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Asian dudes getting the short end of the stick

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by sonick, Feb 10, 2007.

  1. Arethusa

    Arethusa Senior member

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    Mixed.. hah. Women have an almost laughable image of some exotic grocery store romance novel guy with a foreign accent sweeping them off their feet. I'm mixed, and I can tell you it doesn't exactly work to my advantage with women, or anyone for that matter. Mostly just makes people confused. Its actually a little unnerving, because people behave strangely when they don't know what stereotypes apply to you.
    Very true. To Asians, I'm not Asian. To white people, I'm not white. So it goes.
     
  2. LabelKing

    LabelKing Senior member

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    Why would you want to fit into a category?

    I'm fully Asian; however, I don't look it.
     
  3. tiecollector

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    Why would you want to fit into a category?

    I'm fully Asian; however, I don't look it.


    I like it much more when people check the "American" box.
     
  4. Arethusa

    Arethusa Senior member

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    Why would you want to fit into a category? I'm fully Asian; however, I don't look it.
    I don't suppose I do, but it's strange, nonetheless.
     
  5. GQgeek

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    Must be a natural thing to be more picky when people look more similar. I only see asian guys with chunky redheads...... they can have em.

    Funny you should say that b/c I saw exactly that today.

    Anyway, I think I have pretty good taste in asian women, despite what Kent thinks of us white folk.
     
  6. Tokyo Slim

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    Maybe I'll go find me a chunky redhead.
     
  7. amerikajinda

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    Well its [sic] more the fact that guys of all races are going after the asian girls, thus creating a short supply of them for the asian guys.

    This is specious reasoning. Asian women are free to date whoever they want to. Many Asian women prefer dating Asian men, and wouldn't even consider dating outside their race. Some Asian women prefer dating non-Asian men. Some Asian women would date both Asian men and non-Asian men - it just depends on the man. (And this might interest jpeirpont -- there are even some Japanese women who tend to frequent certain neighborhoods in Tokyo like Roppongi and Shibuya who only date Black men.) But we shouldn't necessarily blame the non-Asian men who are attracted to Asian women for shortening the supply of Asian women for the Asian guys, as the choice lies solely with the Asian female. You, as an Asian man, have a distinct advantage in this arena because you and only you have the potential to date those Asian women who are and always will be unavailable to non-Asian men... and for that, I salute you.
     
  8. amerikajinda

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    Non-Asians seem to have difficulty differentiating the ugly girls from the pretty ones.

    Hahhahahaa this is sooooo true! I can't tell you how many times I've seen a decent-looking Westerner walking hand-in-hand with a homely Asian woman! There are a number of reasons for this... first, as you state, some non-Asian guys just aren't able to differentiate the ugly Asians from the beautiful Asians. Another reason is that some non-Asians are Asiaphiles (and I'm using this word with every ounce of negative connotation that it can muster) and will date any Asian who will concede to date them... Yet another reason is that some handsome non-Asians simply fall in love with ugly Asian women, and are able to see past the Asian woman's physical shortcomings. Still another reason is that (and I'm generalizing here) beautiful Asian women are channeled from an early age into relationships with successful (or soon-to-be successful) Asian male medical students, Asian law school students, successful Asian businessmen, sons of the beautiful Asian girl's parents' well-to-do friends, sons of the parents' Church friends (in the case of Korean-Americans, especially), etc. etc. These beautiful Asian women receive "marriage proposals" while they're still in college complete with full color glossy pictures of their prospective Asian male suitors, their resumes, etc. - and rest assured, background checks have already been completed to ensure that this beautiful Asian women's family will meld perfectly (on a business and socioeconomic level) with the Asian male chosen not necessarily by the Asian girl herself, but by family who recognized from an early age that their daughter was a beauty. Think of it as the modern-day equivalent to arranged marriages. Yet another reason that non-Asian males tend to date ugly Asian females is simply that "beggars can't be choosers", and some ugly Asian women are simply happy that anybody is showing them any attention. Another reason is that ugly Asian women don't receive the same peer pressure from their Asian friends to date inside their race that their beautiful Asian counterparts do. Just look around any college cafeteria -- what do you see? Tables of Asian men and women, with most of the women ranging from mildly attractive to drop-dead gorgeous (those are the ones who were spoken for long ago) and then you'll see, off in the corner, a non-Asian guy eating lunch with an ugly Asian girl while pretending to "teach her English" if she's F.O.P. --- and now you know why.
     
  9. LA Guy

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    Why would you want to fit into a category?

    I'm fully Asian; however, I don't look it.


    I've seen pictures of you. You look fully Asian.
     
  10. javyn

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    I thought my Japanese ex was gorgeous, but apparently not so to Asian men. Apparently 120 lbs of tits and ass is a bad thing there, she was obsessed with getting back down to 80 (what she weighed before she came to the States). These days I still go for fine ass Asian girls that the men think are kinda ugly/fat.

    It's not just white guys and Asian women though. Like my Mexican co-worker told me, "Yeah vato, we are taking back over America...one fat white chick at a time!". (He really seems to think that all of the country was at one point controlled by Mexico.)

    Also, I remember having a discussion with her on how in Japan women (all people?) who had rounder eyes and thinner lips were considered more attractive. I don't know if it was just typical female insecurity bullshit coming from her on that, or if there was really something to it. Her eyes were much narrower, and lips full, and I thought it was teh awesome.
     
  11. amerikajinda

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    Yeah vato, we are taking back over America...one fat white chick at a time!

    Uh, tell your Mexican friend that he and his countrymen are more than welcome to all the fat white chicks they can handle.[​IMG]
     
  12. LA Guy

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    Also, I remember having a discussion with her on how in Japan women (all people?) who had rounder eyes and thinner lips were considered more attractive. I don't know if it was just typical female insecurity bullshit coming from her on that, or if there was really something to it. Her eyes were much narrower, and lips full, and I thought it was teh awesome.

    No, there is something to it, which explains 1) the reason lots of the beautiful Chinese starlets now being imported to the States, Zhang Zhizhi being the most prominent, have those facial features (larger, rounder eyes and smaller lips/mouths, combined with a fine facial structure, and 2) the (partial) reason you see very few Asian guys with black women, and a significantly higher number of (east) Asian guys with white women. I would say that for guys that are brought up in Asia, being attracted to black women is sort of the equivalent of chubby chasing in the States or Europe. In other words, these guys are definitely being attracted to qualities that deviate from the accepted norm of beauty. The same goes with Asian women and black guys in particular, although, just like in the US, there is a lot more latitude in what constitutes an attractive male as opposed to an attractive female.

    As for non-Asians not really being about to distinguish the really beautiful Asian girls from the so-so down to the outright homely, imhe, I've seen a disproportionate fraction of rather unattractive Asian girls with white, latino, and black dudes.
     
  13. amerikajinda

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    To help all you non-Asians who can't discern beauty in Asians:

    Not Pretty:

    [​IMG]

    [​IMG]


    Pretty:

    [​IMG]

    [​IMG]

    got it? it's not difficult...
     
  14. jpeirpont

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    (And this might interest jpeirpont -- there are even some Japanese women who tend to frequent certain neighborhoods in Tokyo like Roppongi and Shibuya who only date Black men.)

    Never knew that happened in Japan. Who are these Black men , soldiers? Over here there are a lot of Asian women who only date Black men ,it seems non-black women who date Black men always do so exclusively. I've always wondered why.
     
  15. amerikajinda

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    Yes, the vast majority are in the US Military...
    Not sure why the non-Black women who date Black men do so exclusively - perhaps there's a modicum of truth to the old addage, "Once you go Black, you never go back." Most likely they just prefer Black men... and Black music and so forth.
    This all reminds me of a book I read about the Vietnam war -- evidently, there were two types of Vietnamese hookers - those who would service Black men, and those who would service White men. I think there could be some racism involved here, unfortunately -- i.e., the White men didn't want to be with hookers who had serviced Black men.
    So it's best not to think about it too much...
     
  16. Bandwagonesque

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    Just because a white guy is dating an unattractive Asian girl doesn't mean that he has a fetish, or can't tell an unattractive Asian girl from an attractive Asian girl. It might even be possible that he's dating her for a reason other than her race, or beauty (or lack of) or the fact that she can love him long time. Hmmm? FACT: People of any race date ugly people from not only their own race, but from other races. Oh, and just to add some more fuel to the fire... what really matters in an Asian girl is if she's fob. That's like -1 million points right there. [​IMG] I've met some nice fobs, and I got nothing against immigration, but 99.9% of them I would consider undatable. Think about it, do you really want her to display peace signs in every photo you take with her, or decorate your apartment with Hello Kitty stuff? Yeah, I thought so. There is a scale though... if she immigrated when she was very young, the magnitude of fobbiness can be limited to the point where she can be considered non-fob (though some non-fobs might take issue with this).
     
  17. javyn

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    We are all using far too many words for something that can be summed up "beauty is in the eye of the beholder."
     
  18. GreyFlannelMan

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    Once you go rice, you never think twice.
     
  19. Kent Wang

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    I find the FOB accent very unattractive.
     
  20. dusty

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    To help all you non-Asians who can't discern beauty in Asians:

    Not Pretty:

    [​IMG]


    THANK YOU
     

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