I broke up with my gf (general breakup thread) - Page 8

well theoretically we weren't gonna do the distance thing but we were gonna stay in pretty close touch and see where the future would lead us - she will likely be back again in December, timeframe for that stay is completely up in the air though. The stay in contact thing really hasn't worked out, and therein lay the theme of the blowout.

ya, see this is more a WWMD. I have been here too. I am old. Damn. If I were you I would take what you just told the internet and reverse it....as follows: 1. I am lucky to have her, and for her to put up with me 2. I feel like shit, i really love her 3. we rarely have sex 4. i just felt like she stopped trying 5. so, what's up? that said, after the morning I've had...take that with many many grains of salt.

Yup. FWIW you did the right thing man. I did the distance thing for two miserable years with the only girl I ever thought I would marry. Even then it didn't work out, and even now I miss her. Still, when the most recent one moved away, as soon as she told me, I said 'that's the end of us' - I just wasn't even willing to try it again, let alone with someone that I really liked, but definitely didn't love. We enjoyed our last month together, hugged at the airport, and she left. It still stung a bit, no doubt, but it was the right thing to do. I have two friends in similar boats at the moment. One guy whose girlfriend went back to the US for medical school. 4 years + 2 residency. Theyre great people and they were great together, but I give them no chance whatsoever. Another mate has just had his gf go back to the US for graduate school. Those two were friends for a long time before they got together, so they had a really good foundation when it finally happened, and they were fantastic as a couple. They maaaaay be able to make it work...I probably still wouldn't bet on it, but maaaaybe.