I broke up with my gf (general breakup thread)

[edinatlanta]

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

Sometimes I buy flowers for my own apartment. They look pretty and smell nice. Y'all are the weird ones if you don't like flowers.

Originally Posted by edinatlanta

Fo real.

I may buy some tonight.

Planted some this weekend.

Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7

I adore orchids. Roses are classic and while they are overexposed, I still like them. I love Morning Glories as well -- especially Little Violets. Primroses and lilies. There are days where I enjoy sunflowers too. You can't go wrong with flowers really.

HAHAHAHA YOU'RE ALL GAY FOR LIKING FLOWERS!

ah ****

 

[mm84321]

Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7

I adore orchids. Roses are classic and while they are overexposed, I still like them. I love Morning Glories as well -- especially Little Violets. Primroses and lilies. There are days where I enjoy sunflowers too. You can't go wrong with flowers really.

I enjoy the austere beauty of the tulip. The variegated tulips affected by the potyvirus, or "breaking virus", are particularly stunning. The tale of Tulipomania during the Dutch Golden Age is quite fascinating.

 

[Neo_Version 7]

^ I like a good tulip. The lavender ones are my favourite. Yellow tulips are stunning as well. If I ever break-up with a girl, tulips will probably be the flowers I buy after the whole ordeal. They have a calming effect on me unlike any other flower.

 

[texas_jack]

Originally Posted by Synthese

And please, I haven't felt The Pain since I was a pup in high school, convinced that my girlfriend and I were "different" and we were gonna "make it." She left me for a gigantic African god.

Originally Posted by mm84321

Man, that must have been painful.

You mean for him or for her?

WAKA WAKA!!!!!

 

[dfagdfsh]

sorry to hear that mellowfellow

i need a relationship mentor

someone should PM me!

 

[texas_jack]

honestly me too, I'm real good at getting laid not so good at relationships

 

[mm84321]

Originally Posted by texas_jack

honestly me too, I'm real good at getting laid not so good at relationships

+1 I have some pretty dire commitment issues.

 

[bbhewee]

Originally Posted by randallr

Date her again but bang girls on the side. It will probably make you a lot more happy in the long run. Plus, you can always rock her world if you need to.

I don't have a problem doing that at all if it weren't someone I care about so deeply after all. It just doesn't feel right to ME.


And mellowfellow, I can't imagine what you're going through mate.

 

[HgaleK]

Originally Posted by mm84321

+1 I have some pretty dire commitment issues.

Then don't commit? Doesn't seem particularly difficult.

 

[mm84321]

Originally Posted by HgaleK

Then don't commit? Doesn't seem particularly difficult.

I've considered that approach, but I have an inner-conflict. There is a girl who I've known for quite some time, and has expressed interest in me, only I have never pursued a true relationship, despite having strong feelings for her as well. For some reason, I am more attracted to her the further away I seem to be. It's strange, part of me wants a relationship, the other does not.

 

[zissou]

I hope you're doing ok, mellowfellow. It does suck, but if you feel like you both need to grow on your own, it's probably the best for the moment at least. I've gone through a few terrible breakups in the past 6-7 years, including a marriage, but I feel like I'm a much more solid, confidant, and happier person in the end.

 

[HgaleK]

Originally Posted by mm84321

I've considered that approach, but I have an inner-conflict. There is a girl who I've known for quite some time, and has expressed interest in me, only I have never pursued a true relationship, despite having strong feelings for her as well. For some reason, I am more attracted to her the further away I seem to be. It's strange, part of me wants a relationship, the other does not.

Sounds like standard human **** to me. You like the idea of dating her, but don't want to commit. The closer you get to committing, the more the issues with commitment outweigh the idea of dating. The less you have to worry about commitment, the more you get to enjoy the thought of dating. I did this for a bit.

 

[dfagdfsh]

zissou will you be my advice mentor? PM me!

 

[pstoller]

Originally Posted by mellowfellow

Girlfriend and I of six years broke up over the weekend. We have so much love for each other but we need some growing to do on ourselves apart. This hurts so much. Right now I'm having a hard time believing in myself that i can move on.

You can. Not without pain, of course, but you can. Two things to remember: first, the end of a successful relationship is not the same thing as failure; second, the end of a couple is not the end of the individuals.

 

[pstoller]

Originally Posted by edinatlanta

I just don't know how to tell someone gently that I was unaware you had to acknowledge anniversaries when you break up with someone
Not only don't you have to, but it's inappropriate to do so. So, simply say"”gently"”that you don't celebrate anniversaries after a relationship ends.

If she really wants flowers from an ex-boyfriend, she should go break up with someone who feels the same way about it as she does.