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Stylish Dinosaur
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One thing you need to understand is that in most cases like this where the girl ends the relationship, is that you cannot get hung up on what once was. I've been in your shoes (and like I said, still am some days) where you think back to the cute things she did or said or the specific good times you shared. But that's all in the past, because by the time most girls end a relationship, they've already removed themselves emotionally from the relationship.
Even if you guys were on the same wavelength as far as personalities go, it's not likely going to be the same after the relationship is over. In my case, several people dubbed us "the perfect couple" that you couldn't replicate if you tried. But once that relationship was over, the free and easy flow of our conversations stopped. The cute talk stopped. She was still the same person to other people, but when talking to me, it was like talking to a stranger.
Guys have a rep for being emotionally absent when it comes to failed relationships, but that's actually not true. There was a study done recently that found young men are actually hit harder by a failed relationship than young women are. Girls are often the most invested person during the relationship, but once they've had enough, they check out emotionally and unless you're starring in some Hollywood fluff piece, all the cutesy things you can think of doing for her aren't going to change that.
Even if you guys were on the same wavelength as far as personalities go, it's not likely going to be the same after the relationship is over. In my case, several people dubbed us "the perfect couple" that you couldn't replicate if you tried. But once that relationship was over, the free and easy flow of our conversations stopped. The cute talk stopped. She was still the same person to other people, but when talking to me, it was like talking to a stranger.
Guys have a rep for being emotionally absent when it comes to failed relationships, but that's actually not true. There was a study done recently that found young men are actually hit harder by a failed relationship than young women are. Girls are often the most invested person during the relationship, but once they've had enough, they check out emotionally and unless you're starring in some Hollywood fluff piece, all the cutesy things you can think of doing for her aren't going to change that.