FlyingHorker
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I've debated making this thread for a while, hopefully something useful comes out of it. Trying to create a jumping off point for mental health discussion and its potential intersection with clothing.
My own issues.
In the past, I'd just pretend I didn't have any issues, nor did I have self-awareness.
My own neuroticism, anxiety, and OCD has gotten in the way of dressing well and finding what I truly like.
Pacing back and forth and taking 50 photos of one fit and then obsessing about it to the point of being unable to do anything else that day is an activity I've done. Nope, this isn't functional, nor is it fun.
I've also bought clothing when I was in a giddy, anxious mood and that bit me in the butt long term.
I enjoy clothing, but it can be used as a distraction or for escapism in a bad way. That dopamine hit is great when you order something or fantasize about a fit, but doesn't fill the holes or flaws in my life.
Dealing with my issues
For me, lifting weights keeps me relatively grounded and relaxed from addictive tendencies. Journaling every night about my day and what triggers my anxiety or ruminations has helped for self-awareness. I rate things out of 10 for severity.
Mindful meditation has helped as well. Creating a distance from a lot of my "junk mail" thoughts and treating them as sounds that come and go has helped manage how I deal with distracting thoughts.
Creating a list of items that I "need" vs. "want" for clothing helps me plan out long term purchases and gets rid of a lot of guilty feelings. "Need" in the sense that I'm better off buying polos, in basic colours, for my current wardrobe cohesiveness rather than a 9th overcoat.
On a positive note for emotions, I've started dressing simply on what I felt like doing on a whim that day or week. The past couple years is when I've felt I can actually start enjoying my clothing, and also consequently developing my sense of style as well.
Big overcoats, chunky eyewear, scarves, highly textured fabrics, bold patterns are my favourite. I feel comfortable and protected.
Your own issues?
Anyone else have issues with their mental health and its relationship to clothing?
Have you dealt with them?
If so, how?
What worked? What didn't work?
My own issues.
In the past, I'd just pretend I didn't have any issues, nor did I have self-awareness.
My own neuroticism, anxiety, and OCD has gotten in the way of dressing well and finding what I truly like.
Pacing back and forth and taking 50 photos of one fit and then obsessing about it to the point of being unable to do anything else that day is an activity I've done. Nope, this isn't functional, nor is it fun.
I've also bought clothing when I was in a giddy, anxious mood and that bit me in the butt long term.
I enjoy clothing, but it can be used as a distraction or for escapism in a bad way. That dopamine hit is great when you order something or fantasize about a fit, but doesn't fill the holes or flaws in my life.
Dealing with my issues
For me, lifting weights keeps me relatively grounded and relaxed from addictive tendencies. Journaling every night about my day and what triggers my anxiety or ruminations has helped for self-awareness. I rate things out of 10 for severity.
Mindful meditation has helped as well. Creating a distance from a lot of my "junk mail" thoughts and treating them as sounds that come and go has helped manage how I deal with distracting thoughts.
Creating a list of items that I "need" vs. "want" for clothing helps me plan out long term purchases and gets rid of a lot of guilty feelings. "Need" in the sense that I'm better off buying polos, in basic colours, for my current wardrobe cohesiveness rather than a 9th overcoat.
On a positive note for emotions, I've started dressing simply on what I felt like doing on a whim that day or week. The past couple years is when I've felt I can actually start enjoying my clothing, and also consequently developing my sense of style as well.
Big overcoats, chunky eyewear, scarves, highly textured fabrics, bold patterns are my favourite. I feel comfortable and protected.
Your own issues?
Anyone else have issues with their mental health and its relationship to clothing?
Have you dealt with them?
If so, how?
What worked? What didn't work?