Originally Posted by marc237
And, of course, the confidence and nice clothing can make an average looking woman stunning. There had developed a mini-industry based on this "make-over" premise. The notion that the "ugly-duckling" can be beautified and jsent forth to conquer all worlds is very much a universal cutlural cliche.
Assuming that there is no pronounced physical deformity, there are many ways that the average guy can improve physical appearance - clothes are just one element.
That also deflates the many shadowy industries aimed at men, from pills to "Seduction" guides.
The reality is that much of confidence comes from appearance and hard-to-change aspects of personality.
Many men don't, or won't, believe that. It points to personality factors (the naturally confident man who doesn't understand less-confident types) and the inability of most men - even well-dressed ones - to accurately judge the visual appeal of men to women. A strong piece of evidence is the fact that men routinely overestimate how much muscle makes them attractive to women.
However, the comments in this thread aren't necessarily wrong. Occasionally, women happily choose men who don't look sexually appealing to many women. Obviously, personality (or, to cynics, money) can sometimes compensate somewhat for appearance.