apropos
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I think this is where we're diverging. I do believe (perhaps wrongly) that perception plays a significant role in determining what one is.
Let me give you a couple examples of my thinking:
If I go to a black tie event, but feel like wearing sneakers, jeans, and a t-shirt. I have no intention of being disrespectful, rude, or classless, I just felt like it at that time. But because of how others in attendance would perceive me, I would be disrespectful, rude, and classless regardless of my intentions or personality.
Another example that hits close to SF home, if I were wearing Ed Hardy, had a deep orange tan, and was at a club taking photos while puckering my lips at the camera, I may genuinely feel like I'm awesome hotness. But maybe others would perceive me as a douchebag. I'm just being myself, and I think I look good and cool.
So, that's where I'm coming from. Basically, to me, it matters what other people think, as we exist in relation to other people. A lot of people say that they don't care what others think and I can't bring myself to believe that.
Hmmm, but fair enough. Agree to disagree.
I've been participating on the internets for a long time, I knew what I was getting myself into. I blame my morning coffee for giving me the energy.
As I blame my evening coffee.