Pregnancy Entrapment - What are your legal rights, if any?

[pseudonym]

Crazy bitches.


Damn it.

 

[globetrotter]

yeah, he's screwed.

 

[MrG]

I think this really, really sucks for your friend, and I feel bad for him. That said, he's an adult, and the possibility of having a child, even if it's a result of failed birth control, should have been something he considered. I think it's despicable that he's willing to walk out on his own child. This girl did something very wrong, but that doesn't make it OK for him to respond in kind. That (future) child doesn't deserve being raised without a father.

 

[Harold falcon]

Originally Posted by Thomas

Actually, I may have to ask someone I know. She got pregnant and wanted to keep the baby. Her then-shag-partner was not interested at all in having a child, and - as I understand it - relinquished his parental rights. I don't believe she gets any child support, but I am very uncertain of the terms of this deal. It may well be that she kicked her then-shag-partner to the curb and said -"fine - he's all mine - sign this and **** off forever."

As you might imagine, I've not pressed her for the details.

I've done this for some clients, but the relinquishment needs to be voluntary by both parents. This means she'd have to consent to him walking away as well.

Alternatively he could go to prison for the next 18 years. Courts will sometimes involuntarily terminate parental rights if the person is in prison for such an extended term.

Also, make sure he demands a paternity test. They aren't married so there's no presumption of paternity. It might cost him a thousand bucks or so but if there's even a chance it might not be his now is the time to find out. If she pops out the kid, he starts paying, and then ten years from now finds out it's not his he could still be on the hook. Find out now.

 

[Ataturk]

Not my area of expertise, but it seems very unlikely based on what I know of domestic law in my state that a court would terminate parental rights unless the man is a complete bum or the woman has lined up someone else to take his place (i.e., adoption). How do you argue it's in junior's best interest to be without a father or 17% of his income?

 

[tagutcow]

Originally Posted by Davidko19

I aint gonna rag on your friend. This could happen to any guy.

You take the bitches word for it, fall in love, and bam. Duped. And whats she get? A nice payday.

Gotta follow the Leykis 101 Hail Mary approach on this:
- Telll her he loves her and wants to be with her forever, blah blah
- Talk about how he wants a family really bad but its not in the best interest of the child or their family to have him so young
- You want to have a house, white picket fence and all that
- Convince her this is the way to do it and that you'll wait for her once SHE gets HER career established and has achieved her dreams
- Take her to the clinic and get that **** sucked out
- Go to mcdonalds afterwards and get her an egg mcmuffin
- DUMP THAT ***** and count your lucky stars

I'm only dimly aware of who Tom Leykis is, but seriously, this is revolting. Yeah, I know it's intended to be outrageous and provocative, but this sort of "ha-ha-only-serious" flippancy is typical of true moral cowards who can't bear to consider the real consequences of their beliefs.

 

[globetrotter]

Originally Posted by Davidko19

I aint gonna rag on your friend. This could happen to any guy.

You take the bitches word for it, fall in love, and bam. Duped. And whats she get? A nice payday.

Gotta follow the Leykis 101 Hail Mary approach on this:
- Telll her he loves her and wants to be with her forever, blah blah
- Talk about how he wants a family really bad but its not in the best interest of the child or their family to have him so young
- You want to have a house, white picket fence and all that
- Convince her this is the way to do it and that you'll wait for her once SHE gets HER career established and has achieved her dreams
- Take her to the clinic and get that **** sucked out
- Go to mcdonalds afterwards and get her an egg mcmuffin
- DUMP THAT ***** and count your lucky stars

a guy my brother knows actually did this. he had made his girlfriend take her pill in front of him every morning, and she switched the pills for something (the story I heard was some kind of pill used to clean contact lenses) and then she got pregnant. he didnt ever take her home from the clinic, after he checked her in, he called her dad.

she was a *****, but he was, too. world's full of A-holes

 

[scarphe]

Originally Posted by globetrotter

a guy my brother knows actually did this. he had made his girlfriend take her pill in front of him every morning, and she switched the pills for something (the story I heard was some kind of pill used to clean contact lenses) and then she got pregnant. he didnt ever take her home from the clinic, after he checked her in, he called her dad. she was a *****, but he was, too. world's full of A-holes
not the best plan she coudl back out at eh last minute, i would wait until the bill had to be paid and run for the cab i had waiting,

 

[tiecollector]

Originally Posted by xchen

She wants to keep the baby, he doesn't. He would prefer abortion or adoption, but has accepted that he might be paying child support for the next 18 years and intends to have no contact with the child and only contact her in court if necessary. He is 22 and she is 23.
Sounds like a real man, how far we've fallen. Get a paternity test at the very least. If I were him, I'd pray this chick has good genes and put the child support payments towards cooking school

 

[obiter dictum]

Originally Posted by xchen

She wants to keep the baby, he doesn't. He would prefer abortion or adoption, but has accepted that he might be paying child support for the next 18 years and intends to have no contact with the child and only contact her in court if necessary. He is 22 and she is 23.
Had to edit this three times because I couldn't find the words to describe how disgusting this is. Yes it sucks that he got fooled, but that isn't the kids fault. If anything, I despise your friend even more than the girl who fooled him. As LA Guy said:

Originally Posted by LA Guy

I mean, no matter how it happened, that's his flesh and blood. I have no respect for guys that won't take care of their own.

 

[DeadDJ]

Out of curiosity, how did the other guys find out? When the ploy failed was she just nuts enough to say "****, I was hoping you'd get me pregnant!"

 

[Davidko19]

Originally Posted by tagutcow

I'm only dimly aware of who Tom Leykis is, but seriously, this is revolting. Yeah, I know it's intended to be outrageous and provocative, but this sort of "ha-ha-only-serious" flippancy is typical of true moral cowards who can't bear to consider the real consequences of their beliefs.

Id do this if it happened to me and it was a last ditch effort. Has nothing to do with not dealing with the consequences so put YOUR morals aside....

OP said the dude didnt want the kid and the chick is a *****. Why on earth wouldnt you do everything to NOT bring a kid into a situation where his father doesnt want him and his mother is bat-**** crazy?

No kid. End of story.


FWIW: My roommate was in this story. Didnt want the kid but had him and of course loves him and all, but the baby-momma is all kinds of crazy. Has kids with other guys, legal trouble, money problem, etc... Its bad man. Plus its held the guy back from all kinds of career opportunities. Thats my birth control, looking at him.

 

[JayJay]

nvm

 

[SkinnyGoomba]

I always wondered if it was possible to elect to be a single father, rather then pay child support or deal with a crazy ex forever.

Almost all of us who are dating stand to have this happen, but I feel its important to raise your own to make a positive impact on society.

 

[Milpool]

I still remember my freshman year of college. . .

The RA for my floor sat us all down in the first week and said "you guys are all going to get good jobs. Always wrap *********. Some women are so crazy that they will try to get pregnant to trap you into marrying them because they want a guy with a good job."