With that said, why are you putting it upon yourself to help her get a job? Unless she's destitute she should figure out how to get by on her own. Just don't lend her money or more than you're comfortable parting with forever.
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Don't know why I laughed, but maybe it was a reaction to reading the topic title and then reading this post.Your Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, I'm sure is happy that you are following his example of love and unconditional compassion.
You're a good man, Globe, for trying - your sister doesn't deserve you.
Your Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, I'm sure is happy that you are following his example of love and unconditional compassion.
Not so sure about that Horns, given the thread title.
Don't know why I laughed, but maybe it was a reaction to reading the topic title and then reading this post.
^ if she's not reliable or has an attitude problem, her fails will **** up globe's hard earned reputation. Which is a serious problem unless globe owns the company (and even then it's a problem)
Give her a one-way ticket to Maldives.
Is she your stepsister or something? Did you grow up in separate households? Were you molested as a child? I've never heard a man speak with such disdain for his sister.serious question. my sister is a **** up. she's about 50, she's never held a job for more than 2 years. huge student debt, etc.
anyway, so she is looking for a job, and I was talking to her the other day, and it seems like everybody she talks to about a job, she is hugely critical of their organization. she is a rabbi (yeah, yeah, like the world needs another hate filled raging angry menoposal woman rabbi) and it strikes me that she has never belonged to a synagogue as a member, and she doens't really have friends who aren't proffetional jews. everyone she hangs out with is in her field. I think she has no idea of what the hiring process is like from the other side, and really no concept of what is going on.
she gets rude with the people who call her, and tells them that they don't know what they are doing, or what they want, or their intervewing inst proffetional, etc.
so, aside from her being a *****, is there somethign that I can do to help her?
I am thinking that she needs to understand the other side of the desk, what they are thinking, how the side of the (volenteers) who are interviewing her are thinking.
honestly, any advice here would be welcome. I'd like to try to help her out.
Serious query - why not put her to work at your company? At least for a temp period. Mail room, secretary, bullshit jobs, etc.. Just to give her something to do and some way to earn.
Saving that, maybe ship her out somewhere with a burgeoning Joo presence? Seems like Chicago isn't working out for her that well.
Also, how can you become a rabbi without being involved in a synagogue?
^ if she's not reliable or has an attitude problem, her fails will **** up globe's hard earned reputation. Which is a serious problem unless globe owns the company (and even then it's a problem)
Is she your stepsister or something? Did you grow up in separate households? Were you molested as a child? I've never heard a man speak with such disdain for his sister.
She's made it to 50, and if she's satisfied with wear she is, then I don't see what the problem is. She's obviously not needy enough to stop being a "*****," so maybe you should stop judging, and let her be.
As Jesus would say, turn the other cheek. Considering she's a bum, makes sense non?
Honestly GT, I think you're 'doing the right thing' and I understand your position. We never really should give up hope. I guess the question for me is, is SHE unhappy with where she's at and how she's living? You can take a horse to water... is it just that she isn't living the way YOU think she should? You said she's looking for a job, why? find her motivation/reward and focus on using that to get her in a better position.
I would avoid letting her get involved too much in your own business or lending money etc as people have said. Maybe see if she can find a role in the community? I know a lot of the chasidics and people who grow up in those environments are socially sheltered and ultimately only find acceptance within those circles. Maybe you can ask the local shul to offer her something like helping there or at a hebrew school or for one of the charities, etc.
and I'll just drop this in here. sounds cliche maybe but it seems to me to be the most basic premise of behaviour. Covey - if you keep doing what you've been doing you'll keep getting what you've been getting. Ie if she takes the same attitude/beliefs/approach, she'll have the same results. Explain that to her, ask her to evaluate her results, then the behaviours that caused them, then the thoughts/feelings/attitude that expressed as those behaviours, and give her suggestions for more productive thoughts or behaviours and tell her to go try those. Make her admit that what she's been doing hasn't really been working. And if she thinks it has been working then she won't change what she's doing. And if she blames everything/everyone else, tell her that and tell her she needs to start taking responsibility for the results of her life.
eh, just a ramble. hopefully there's something useful in there.
Honestly, it sounds like she has a lot of underlying issues that need to be aired out with a therapist.
50 years-old and the inability to hold a job for more than two years? Yeah.. that doesn't just happen without some deep-seated issues and faulty thinking processes..