Need help (girl of my dreams)

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Richard Pryor, Jun 29, 2011.

  1. whodini

    whodini Conan OOOOOOO"BRIEN!

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    I'm 31. She'll be 28 in Sept.

    One thing I didn't mention is that she's leaving in August for one year to do her masters. It's just for 1 year, and she said she is definitely coming back after that. But this is something I thought I should mention.

    Yeah, game over. I'm not sure what you're expecting to happen in a month.
     


  2. texas_jack

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    you lose
     


  3. Richard Pryor

    Richard Pryor Senior member

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    Yeah, game over. I'm not sure what you're expecting to happen in a month.

    It's about a month and a half. And seeing each other once a month is pretty doable. Actually healthy for a relationship if you ask me.

    So, I guess the majority thinks I should make one last attempt.

    Give her a call or send a txt?
     


  4. texas_jack

    texas_jack Senior member

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    It's about a month and a half. And seeing each other once a month is pretty doable. Actually healthy for a relationship if you ask me.

    So, I guess the majority thinks I should make one last attempt.

    Give her a call or send a txt?


    Call her. Fuck this is why I hate texting. You could have avoided all this shit if you just called her because on the phone she can't hide it if she doesn't like you. Call her, ask her on a proper date, if she says anything other than "yes" she's not interested.
     


  5. mr.orange

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    Her biological clock is ticking so loud it is probably clouding her judgement.

    lol

    Based on her willingness to follow-up on the plan you made to go to the beach, I'd say that one unreturned call isn't a bad sign. I sometimes leave emails from my closest friends unanswered for days by accident/procrastination. If she's talking to you, she's still interested, I'm sure. The hard-to-get thing is fairly common these days, so I'd definitely say give her a call.

    what if she's just being polite?
     


  6. Richard Pryor

    Richard Pryor Senior member

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    Call her. Fuck this is why I hate texting. You could have avoided all this shit if you just called her because on the phone she can't hide it if she doesn't like you. Call her, ask her on a proper date, if she says anything other than "yes" she's not interested.

    Thanks. I agree.

    If she doesn't answer, leave a msg? Or read between the lines?

    BTW, what's up with your post count?
     


  7. alliswell

    alliswell Senior member

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    Call her with a plan for something cool. Age is good, picture is good, age difference is good.
     


  8. Richard Pryor

    Richard Pryor Senior member

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    lol



    what if she's just being polite?


    You have a point. And, she seems the kind of girl that is polite even if she doesn't like a guy.

    That said, the smiley faces, the txt msg afterwards saying she was on her way to the beach and if I wanted to meet her there (with a smiley face). These things kind of tell me she's a little interested.

    Or maybe I put too much emphasis on smiley faces in txt messages.
     


  9. Joffrey

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    Thanks. I agree. If she doesn't answer, leave a msg? Or read between the lines? BTW, what's up with your post count?
    Leave a message about hanging out again. This time sans brother. she's pretty hot. I've saved her picture for when you come to your senses and take it down.
     


  10. Richard Pryor

    Richard Pryor Senior member

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    Leave a message about hanging out again. This time sans brother. she's pretty hot. I've saved her picture for when you come to your senses and take it down.

    Thanks. Good to know.
     


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    You have a point. And, she seems the kind of girl that is polite even if she doesn't like a guy.

    That said, the smiley faces, the txt msg afterwards saying she was on her way to the beach and if I wanted to meet her there (with a smiley face). These things kind of tell me she's a little interested.

    Or maybe I put too much emphasis on smiley faces in txt messages.



    If she has a flirty personality then you put too much emphasis on the smiley faces etc...
    If she isn't a flirty person then she is at least interested in being friends.
    You'll find out for sure when she leaves if she likes you. I'll be frank and say the chances
    that you guys would be in a committed relationship before she leaves is very slim.
    Which means that being laid back is safer for your mental health [​IMG]
     


  12. Richard Pryor

    Richard Pryor Senior member

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    If she has a flirty personality then you put too much emphasis on the smiley faces etc...
    If she isn't a flirty person then she is at least interested in being friends.
    You'll find out for sure when she leaves if she likes you. I'll be frank and say the chances
    that you guys would be in a committed relationship before she leaves is very slim.
    Which means that being laid back is safer for your mental health [​IMG]


    She's not a flirty person at all.

    Yeah, my intentions are not to be in a committed relationship before she leaves... but at least hook up. Once I do that, the rest is a piece of cake.

    My mental health is no big deal. I can turn off the switch in a blink of an eye. Frankly, the switch was turned off after she didn't return my call. But my best friend turned it back on.
     


  13. mr.orange

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    You have a point. And, she seems the kind of girl that is polite even if she doesn't like a guy.

    That said, the smiley faces, the txt msg afterwards saying she was on her way to the beach and if I wanted to meet her there (with a smiley face). These things kind of tell me she's a little interested.

    Or maybe I put too much emphasis on smiley faces in txt messages.


    Alot of people are polite to people whom they don't necessarily like. Smiley faces can make a message seem bit more friendly and I think that you might be reading into them too much. One thing that did catch my attention was her brother tagging along...really? why would she bring her brother along unless she feels like it's going to uncomfortable between the two of you?

    just my observation, don't mean to shoot you down compadre
     


  14. RegisDB9

    RegisDB9 Rico Suave

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    Alot of people are polite to people whom they don't necessarily like. Smiley faces can make a message seem bit more friendly and I think that you might be reading into them too much. One thing that did catch my attention was her brother tagging along...really? why would she bring her brother along unless she feels like it's going to uncomfortable between the two of you? just my observation, don't mean to shoot you down compadre
    Ha, if she is Latina the brother thing is understandable Plus, the guy is still a stranger, I am guessing no gf's were available so bro had to tag along Hey, OP, she's lovely I say call and if no answer then don't leave a message. Forget it
     


  15. unjung

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    Jesus, 31 and still starting this type of thread? Is this the first woman you've met in your life? I wouldn't rule her out, but I don't know what you expect with her leaving right away. Be cool, act friendly, don't push, don't be weird, but keep her in the loop and make occasional attempts to spend time with her, in groups or alone, and if you become friends, that will probably have to be good enough. When she gets back, you can try to move things forward. However, that's a whole year away.
     


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