Married SFers: How much did your wedding cost? - Page 14

i just don't get why you don't understand that $800 shoes once or twice a year that will last for years and years and years and never let you down are much different than 1 single day that will have no lasting impact on you.

whether you spend $1million on your wedding or $1000 on your wedding it's not going to change your marriage. so really it doesn't matter how much $$ you spend.

how old are you? just curious

how's it relevent?

20

Sorry, but until you are 35 and on your second marriage with a wedding that cost 200K, your opinion is irrelevant.

This. To each his/her own, but I do not see the necessity of an expensive wedding. We had a very simple wedding. My father-in-law gave us $3,000 for the wedding. I believe we ended up paying a little bit out of pocket, but we had the reception at a country club for about 100-150 people total with food and a DJ. Wife getting her wedding dress for a song and a dance helped tremendously.

We have been married 5 years now. To this day, our friends/family tell us how they loved our wedding because it was intimate and beautiful.

Looking back I may have changed a couple things, but I would not have spent more money than we did.

It must be terrible though that you don't have any unforgettable memories, since you didn't pay extra for that.

its easy to hold such a strong opinion when you are young and it really doesn't effect your life. I probably had an even stronger opinion that was very similar to yours when I was 20.

So what happened? You met a woman and she told you how it's gonna be for the rest of your life?

This threak is tl;dr

Our experience (2 years ago) was to just do whatever made us happy. We weren't out to impress anyone - we just wanted to have a nice day that would be special for both us and or guests. We didn't set a budget and we didn't spend a fortune, though I guess it could have paid for a decent car. By all accounts everything went really well. Obviously not everyone can do that, but it took a lot of stress out of it. If you are both reasonable people, I'm sure something can be worked out though.

The most stressful part of our wedding was the seating arrangement. We got so fed up that we let our parents think that their changes were implemented - when everyone arrived at the reception we had a sign printed inviting guests to choose their own seats

To conclude: do whatever makes you happy - don't worry about other people. If it costs $100 or $1MM, do what is right for you.

no, I grew up. sorry, but that is the difference between being a boy and a man. men make choices, and decide where the best place to put their efforts and their money. boys whine and have tantrums and cut off their nose to spite their face.

if you are a man, you basically get to run your family life for 50 years. you decide where you live, how you live, what the family spends money on. your wife gets to decide a handful of things - one of them being the wedding. men have usually put about 15 minutes thought into the wedding "oh, hey, a barbeque would be cool". women have put 20 years thought into it. let her have her way for 3 hours, you get your way for 50 years. how hard is that to understand?

A barbecue really would be cool.

Never heard of a barbewedding though.

Spending 100K+ on a wedding makes you a man.



My wife and I talk about everything and make decisions together no matter how big or small. I guess I am not a man.

I know, what an idiot. We all know the correct price for manliness is $6,500.

Spending money of any amount doesn't make you a man.

That's not what globe is saying, but I have a feeling you're being deliberately obtuse.