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post #16 of 48
I usually go to bars that cater to young professionals.
post #17 of 48
Just to boost your confidence:

When I was in HS the prettiest girl in a radius of 50 miles min. had a boyfriend I couldn't look in the face without wondering: How did he do that?

His name was dave, he had quite a belly for someone at age 18, bad hair and teeth, wasn't athletic at all. He didn't dress well either. He did have a lot of attitude though and was smart- that is what made all the other things absolutely unimporant (I did envy him some days, whan us three went to the cinema and he was the one holding her hand in the end).

Point is: Screw all those that think itäs the clothes you wear or any of that stuff- be a man and talk to some girls, be a bit arrogant and show soem intelligence. You'll get all the girls you want.
post #18 of 48
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Originally Posted by Hanseat

His name was dave,

Holy crap, are you talking about David Dangelo? He invented Cocky and Funny!

Anyhow, I think men are more shallow than women in general. As long as you're not ugly, you still have a great chance with most women.

Average looking women....they dont do so well, even if they do have a great personality.
post #19 of 48
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Originally Posted by seen
Anyhow, I think men are more shallow than women in general. As long as you're not ugly, you still have a great chance with most women.

They're getting to be just as shallow as we are, trust me. As a study that another thread on this forum reported, now that many woman are equal to us financially, they're beginning to concentrate on looks.

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Originally Posted by seen
Average looking women....they dont do so well, even if they do have a great personality.

I don't know if that's true. Some of the sexiest woman are average looking because they have attitude and personality. I'm turned off by a lot of attractive woman because that's all they have. Pretty is a dime a dozen.
post #20 of 48
Great clothes can help you overcome what appears to be a somewhat negative self-image.
At least they'll start you down that path.
Throw in a great haircut too.

Remember, only your face and hands will show 10 months out of the year, so might as well have the rest of you looking good in great clothes.
post #21 of 48
Not to imply it was started by one such person, but the subject sums up why people lacking in natural beauty or physical fitness tend to dress badly (and not associate with those who look much than they do).

Of course it can't hurt to adopt better style, or to exercise, treat acne, whiten teeth, or take other reasonable steps.

There does appear to be a personality issue here: reserved people often are trapped between feeling left out and being afraid to dress or act in ways that compensate for the reserve. Baby steps to a better image usually is the right approach. Looking better will help with associated problems, like weak eye contact, poor posture, and timid body language.
post #22 of 48
A girl at the salon I go has adopted a strict rule that she absolutely will not date a man that doesn't wear nice shoes.
post #23 of 48
Everyone's beautiful man, we're all children of the earth.

But, confidence is key. I've seen many girls think certain guys are hot (even though they are 'average' or even 'below average' if you just consider looks) due to the fact that they walk around with a great deal of confidence.
post #24 of 48
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Originally Posted by Hanseat
When I was in HS the prettiest girl in a radius of 50 miles min. had a boyfriend I couldn't look in the face without wondering: How did he do that?

His name was dave, he had quite a belly for someone at age 18, bad hair and teeth, wasn't athletic at all. He didn't dress well either.

Ha! I knew a girl like that once. Absolutely beautiful, smart and funny. Her boyfriend (long distance, to whom she was devoted) looked like Sideshow Bob. His name was Dave, too....

To answer the original question, be happy you are a man. There are plenty of pug-ugly men that women find attractive, and I think that men can get away with "distinctive" in a way that women just simply can't. Dress nicely, carry yourself well and happily, have good manners and be funny. Of course, those aren't always easy.
post #25 of 48
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I consider myself to be average but I had three woman call me "hot" last night. It isn't because I look like Brad Pitt but because I own the room. It's all self-confidence brother. Be second to no one. But don't be an ass either, no one likes that

Nail on head.
post #26 of 48
And, of course, the confidence and nice clothing can make an average looking woman stunning. There had developed a mini-industry based on this "make-over" premise. The notion that the "ugly-duckling" can be beautified and jsent forth to conquer all worlds is very much a universal cutlural cliche.

Assuming that there is no pronounced physical deformity, there are many ways that the average guy can improve physical appearance - clothes are just one element.
post #27 of 48
if you want to know what type of clothes unatractive people wear, feel free to pop by and look in my closet some time.
post #28 of 48
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Originally Posted by marc237
And, of course, the confidence and nice clothing can make an average looking woman stunning. There had developed a mini-industry based on this "make-over" premise. The notion that the "ugly-duckling" can be beautified and jsent forth to conquer all worlds is very much a universal cutlural cliche.

Assuming that there is no pronounced physical deformity, there are many ways that the average guy can improve physical appearance - clothes are just one element.

Right on.

That also deflates the many shadowy industries aimed at men, from pills to "Seduction" guides.

The reality is that much of confidence comes from appearance and hard-to-change aspects of personality.

Many men don't, or won't, believe that. It points to personality factors (the naturally confident man who doesn't understand less-confident types) and the inability of most men - even well-dressed ones - to accurately judge the visual appeal of men to women. A strong piece of evidence is the fact that men routinely overestimate how much muscle makes them attractive to women.

However, the comments in this thread aren't necessarily wrong. Occasionally, women happily choose men who don't look sexually appealing to many women. Obviously, personality (or, to cynics, money) can sometimes compensate somewhat for appearance.
post #29 of 48
I do not consider myself attractive. Also, I am not of the "proffered" race in the USA, and I do not have the "proffered accent" in the USA.

However, I owe to myself doing my best to look clean and presentable.
I respect myself more because of it, and I think people respect me more because of it (regardless of their level of maturity with respect to diversity).

I owe to myself to have a haircut.
I owe to myself to exercise/workout to keep myself in good shape.
I owe to myself to keep my house clean.
I owe to myself to clean and wash my car (even if it is a simple one).
I owe to myself to dress appropriately -- not necessarily expensive, but
with something that fits me and I can feel comfortable on.

I do not go out of the way to do all of the above, nor I search for luxury in every item, but learning how to do so in an optimal way is convenient.

Just my opinion to the original topic post.
post #30 of 48
Confidence and personality are key, but clothes and grooming never hurt. Know what flatters you and you'll look better. I'm 5'10 and 210 lbs and I seem to manage to get with the boys that strike my fancy. I wouldn't call myself unattractive, but there are certainly better-looking guys out there.
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