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Attending a "black tie prefered" wedding in two weeks


Aug 24, 2013
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My wife and I are attending our couple-friends' "black tie prefered" wedding on September 7th and I need help on what to wear.

I've done some research on the 'net but haven't found a viable solution to my specific conundrum.

I would wear a tux if I had one. But since I don't, it's on to plan B.

From all the sources I read, they say that one should wear a dark suit in lieu of a tux at "black tie prefered/optional" event.

But there in lies the problem: I don't have a "dark" suit. I bought a notched lapel, two button, double vented mid gray one last year for my own (very small and very "cost effective") wedding held in my godparents' back yard last year. It surprising fit very well and looked great. Surprising because it was a $99 poly/rayon Michael Kors and because I never have any luck with OTR suits. I wear a 38S jacket and they usually come with size 30 or 31 pants. I have a 28" waist but had put on a little weight so the pants fit. I've gotten back into working out regularly since then and have returned to a 28" waist so, thus, the pants no longer fit.

Even though a don't own a tux, I bandied about the idea of still wearing a bow tie (since I already own one). But for that, I thought it best to purchase a charcoal 3 piece. I was hoping to have the money to purchase one but my wife and I are on a tight budget these days. We cannot even afford the Alfani suit separate rig I saw at Macy's at the moment.

So as it stands, I have to work with what I've already got:

-that mid gray two button (that needs taking in on the pants)

-a slim fit white french cuffed Ben Sherman button down

-a slim fit white french cuffed tuxedo-style Bowie by Keanan Duffty button down

(I prefer french cuffs as opposed to barrel cuffs)

-a slim fit black Apt. 9 barrel cuffed button down

-a black notched lapel waistcoat with faint navy blue "embroidered" pinstripes

suggestions and advice would be greatly appreciated

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