I'm guessing this is a reference to me - unfortunately I didn't grow up in London or Toronto - I'm born and raised in Edmonton - I'll give you a few minutes to find that on a map - we're in the middle of the most redneck conservative province in Canada, so your stereotypes of the deep south don't have much effect on me. I have a good friend, who is South Indian - the group of brown people that all the other brown people like to pick on. He grew up in Dubai where he was picked on by all the other brown kids and was convinced he was ugly by everyone's standards. I'm not sure he had ever interacted with white people before coming to Canada for university. I remember he told me the first time he saw a white homeless guy his mind was blown - because growing up he figured all white people were rich. For the first few years he was probably more insecure/self-conscious around girls than you (at least from what I can gather by reading a few of your posts.) At one point he stopped obsessing about white/brown/black and just learned to talk to women with confidence - period. Now he's actually pretty good at picking them up regardless of race. If you want a single piece of actionable advice which could help you - find a way to conquer your insecurity, women detect that right away and you're hooped before you even start. Straight up - some women won't date brown guys period, but many other girls are open to dating ANY guy who can charm them.