Women crying in public - what to do?

[Aaron01]

Give her a sympathetic crotch to cry on

 

[JayJay]

My dog and I were walking down the street yesterday afternoon when a woman in tears passed by. I looked away so that I wouldn't stare.

 

[SkinnyGoomba]

Originally Posted by JayJay

My dog and I were walking down the street yesterday afternoon when a woman in tears passed by. I looked away so that I wouldn't stare.

Job well done.

 

[till507]

In my opinion, you don't want to find the type of girl who would talk about what was bothering her enough to cry in public. It sounds callous, but there's a type that would relish that kind of attention and they're quick to latch on. Whatever interaction you do have with a girl in that situation should probably be brief, which is more respectful and less embarrassing for her.

Sidenote: This reminds me of a time I took a friend to the emergency room and in the waiting room a girl - really attractive, about 20/21 years old - was crying. Naturally I approached her to ask what was wrong. She proceeded to give me an in-depth explanation of her urinary tract infection (UTI) and how she probably got it (TMI), which was kind of unnecessary. Wretch that I am I did end up with her number (I think she volunteered it), so now I can cross "picking up a German fashion intern in an NYC emergency room" off my bucket list. Don't judge me.

 

[Fuuma]

Politely asking her if she's ok and offering a handkerchief is the way to go. No need to overdo it, she probably doesn't want to talk about it with you and the context is wrong (trains are different than waiting rooms). I'd like to think showing a little compassion and empathy in depersonalized public spaces help. You are not being a ***** for doing this, skinnygoomba is just an insecure young man who overcompensates by puffing his chest.

 

[philosophe]

Originally Posted by Fuuma

Politely asking her if she's ok and offering a handkerchief is the way to go. No need to overdo it, she probably doesn't want to talk about it with you and the context is wrong (trains are different than waiting rooms). I'd like to think showing a little compassion and empathy in depersonalized public spaces help. You are not being a ***** for doing this, skinnygoomba is just an insecure young man who overcompensates by puffing his chest.

+1. If this is really too much contact for you, offer her some kleenex or a handkerchief, then hide behind your newspaper on the train.

 

[SkinnyGoomba]

Originally Posted by Fuuma

Politely asking her if she's ok and offering a handkerchief is the way to go. No need to overdo it, she probably doesn't want to talk about it with you and the context is wrong (trains are different than waiting rooms). I'd like to think showing a little compassion and empathy in depersonalized public spaces help. You are not being a ***** for doing this, skinnygoomba is just an insecure young man who overcompensates by puffing his chest.
You're a hypocrite that doesn't do the right thing when it involves your wallet. I'm just someone who thinks that people who are crying in public need not be intruded upon by some 'nice guy' looking for action, who lacks a real genuine care. You make her feel awkward on top of whatever she's currently feeling. If someone out there really needs my help, i offer a helping hand.

 

[JayJay]

Several months ago in an airport, my flight was delayed and at risk of being canceled. There was a woman who began to sob because she was at risk of missing her father's 10 a.m. funeral service the next morning. A woman whom she didn't know comforted her, and everyone else showed tremendous compassion. Fortunately, our flight was able to take off.

 

[JayJay]

Originally Posted by SkinnyGoomba

I'm just someone who thinks that people who are crying in public need not be intruded upon..... You make her feel awkward on top of whatever she's currently feeling.
I agree. I like to give people in distress privacy albeit in a very public setting.

 

[Davidko19]

Ummm.... this begs the question, why wasnt she in the kitchen?

 

[Fuuma]

Originally Posted by SkinnyGoomba

You're a hypocrite that doesn't do the right thing when it involves your wallet.

I'm just someone who thinks that people who are crying in public need not be intruded upon by some 'nice guy' looking for action, who lacks a real genuine care. You make her feel awkward on top of whatever she's currently feeling.

If someone out there really needs my help, i offer a helping hand.

It's not like I said anything about being a "nice guy" and I certainly didn't encourage anyone to look for "action". Your answer was just base trumpeting of seduction common wisdom/clichÃ

s (nice guys finish last) and had noting to do with the situation at hand. My advice applied to both men and women who encounters this situation and it doesn't matter if the woman crying is a supermodel or a grandma. I'd like to think you'd be nice enough to empathize a little bit with grandma fuuma is she was in a similar situation and I hope I'd have enough gentleness in me to do the same for grandma skinny ******.

 

[Stazy]

^ well said

 

[West24]

Originally Posted by SkinnyGoomba

Keep walking?

Being a nice guy always leads to failure, I'd prefer to just stay away unless it was someone I know well.

yeah man **** that ****. you have to make fun of her first! bitches love that ****. then wear a microphone around your neck because it will be a conversation starter!

 

[Cognacad]

Handled well

 

[Mr T]

Smack her. Give her something to really cry about.