Matt
ex-m@Triate
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I need to vent that I have a colleague at work where things did not turn out. I dont want to go into the details other than to say that everytime I think I have got over her 'she pulls me back in!' It is by way of coming by my desk, emailing or messaging me for work related stuff, or I somehow get dragged back via other co-workers we are jointly on good terms with. I am looking forward to the day when I switch companies and I have her out of sight and hopefully out of mind. When I can say to her on my last day at 5pm 'it was nice knowing you but now it is all finnished'.
Consciously she wants me in her friendzone and subconsciously I have no doubt I am her 'backup' in ife if things fall through with her current real bf. Neither of these suit me. The challenge is ignoring her given I have been given a project she is on (as an SME) and trying not to come across as 'me' being the 'problem' either through being rude or distant as I end labelled as the one with issues. Either way I will keep comms with her to a minimum, begave professionally and look forward to that job change (whenever that day may come). I probably also need to find someone else to distract me but currently there is no one.
I don't think I understand this situation, or at least, my understanding of it is not painting you in the best light. A colleague, with a boyfriend, emails you at work about work (which is what colleagues do) or comes to your desk to talk about work (which is what colleagues do), or you find yourself out and about with her because there's a work thing happening (which is what happens at work things) and you are upset that she is "dragging you back in" because you have convinced yourself that she has made you Plan B. As far as I can tell, the posts above don't indicate that she has you as Plan Anything other than "the guy who sits 5 cubicles away", and she's not dragging you "back" anywhere - it sounds more like you were never there to begin with. Are you leaving something out of this story?