What exactly is a trophy wife?

lee_44106 · Jan 19, 2008

Can a trophy wife be non-white?

andyw · Jan 19, 2008

Originally Posted by A Canuker

Sure we have all read this before but its a classic:

New York Woman Posts Ad To Marry Wealthy Man
Popular website, criagslist, recieved this post
This ad appeared on craigslist.com:

What am I doing wrong?

Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy.
I'm not from New York. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't think I'm overreaching at all.

Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 - 250. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?

Here are my questions specifically:

- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms

-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my feelings

-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?

- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the story there?

- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?

- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY

Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front about it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.

The response:

I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament.
Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it.

Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful!

So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!

So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful"
as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.

By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation.

With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way.
Classic "pump and dump." I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.

johnapril · Jan 19, 2008

A reflection of a man's folly.

tiecollector · Jan 19, 2008

Originally Posted by lee_44106

Can a trophy wife be non-white?

Trophy wives I have seen have always been fair skinned, whether [cauc]asian, or otherwise.

I watch Lifetime sometimes and there are all these shows on huge weddings and throwing huge parties and the cracked out asians with boob jobs are the most spoiled.

TyCooN · Jan 19, 2008

Women that cheat on their old wrinkly hubbies with younger guys.

Piobaire · Jan 19, 2008

Originally Posted by lee_44106

Can a trophy wife be non-white?

Yes.

Piobaire · Jan 19, 2008

Originally Posted by TyCooN

Women that cheat on their old wrinkly hubbies with younger guys.

With the coming of Viagra, I hope them younger guys like the taste of old man

GQgeek · Jan 19, 2008

Originally Posted by Piobaire

With the coming of Viagra, I hope them younger guys like the taste of old man

Wouldn't it go both ways?

Piobaire · Jan 19, 2008

Originally Posted by GQgeek

Wouldn't it go both ways?

Not sure what the sexual habits of old wrinkly guys are

Also, you'd assume she would be trying to hide it from her meal ticket so you know, would not come to him fresh from a tryst.

GQgeek · Jan 19, 2008

Originally Posted by Piobaire

Not sure what the sexual habits of old wrinkly guys are

Also, you'd assume she would be trying to hide it from her meal ticket so you know, would not come to him fresh from a tryst.

Ah, got a couple more years before that sets in, do you?

What you say makes sense. Still, if i was the old guy I'd kick her to the curb if i suspected anything. I'd be pretty pissed if she brought home herpes or something.

Pink22m · Jan 19, 2008

Originally Posted by Pink22m
I knew a girl in college that told me she wanted to be a trophy wife. She was probably one of the most self centered, conceited girls I had ever met.

But how attractive was she?

She was actually quite sexy, although I wouldn't have done anything with her without wearing two or three condoms at once. She wasn't white either; she was actually Asian (I believe Vietnamese).

Piobaire · Jan 19, 2008

Originally Posted by GQgeek

Ah, got a couple more years before that sets in, do you?

What you say makes sense. Still, if i was the old guy I'd kick her to the curb if i suspected anything. I'd be pretty pissed if she brought home herpes or something.

LOL, yeah, a year or two yet before the wrinkles set in

I'd never do the trophy wife thing, even if I was much wealthier than I am, but if I was that old, wrinkly, wealthy guy, not only would I toss her to the curb, if the guy knew she were married, I'd use some of my money to make his life hell

I think the big post above nailed the whole trophy wife thing quite well. It is much better to marry an intellectual, and hopefully income, equal. I would go crazy if I married a vapid woman with too much time on her hands. I think all the extra free time is probably what makes the trophy infidelity rate probably pretty high.

itsstillmatt · Jan 19, 2008

I know quite a few "trophy wives". Some are very pleasant and some are pains **********. You know, just like the rest of the people in the world.

Piobaire · Jan 19, 2008

Originally Posted by iammatt

I know quite a few "trophy wives". Some are very pleasant and some are pains **********. You know, just like the rest of the people in the world.
I hear what you are saying Matt, and there's nothing intrinsically wrong with being a trophy wife, IMO. It is just that many people have a hard time taking a person with that job description seriously. Some enterprising lawyer is going to sue under the EEOC one day when an aging trophy wife turns 40 and gets replaced with a newer model.

TyCooN · Jan 19, 2008

Originally Posted by Piobaire

LOL, yeah, a year or two yet before the wrinkles set in

I'd never do the trophy wife thing, even if I was much wealthier than I am, but if I was that old, wrinkly, wealthy guy, not only would I toss her to the curb, if the guy knew she were married, I'd use some of my money to make his life hell

I think the big post above nailed the whole trophy wife thing quite well. It is much better to marry an intellectual, and hopefully income, equal. I would go crazy if I married a vapid woman with too much time on her hands. I think all the extra free time is probably what makes the trophy infidelity rate probably pretty high.
Wouldn't she get half of your money?

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