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ok, you convinced me. i assume that that "fistbump" was some gentle ribbing. g-d forbid to actually use a lone emoticon as a post. amirite?

i think the issue is like this. there is not necessarily enough serious questions or events in the lives of those who populate this subforum, or at least ones they are comfortable sharing publicly, to keep these types of threads going on a daily, or even possibly weekly basis. most threads, even if they have a great concept, will generally die without consistent activity. as well, i imagine the foreboding nature of the OPs, made some people hesitant to post, for fear that they would be belittled, or their posts would just be deleted. combine that with the fact most people still post a lot in the other threads, many may not even be aware of these ones existence. especially if they dont check the home page of GC. that gives the news ones some serious obstacles to overcome.

the regular pissed off/happy threads, are well established, and although they contain lots of minor and ancillary events, it keeps them going, and in front people. every now and again, someone posts something serious in there, either in way of statement or question, and due to the threads constant activity and popularity, it gets lots of eyeballs, and as well, responses, to the serious things. while the less serious things, get none, or a few replies (or sometimes a lot, to the dismay of some people), at least they keep the thread in peoples vision.

that is why i think these threads have not succeeded as of yet.

just my 2 cents on the matter.

Ok, i'll bite. I haven't worked out all week and feel a little guilty. However, I don't want to go to the gym as I'd rather chill out before going out to dinner (leaving office now/530PM and Dinner is at 9pm). What does The Panel™ suggest I do??

The answer to this is quite simple. You need some exercise but you want to chill at home. Clearly, fapping repeatedly will give you both the exercise and relaxation you need. Better yet, sechs with a real woman, if this can be arranged.

I am no longer a young twenty something, and I think I frittered away my youth by being the somewhat typical full of himself kid who didn't bother with internships, meaningful "networking" (see, I still put that in quotes), acquiring real-world skills etc. Oh, and yes I am another humanities major.

I don't like working odd jobs anymore and as much as driving a forklift is fun, I want to find myself at least trying to contribute in some more intellectual capacity with my work, even a career?

What viable, pragmatic steps can I take that will help me at least have a "real job" or career? I have decided against law school (obvious reasons) or the silly pursuit of medical school--for a while there I really was looking at post-baccalaureate programs, but it was just out of desperation, really.

I find the common advice of "go find internships" completely useless since it seems most internships are for college kids. And I believe graduate school for my case is a very bad choice.

----Hopeless quarter life crisis

I think to myself "I may regret sitting here all evening, watching TV, browsing SF, etc, but I have NEVER ONCE regretted going to the gym or getting exercise in."

That usually gets my ass off the couch/chair and to the gym.

That is of course barring any kind of injury *knock on wood.

Yep, for me the hardest part of a bike ride or run is the 40 foot of driveway.

Once I get going it is all good. YMMV.

I have a question.....

Got this friend who I want a relationship with, or at least a one off shag, she seems to want it too but she's led me on once and blown me off (the bad kind) twice, I think its partly her traditional Asian family and partly the long distance (now two hours by car, in a month it will be 15 hours including an 8 hour plane journey). She's busy with her MSc dissertation but won't even acknowledge me or the messages I send her on Facebook and seems to be hanging around with some English geek and bigging him up on Facebook (she never does anything public on there until she became FB friends with him), even though I've offered to help her with her MSc in a big way, she also knows of some of the sacrifices I have made for her in the past.

A couple of months ago I asked her out again (three years after the first time) and she said no for the second time, two days later I met her and she was wearing a low cut top etc compared to her normal conservative dress and asked me to visit her in China next year (I sometimes wonder if this offer will still be on the cards or if she'll ever make an effort to contact me when she's at home), she's asked me to take her to football matches etc so I generally think she's still into me/wants to be my friend BUT the fairly regular ignoring me is starting to seriously wind me up, which impresses me as normally I don't get wound up.

She's the best girl in the world and really brings out the best in me but now I'm wondering if any relationship is still possible or worthwhile, I'll fight tooth and nail for it so my question is, how do I get her back to talking to me or finding out if we are friends or not, ignore her until she comes to me or say I'm seriously questioning her as a friend and force her to lay her cards on the table?

^ Or do I tell her the secret I was going to tell her until she was a no show after I drove two hours to see her? She won't tell anyone else and even if she does the splatter will be contained, as it will if I do have to end things with her.

I'll ask the Panel...

My father-in-law and I get along, but he has a tendency of making our lives a bit harder than necessary. He still has the mindset that his daughter is under his authority and doesn't like when we make a decision that would be against his wishes. It can be as benign as choosing our own apartment. We'll hear something like "that's too expensive, that's not the best area, etc..."

Anyway, we bought my wife a car last fall. It was used, only going to be a to work and drive the dog around type of car. We bought it, he was pissed. He said that we didn't need it and that he wouldn't fix it. Fast forward a couple of months and he says that if we need something fixed, he'll take a look. I don't own the correct tools nor do I have the know-how.

We failed our inspection and found out that we need quite a bit of work done to it. We've avoided telling him as that will result in an "I told you so.." situation. If we refrain from telling him, he'll still be upset. We don't know whether to pour a bunch of money into a used car or put that money towards a newer car.

So, finally, do I go to him for advice and reap the consequences or do I take the reigns and make a decision without his (usually wise and conservative) advice?

good you caught ourself now, congrats, my fucking c*** of a sister is 50 and hasn't figured this out.


here's what I would do -

1. get a sales job, literally anything that has you selling to people.
2. go to a community college and get a certificate in some type of medical tech job - respiratory tech is the best, but there are probably 50 similar types of certifications
3. try to leverage the two into a job selling medical equipment
4. get an on line MBA, eventually.

a good sales rep in the healthcare field can make pretty good money and live pretty well.

Me, a colleague and fairly senior manager (who has now left) have been trying to work out how to get a particular spreadsheet to work for 3 or 4 weeks and I finally cracked it tonight. The processes it monitors are going to be broken up in a couple of weeks ready for the Christmas rush so it won't work in its current form, the changes are very simple but you need to know how to do the bit we were stuck on to be able to do it.

Do I:

A) Password protect the spreadsheet, hide the intermediate worksheets and email it to my colleague to taunt him or
B) Tell him I've done it and how to do it but only in the presence of a manager so I definitely get the credit?

Both.

Re-decorating my living room.....do I hang up on da walls:

A) Original paintings(that I had framed here in NY) from street vendors in Madrid/Bangkok/Montreal/Cairo....
B) Prints(that I have had framed)-2 Basquait and 1 Keith Haring
??

Riddle me that panel!

^ hard to judge if we haven't seen the paintings.

I might have a question to pose, but would rather PM the panel. When I siber up I hope to remember.