Keeping old etiquette rules alive

[CouttsClient]

Originally Posted by Piobaire

I will be honest. I have a hard time treating the standard young chippie with the same respect I would people 35 and older. Door holding, for instance. I've had too many young chippies let doors slam in my face for me to hold one for them. Totally self-absorbed people on their cell phones, sipping Starbucks, and coo'ing to their purse doggies get squat from me. /old man rant

As far as old etiquette in good company? Yes, all of that.
Good point. Sometimes I'll hold it for someone who happens to be 30ft away. I stand and wait. Most of the time the older set smiles and says "thank you!" but the younger ones sometimes act as though they're somehow entitled to it

 

[Fuuma]

Originally Posted by CouttsClient

Good point.

Sometimes I'll hold it for someone who happens to be 30ft away. I stand and wait. Most of the time the older set smiles and says "thank you!" but the younger ones sometimes act as though they're somehow entitled to it

You're not supposed to...

 

[CouttsClient]

Originally Posted by Fuuma

You're not supposed to...
Not supposed to hold it? Perhaps My mother wouldn't be pleased if she knew I saw a lady get out of her car with bags and didn't hold the door for her. Even one 30ft away. Most of the time it's appreciated so I don't mind the ungrateful ones...

 

[Fuuma]

Originally Posted by CouttsClient

Not supposed to hold it? Perhaps

My mother wouldn't be pleased if she knew I saw a lady get out of her car with bags and didn't hold the door for her. Even one 30ft away. Most of the time it's appreciated so I don't mind the ungrateful ones...

Look, it's nice that you've looked at etiquette rules over the internet and then tried to catch back your mistake by adding some grocery bag bullshit but that's not how it works.

If she has bags and you're near her you're supposed to offer to carry them
If she's 30 feet away you don't creepily wait there holding the door unless you know her

Hell I don't bother with most old etiquette rules but I didn't learn them yesterday and now pretend I apply them when posting on Gentforum. I bet you use a knife when eating salad.

 

[CouttsClient]

Originally Posted by Fuuma

Look, it's nice that you've looked at etiquette rules over the internet and then tried to catch back your mistake by adding some grocery bag bullshit but that's not how it works.

If she has bags and you're near her you're supposed to offer to carry them
If she's 30 feet away you don't creepily wait there holding the door unless you know her

Hell I don't bother with most old etiquette rules but I didn't learn them yesterday and now pretend I apply them when posting on Gentforum. I bet you use a knife when eating salad.
I don't even know what you're talking about. lol I'll hold a door for someone I notice heading towards it. Bags or not. Just the way I am. I don't spend time thinking about it. I'm fairly certain doing it goes against whatever "rules" you speak of

 

[foodguy]

Originally Posted by Fuuma

I bet you use a knife when eating salad.

i eat most salads with my fingers ... oddly enough, that is in the etiquette manuals, too.

 

[hendrix]

Originally Posted by foodguy

sigh. that's so "rhoda". of course they CAN. the question is whether they should HAVE to.

i though you were joking with this, then i read on...

 

[itsstillmatt]

Originally Posted by hendrix

i though you were joking with this, then i read on...
You'll grow into a man someday... I hope.

 

[hendrix]

How i long for the day i finally become a man and fulfill my domestic dreams.

 

[haiguise]

The only thing I do is open doors and pretend to protect women when walking them to their car/apt from my place at night.... but standing up for women at tables, walking street side always... that's pretentious contrived BS. No need to treat women like they're worth so much more than you. Opening car doors seems to make some ladies weak in the knees, so whatever works in your relationship.

 

[mordecai]

Originally Posted by haiguise

The only thing I do is open doors and pretend to protect women when walking them to their car/apt from my place at night.... but standing up for women at tables, walking street side always... that's pretentious contrived BS. No need to treat women like they're worth so much more than you. Opening car doors seems to make some ladies weak in the knees, so whatever works in your relationship.

who says chivalry is dead?

 

[ma1]

Chivalry is a stupid concept and unless you're dating golddiggers or 19 year olds with uggs it's ******* offensive.

 

[itsstillmatt]

Originally Posted by ma1

Chivalry is a stupid concept and unless you're dating golddiggers or 19 year olds with uggs it's ******* offensive.
Yes. I prefer dragging my woman by the hair. It makes her feel like a man.

 

[mordecai]

Originally Posted by ma1

Chivalry is a stupid concept and unless you're dating golddiggers or 19 year olds with uggs it's ******* offensive.
agreed. i tell my woman not to shave her pits, shower so much, spend time on her hair, put on makeup or smell nice too. it's degrading to womanzkind.

 

[w.mj]

Originally Posted by fwiffo

Walking street side?

"True; and therefore women, being the weaker vessels, are ever thrust to the wall: therefore I will push Montague's men from the wall, and thrust his maids to the wall."

Good to know that human nature doesn't change; Bill had the same mix of tawdriness and chivalry that appears in this thread all figured out 400 years ago.