Dewey
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I would not invite the problem kid to the party. Your kid does not want him there. Respect his wishes, it is his day.
And it's not even a day. A birthday party is what, two hours long? I appreciate emptym's wisdom. Seriously he is on to something.
But, you are not going to make a difference in that kid's life, or teach your son a valuable lesson, at a two-hour-long birthday party. The suggestion that you should invite the kid and then devote special attention to him is not realistic, either. A birthday party with 16 kids will be a madhouse, especially once they fill up with cake and ice cream. I don't think it would be wise to plan as though you would be able to control one kid in that crowd.
Finally, I don't think it's nice to patronize the other kid's parent with special demands or warnings. I don't know how you would not look an arrogant ass while you articulated special conditions on the kid and his family. It's a child's birthday party. You are not admitting him to college on a provisional basis.
If the violent kid was a friend of your child's, and if your child wanted him there, then I would invite him and just hope for the best. Odds are nothing out of the ordinary will happen. Plus I would hold back on the cake and ice cream until 30 minutes before the party ends.
And it's not even a day. A birthday party is what, two hours long? I appreciate emptym's wisdom. Seriously he is on to something.
But, you are not going to make a difference in that kid's life, or teach your son a valuable lesson, at a two-hour-long birthday party. The suggestion that you should invite the kid and then devote special attention to him is not realistic, either. A birthday party with 16 kids will be a madhouse, especially once they fill up with cake and ice cream. I don't think it would be wise to plan as though you would be able to control one kid in that crowd.
Finally, I don't think it's nice to patronize the other kid's parent with special demands or warnings. I don't know how you would not look an arrogant ass while you articulated special conditions on the kid and his family. It's a child's birthday party. You are not admitting him to college on a provisional basis.
If the violent kid was a friend of your child's, and if your child wanted him there, then I would invite him and just hope for the best. Odds are nothing out of the ordinary will happen. Plus I would hold back on the cake and ice cream until 30 minutes before the party ends.