Do you stop smoking/drinking when your SO is pregnant?

[Connemara]

Originally Posted by iammatt

I wouldn't quit either. I think it would be ridiculous to even ask me to do so.

 

[Prada_Ferragamo]

A healthy baby is too important for these two habits.

 

[Fuuma]

Originally Posted by Prada_Ferragamo

A healthy baby is too important for these two habits.

The mother carries the child, haven't done your biology and sex ed yet, don't worry, 8th grade is only a few years away...

 

[itsstillmatt]

Originally Posted by Connemara

Just to be clear, if my wife came to me on any normal day and said "I'm worried that you are smoking too much, I love you and fear that our life together will be too short," then I would take it very seriously, and talk to her about her feelings and what we, or I, ought to do. The same with drinking. If she came to me and said "waah, I can't drink or smoke so I don't want you to either," I'd probably think she was an idiot, and want to toss her out of the house. My wife wouldn't ever do that, and I'd never marry somebody who would. Of course, if she was worried about the health of the baby, I would be fine not smoking around her when she was pregnant, but I don't know that I would go so far as to only smoke outside.

 

[Fuuma]

Originally Posted by iammatt

Just to be clear, if my wife came to me on any normal day and said "I'm worried that you are smoking too much, I love you and fear that our life together will be too short," then I would take it very seriously, and talk to her about her feelings and what we, or I, ought to do. The same with drinking. If she came to me and said "waah, I can't drink or smoke so I don't want you to either," I'd probably think she was an idiot, and want to toss her out of the house. My wife wouldn't ever do that, and I'd never marry somebody who would.

Of course, if she was worried about the health of the baby, I would be fine not smoking around her when she was pregnant, but I don't know that I would go so far as to only smoke outside.

The stupid hippies in SF will some rob you of that possibility...

 

[itsstillmatt]

Originally Posted by Fuuma

The stupid hippies in SF will some rob you of that possibility...
Sigh. I know. FWIW, I asked her and she agreed with me. She felt that this kind of **** was what ruined marriages and turned men into something less than men.

 

[kwilkinson]

Originally Posted by iammatt

Sigh. I know.

FWIW, I asked her and she agreed with me. She felt that this kind of **** was what ruined marriages and turned men into something less than men.

Is she hot, too? Cause she sounds kinda perfect.

 

[texas_jack]

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

Is she hot, too? Cause she sounds kinda perfect.

yes

 

[philosophe]

Originally Posted by iammatt

Just to be clear, if my wife came to me on any normal day and said "I'm worried that you are smoking too much, I love you and fear that our life together will be too short," then I would take it very seriously, and talk to her about her feelings and what we, or I, ought to do. The same with drinking. If she came to me and said "waah, I can't drink or smoke so I don't want you to either," I'd probably think she was an idiot, and want to toss her out of the house. My wife wouldn't ever do that, and I'd never marry somebody who would.

Of course, if she was worried about the health of the baby, I would be fine not smoking around her when she was pregnant, but I don't know that I would go so far as to only smoke outside.

And if, unexpectedly, she found your smoking and/or drinking to be too much of a temptation to resist, what would you do?

 

[itsstillmatt]

Originally Posted by philosophe

And if, unexpectedly, she found your smoking and/or drinking to be too much of a temptation to resist, what would you do?
If she found my smoking and/or drinking to be too much of a temptation to resist, I would seriously question her ability to deal with motherhood.

 

[globetrotter]

Originally Posted by iammatt

If she found my smoking and/or drinking to be too much of a temptation to resist, I would seriously question her ability to deal with motherhood.

+1

 

[rlx]

I wouldn't smoke around anyone who doesn't smoke -- but I don't smoke. Smoking around a pregnant woman or children is reprehensible. I didn't give up drinking nor did my wife ask me to when she was pregnant. In fact, having a pregnant wife always guaranteed a designated driver.

 

[VKK3450]

**** that ****. If she's gotta stop drinking then you better man up and start drinking for the two of you (maybe even 3).

K

 

[EL72]

My wife was pregnant three times and while I wouldn't smoke around her, I still smoked (and drank) as much as I normally would, which is at most a few cigs/week.

Perhaps you should also gain 30 lbs for moral support.

 

[Gus]

This discussion reminds me of the advice my brother-in-law gave me in the early stages of my wife's pregnancy. He said, when those hormones start acting up, don't argue with them. Just say" I'm going down to the corner to pick up a pack of cigarettes" and then just get out of the house.