Yet another wedding-wear question

[lukemil]

Gentlemen of StyleForum,

I'd like your suggestions on dress for attending a wedding in Atlanta in May in the late afternoon. The bride is a friend of my wife's and I may well be the least important guest. I think it will be a relatively big wedding at around 200 attendees. Here's the catch: the invitation specified "no ties." Now I suspect that I am in agreement with the majority of you that that is no way to have a wedding, but the lucky couple did not ask my opinion. My inclination is a blue blazer over a shirt with a pattern that includes white, a pocket square, cotton or linen pants (seersucker?), and suede shoes (bucks or semi-brogues), but I am curious what suggestions you all might have. Actually, my inclination is the same tux and bow tie that I would wear if the invitation had indicated black tie, but my wife has encouraged me to follow the instructions.

Thanks in advance.

 

[Ich_Dien]

Wear a cravat.

 

[radicaldog]

A wedding with no ties is better than your typical American daytime wedding in evening clothes. Having said that, your proposed ensemble sounds approriate. Alternatively you could think about a linen or even seersucker suit. You just don't want to look like a businessman who took off his tie.

 

[Montrachet]

I think your blazer combo would be perfect. If you go with seersucker though, be careful if you're wearing a shirt with a pattern.

 

[lukemil]

Despite trying to sound tough about my preference for black tie, I don't have the sand to wear a cravat.

 

[Master Squirrel]

If it is a backwoods Southern wedding they mean no "plastic zip" ties. Bring your handcuffs. Your "seven minutes of heaven" with Uncle George in the woodshed will be fun. This is how you merge families in them parts.

 

[apropos]

Originally Posted by lukemil

Actually, my inclination is the same tux and bow tie that I would wear if the invitation had indicated black tie, but my wife has encouraged me to follow the instructions.
Show them respect and follow the dress code if you intend to attend.

This wedding is about them - the bride and groom - and certainly not about the partner of a friend of the bride attempting to up the sartorial ante in a display of dress code chutzpah.

 

[bowtielover]

I agree with you that this is no way to have a wedding, but that is besides the point it is there day and if that's what they want then you'll just have to deal with it. You could be smug and dress to teh fullest of your extent but follow the rules by keeping the tie absent. Seriously though I would go with a nice shirt and pair of slacks, you could add a vest or something but I wouldn't expect to see many top peices there.

 

[lukemil]

Originally Posted by apropos

Show them respect and follow the dress code if you intend to attend.

This wedding is about them - the bride and groom - and certainly not about the partner of a friend of the bride attempting to up the sartorial ante in a display of dress code chutzpah.

apropos -

Was it not clear that despite my inclination, that is my intention?

 

[MortyGras]

Old school wedding outfits are balling!