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Met this chick and I practically screwed myself.

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by polo votarient, Feb 1, 2011.

  1. Joenobody0

    Joenobody0 Senior member

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    = I'm pretty much a complete stranger everywhere I go.
    This is your primary problem. You can't seem cool and respected if nobody knows who are. The perception of those two qualities has been responsible for 95% of every women encounter I've ever had. I'm married now, and don't go out alone at all. However, if I were single and in a new town, I'd be focused on doing well at work (assuming you have a job). I know workplace romances aren't the best, but doing well at work would definitely lead to the sort of perception that you're looking to create. Even if you don't date your female coworkers, they will still be into you, and you will be introduced as this great/driven/successful guy when you meet their friends.
    = Trust me, I have the aloof down pat. In fact, about a month ago, a girl actually complimented me on my don't-give-a-fuck attitude.
    I think she was actually saying "pay attention to me cool James Dean guy". It might have been a very good opening.
    = The way your advice would seem to translate to my own life is, "spend even more time at home," which I can't imagine would work very well.
    Definitely don't stay at home. I've always been into boxing and martial art stuff. If I were you I'd join a real Jiujitsu/Boxing/Kick Boxing gym that offers some sort of cardio kickboxing classes. Women flock to those, and when they see a man out there fighting for real, they respond very well. If course it will take time before you're not getting your ass kicked every day, but it will be good for you. It will build confidence and let you know that you can take care of yourself. That's another quality that women really respond to. I know for a fact that my wife gravitated to me because she saw kick the ass of a bum that was harassing her and her sister. If you can be that guy, you're going to have to beat women off with a stick.
    = I really have no idea what I'm going to do professionally, and I feel like loneliness is depleting whatever motivation I may have had. It's wrecking me from the inside out, and "friends" who have known me on a non-superficial basis have not only never lifted a finger to help me meet anybody, but have in fact done everything within their power to sabotage whatever few opportunities I've ever had to meet women, and then mocked my loneliness. Thinking about it makes me angry-- seriously punching walls angry.
    Your friends sound like assholes. I wouldn't get mad and punch a wall about. 5 years ago I would have: 1 Consumed enough booze to comfortably make a scene 2 Talked shit to these friends + make obvious passes at their girlfriends. 3 Find a way to get myself alone with girlfriends while drunk 4 Have sex with the girlfriends (if you get the this step, it will be likely that you can easily bed them) 5 Tell the friend you fucked his girlfriend and kick his ass. The bolded part is going to cause you problems. That is not aloof, and it's going to come through in a tangible way in your interactions with people. Working on getting every single aspect of your life straight: friends, work, self, and family (if you have lingering issues with that sort of stuff). Women will follow after you're done.
     
  2. CDFS

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    This is your primary problem. You can't seem cool and respected if nobody knows who are. The perception of those two qualities has been responsible for 95% of every women encounter I've ever had. I'm married now, and don't go out alone at all. However, if I were single and in a new town, I'd be focused on doing well at work (assuming you have a job). I know workplace romances aren't the best, but doing well at work would definitely lead to the sort of perception that you're looking to create. Even if you don't date your female coworkers, they will still be into you, and you will be introduced as this great/driven/successful guy when you meet their friends.


    I think she was actually saying "pay attention to me cool James Dean guy". It might have been a very good opening.



    Definitely don't stay at home. I've always been into boxing and martial art stuff. If I were you I'd join a real Jiujitsu/Boxing/Kick Boxing gym that offers some sort of cardio kickboxing classes. Women flock to those, and when they see a man out there fighting for real, they respond very well. If course it will take time before you're not getting your ass kicked every day, but it will be good for you.

    It will build confidence and let you know that you can take care of yourself. That's another quality that women really respond to. I know for a fact that my wife gravitated to me because she saw kick the ass of a bum that was harassing her and her sister. If you can be that guy, you're going to have to beat women off with a stick.



    Your friends sound like assholes. I wouldn't get mad and punch a wall about. 5 years ago I would have:

    1 Consumed enough booze to comfortably make a scene
    2 Talked shit to these friends + make obvious passes at their girlfriends.
    3 Find a way to get myself alone with girlfriends while drunk
    4 Have sex with the girlfriends (if you get the this step, it will be likely that you can easily bed them)
    5 Tell the friend you fucked his girlfriend and kick his ass.

    The bolded part is going to cause you problems. That is not aloof, and it's going to come through in a tangible way in your interactions with people. Working on getting every single aspect of your life straight: friends, work, self, and family (if you have lingering issues with that sort of stuff). Women will follow after you're done.


    tl;dr: Just get your act together, dude. Live life to the fullest and you'll have a full life.
     
  3. HgaleK

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    demeanor has been gradually worsening I have focused on my self. I've had all the time in the world to focus on myself. Trust me, I have the aloof down pat. In fact, about a month ago, a girl actually complimented me on my don't-give-a-fuck attitude. Which is odd, since it's not something I acquired as a matter of choice, but through necessity-- a kind of mimimum level of comfort not doing what I wouldn't have been able to do anyway. The way your advice would seem to translate to my own life is, "spend even more time at home," which I can't imagine would work very well.
    Man- what I think he was getting at was the aloofness that comes from being happy with yourself. The sort of attitude that comes when it honestly doesn't matter whether or not you go home with someone tonight not because you've given up on the company, but because you enjoy your time by yourself. People picked up on it quickly when I went through a depressed, giving up on everyone phase. It was a self-fulfilling sort of negativity that drove people away and proceeded to simply reinforce my feelings that nobody cared about me. I was miserable to be around, so people didn't want to be around me. If you're down enough that you've noticed it effecting your demeanor, then everyone else is getting the same vibe. I wouldn't invite you meet other people because you'd kill the mood. CDFS has it- pull yourself out of whatever hole you're digging and start living a life that you enjoy.
     
  4. Rambo

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    Tagut and I are sympatico :sad:
     
  5. Lane

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    I've never been a "treat a girl like shit" kind of guy. However, I am the sort of guy that's generally indifferent to everyone (men and women). I tend to do my own thing. When I was younger I was focused on college, as I got older I was focused on my career. I didn't really have the time or inclination to chase after any women. However, I was successful. Not rich, but always well respected in any situation. To put it in style forum speak, I was alpha as fuck [​IMG] .

    I think women responded to that because they saw a driven successful person who tended to not give most people the time of day. Consequently, when I made time for a women or showed them deference, they responded very well. I'm sure that many people have assumed that I was an asshole due to my reserved and very private nature, but I have definitely been pursued by a number of desirable women. Before anyone asks, I am no Brad Pitt or anything. I stay in shape, am generally good looking, but I'm not very tall (5'8" or so).

    So if you're actually looking for advice, I'd say you should focus on yourself. Get to the point that you're happy being alone. Cultivate a sort of aloof disposition, and concentrate on your own life. You might not bang 200 sluts in your life, but interesting good looking women will pursue you. At the same time, you'll be setting the foundation for a very nice life. I hope it works out.

    Also, the best way to find slutty chicks to have sex with is to go to the bar and get drunk; especially the sort of bar that caters to the 27+ career women demographic.




    dude, are you like my brother?
     
  6. CDFS

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    Man- what I think he was getting at was the aloofness that comes from being happy with yourself. The sort of attitude that comes when it honestly doesn't matter whether or not you go home with someone tonight not because you've given up on the company, but because you enjoy your time by yourself. People picked up on it quickly when I went through a depressed, giving up on everyone phase. It was a self-fulfilling sort of negativity that drove people away and proceeded to simply reinforce my feelings that nobody cared about me. I was miserable to be around, so people didn't want to be around me. If you're down enough that you've noticed it effecting your demeanor, then everyone else is getting the same vibe. I wouldn't invite you meet other people because you'd kill the mood. CDFS has it- pull yourself out of whatever hole you're digging and start living a life that you enjoy.
    Yeah, I was, like, being ironic, like. I thought:
    was delightfully circular. But on the same track; when I was depressed (before), I once went to a university psychologist who made me describe my day. Hearing of my empty existince he told me everyone would be depressed living such a life. This made sense only it is difficult to apply this knowledge in a positive fashion to one's life.
     
  7. Joenobody0

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    dude, are you like my brother?

    Maybe, my Dad is a fairly amorous dude!
     
  8. HgaleK

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    Yeah, I was, like, being ironic, like.

    I was actually directing that one at Tagut, killer.
     
  9. Mr. White

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    There has to be some good book or Maxim Magazine article on how to recognize when a woman's in heat. That's the best time to make a pass.

    The rest of the time, well yeah: ignore them. 26 out of 29 days, their libidos are too low for them to pay any attention to you or any other men.
     
  10. Sartorial1

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    Boy:So how long will I have to chase you before I can take you to dinner?
    This was your first mistake,
    you should have just asked her out.
     
  11. mkarim

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    This was your first mistake,
    you should have just asked her out.


    ..and don't take her to dinner. Ask her to join you in an activity you enjoy. Taking a woman to dinner puts her in the courting mindset, where you have to keep chasing her.
     
  12. CalTex

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    so what happen to the OP?

    OP is still here, its me, but I had to change my profile. (dont ask)

    I havent read the most recent comments because I have been caught up with school work but I will get back to it. So tomorrow is valentines day and im stuck without a chick, this blows. I have failed this month.
     
  13. tagutcow

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    OP is still here, its me, but I had to change my profile. (dont ask)

    I havent read the most recent comments because I have been caught up with school work but I will get back to it. So tomorrow is valentines day and im stuck without a chick, this blows. I have failed this month.


    It's all about confidence, brah. You need to work on your confidence, brah. Drink some more so you can have more confidence, brah.
     
  14. EMY

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    This was your first mistake,
    you should have just asked her out.


    +1 this is something I learned.
     
  15. ALFAMALE

    ALFAMALE Senior member

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    Dude.....seriously....PICK UP THE PHONE AND CALL HER!!!
    WTF is with all of the texting!!! PICK UP THE PHONE!! how many times can that be said! PICK UP THE PHONE!!!!
    AFTER you get the goods, text all yuou want. Until then, PICK UP THE PHONE!!
    If you are 14 and under, text all you want. Over 14, PICK UP THE FUKKING PHONE!


    + 1000000
     
  16. ALFAMALE

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    Get a cell phone without texting capabilities, and meet a piece a pussy, get the number, "hey, want to see a movie...." . If she says no, then repeat again with the next piece a pussy. Your 20, shes not the one until ur fuked her 5 times. Remeber, your 20 shes not a girl, shes a piece a pussy...
     
  17. kwilkinson

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    Get a cell phone without texting capabilities, and meet a piece a pussy, get the number, "hey, want to see a movie...." . If she says no, then repeat again with the next piece a pussy. Your 20, shes not the one until ur fuked her 5 times. Remeber, your 20 shes not a girl, shes a piece a pussy...

    Trust this guy! He spent way more time slammin' different pieces of pussy than he did in English class.
     
  18. tagutcow

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    Remeber, your 20 shes not a girl, shes a piece a pussy...

    Holy shit. This guy's the real deal. Axle-level Alpha-As-Fuck.

    While I can appreciate the grim determination of the alpha male, is it possible to have the determination and maybe lightening up on the grim?
     
  19. skyman

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    [​IMG] +1 That guy sounds like he invented alpha. Or alfa as he calls it.
    Trust this guy! He spent way more time slammin' different pieces of pussy than he did in English class.
     
  20. mkarim

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    tomorrow is valentines day and im stuck without a chick, this blows. I have failed this month.

    Women (or "chicks") feel bad if they are without an SO on Valentine's Day. Man up!! Let THEM live the fairy tale.
     

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