+ career women demographic.


    Good post.
     
  14. Khayembii Communique

    Khayembii Communique Senior member

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    Key to most women: Talk shit to them. Don't worry if they get mad.

    That is all you need to know. If you are able to talk shit to a woman and give her shit for fun, and aren't worried about upsetting her or crossing any lines, then you are as confident and independent as you need to be.
     
  15. tagutcow

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    I've never been a "treat a girl like shit" kind of guy. However, I am the sort of guy that's generally indifferent to everyone (men and women). I tend to do my own thing. When I was younger I was focused on college, as I got older I was focused on my career. I didn't really have the time or inclination to chase after any women. However, I was successful. Not rich, but always well respected in any situation. To put it in style forum speak, I was alpha as fuck [​IMG] . I think women responded to that because they saw a driven successful person who tended to not give most people the time of day. Consequently, when I made time for a women or showed them deference, they responded very well. I'm sure that many people have assumed that I was an asshole due to my reserved and very private nature, but I have definitely been pursued by a number of desirable women. Before anyone asks, I am no Brad Pitt or anything. I stay in shape, am generally good looking, but I'm not very tall (5'8" or so).
    Honestly, it seems like I was approached by more women back before I started working out and "Dressing well" (or at least as well as I do now, heh.) Maybe it's because my demeanor has been gradually worsening, and/or because my social life has been gradually narrowing.
    I have focused on my self. I've had all the time in the world to focus on myself. I have my own personal projects… hell, check the links in my sig, which represent only a fraction of it. None of that means anything to anybody in the real life because nobody has any way of knowing about it. On the plus side, nobody has any way of knowing I don't have any money either. I'm pretty much a complete stranger everywhere I go.
    Trust me, I have the aloof down pat. In fact, about a month ago, a girl actually complimented me on my don't-give-a-fuck attitude. Which is odd, since it's not something I acquired as a matter of choice, but through necessity-- a kind of mimimum level of comfort not doing what I wouldn't have been able to do anyway. The way your advice would seem to translate to my own life is, "spend even more time at home," which I can't imagine would work very well.
    I really have no idea what I'm going to do professionally, and I feel like loneliness is depleting whatever motivation I may have had. It's wrecking me from the inside out, and "friends" who have known me on a non-superficial basis have not only never lifted a finger to help me meet anybody, but have in fact done everything within their power to sabotage whatever few opportunities I've ever had to meet women, and then mocked my loneliness. Thinking about it makes me angry-- seriously punching walls angry.
    No. I've been getting drunk at bars several times a week for years, and have never met women on any non-flukish basis. Having a conversation with an unfamiliar woman that goes beyond introductions is something that happens to me once every few months at most. Of course, usually I go to cliquey college bars because they're the only bars I can afford to go to. Anyone who's not already familiar from school is pretty much persona non grata. Plus there usually aren't any pool tables in the shiki miki mill-about-and-socialize type bars, and I end up bored, then lonely, then resentful.
    Key to most women: Talk shit to them. Don't worry if they get mad. That is all you need to know. If you are able to talk shit to a woman and give her shit for fun, and aren't worried about upsetting her or crossing any lines, then you are as confident and independent as you need to be.
    No. It is not all you need to know. You are wrong. I seriously think guys who say things like this can't imagine that there are people out there who don't go clubbing every weekend with their brahs.
     
  16. kwilkinson

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    Tagut, you should come to Chicago. I can't promise to get you laid, but I can promise to get you drunk and show you a good time (no homo).
     
  17. tagutcow

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    Tagut, you should come to Chicago. I can't promise to get you laid, but I can promise to get you drunk and show you a good time (no homo).

    Metro and Slash have invited me to New York, and they have promised to get me laid, so your offer, while appreciated, will have to be given secondary consideration.
     
  18. NorCal

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    T, you kind of make me sad. Try wearing more black. For real. Someday when I'm not too lazy to type more I'll elaborate.
     
  19. Khayembii Communique

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    LOL. I don't go clubbing and I'm definitely not a "brah".

    Considering the fact that you only meet girls through "flukes" (i.e. through friends or through the off chance that a girl talks to you or you get drunk enough to actually talk to a girl) and that you rarely get past introducing yourself to women you don't know, it's pretty hilarious to see you act as if you know what you're talking about.
     
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    I really have no idea what I'm going to do professionally, and I feel like loneliness is depleting whatever motivation I may have had. It's wrecking me from the inside out, and "friends" who have known me on a non-superficial basis have not only never lifted a finger to help me meet anybody, but have in fact done everything within their power to sabotage whatever few opportunities I've ever had to meet women, and then mocked my loneliness. Thinking about it makes me angry-- seriously punching walls angry.
    [​IMG] When I read stuff like this I think you should get the hell out off Greensborough (if that is what it's called). If you ever come to The Netherlands; I know of at least three women. At least.
    LOL. I don't go clubbing and I'm definitely not a "brah". Considering the fact that you only meet girls through "flukes" (i.e. through friends or through the off chance that a girl talks to you or you get drunk enough to actually talk to a girl) and that you rarely get past introducing yourself to women you don't know, it's pretty hilarious to see you act as if you know what you're talking about.
    [​IMG] Brah, Unlike other posters I find your advice based on n=1 a bit tedious. Edit: Off to find a bum to fight.
     

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