MMmmm...there is an obvious rejoinder (or two) to this but I think I will leave it alone.
If I can have a bit of a letter to-the-editor moment, I will say this modern usage of 'gay' by the youf of today annoys the crap out of me. I have this running battle with the young Selvaggi. "Gay' = lame, Daddy-o, they tell me (cue major eye-rolling), not "actually gay".
Yes, I say, have you thought about the origin of the term and how any of our friends who are, you know, like, "actually gay' might feel about this if they heard you saying this. But the kicker is when I say, what about your friends who are gay - don't you think it a bit insensitive (at the very least) to constantly label everything bad and daggy in the world as gay? (More eye-rolling). "not applicable" they say. Of course, they are wrong, they just don't know it yet.
So, Oli, I don't mean to put you down, I assume you are youngish and I will freely admit to being out of touch. I also assume, for benefit of the doubt, that like my daughters you don't actually dislike gay people and feel the need to put them down. But, when you use gay a lot in your posts I picture you as a teenage girl. We might also have members here who are "actually gay" and I am sure they must just grit their teeth when they hear or see the word gay used in this way. Just sayin.